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This needs to be said… white people always try to use MLK to shut down BLM or any thing retaining to the black Community . They only choose what part of Dr. Martin Luther King they want to use and they forget the rest of the history they came behind his struggle

Dancing around your room to music in the middle of the night is the ultimate form of self care

A week in a cat’s life

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Gather ‘round, friends! Class is in session!

(I hope this is the last time I have to make this post, honestly.)

Reasons why it’s okay to criticize or dislike Shannon that have nothing to do with Buddie:

❌ Spoke of her son as if he were a burden by making sure Eddie knew how much she suffered while raising Christopher alone.

❌ Believed her son must hate her because she “did this to him” (“made” him have CP), which is her way of saying that Christopher must not like who he is just because he has a disability.

❌ Sees Christopher’s condition as a sign that she did something wrong, aka she was punished for a mistake she must have made while pregnant.

❌ She thought she “could make up for it” by researching treatments and therapies - Again, viewed Christopher’s disability as a mistake she had to atone for/fix, rather than accept and embrace who he was.

❌ Found the time and effort required to get Christopher the help he needed “so overwhelming and exhausting” that she “needed a break”, thus prioritizing her feelings over those of her son, the disabled person who can never get a day off from the life he was given.

❌ Begged to see Christopher only to realize she still wasn’t committed to being the mother he deserved.

Reasons why it’s okay to criticize or dislike Ana that have nothing to do with Buddie:

❌ She was employed by an inclusive school, meaning disabled students are supposed to be treated the same as their able-bodied classmates in all aspects of education, yet when Christopher fell off the skateboard, she took it as a sign that he shouldn’t do it all because his limitations were insurmountable.

(We know this to be false because of the adaptive skateboard scene, so the takeaway is that she defines Christopher by what he can’t do rather than what he is capable of.)

❌ She views Christopher as a “very sensitive boy” so Eddie should be “cautious” about telling him they’re together.

Sensitivity is not a negative personality trait. It’s important to allow ourselves to feel. But in this context? Ana believes Christopher’s sensitivity is something that might cause a problem for Eddie if he doesn’t react the way they hope.

Referring to anybody as “very” or “too” sensitive is an attempt to dismiss or invalidate their reaction because it makes someone else uncomfortable.

No adult, especially not one that worked with children whose minds function “differently”, should ever say those words about a little boy.

losing a friend (for the one that got away) 1/3

part 2 , part 3

@frenchtoastlesbian //personalmessage.blogspot.com // @linguinereid // trista mateer // unknown // richard siken // ocean vuong “on earth we’re briefly gorgeous”// unknown // unknown

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A tumblr post by user frenchtoastlesbian, reading: losing people is so interesting because like. no i don’t want to speak to you ever again. yes i think about you on your birthday.

“The number of hours we have together is actually not so large. Please linger near the door uncomfortably instead of just leaving. Please forget your scarf in my life and come back later for it.”

A drawing of a book, with the words ‘it takes two to be a stranger’ on the cover.

A tumblr post by user linguinereid, reading: also today is my old best friends birthday (we just grew apart) and it’s so weird how you can go from talking every day to just sending a little “happy birthday! i hope this year treats you well!” to them. like i know everything about you, but also nothing.

I’d rather think of this / as a confession: / you are still the first person / I want to share new things with. 

Graffiti on a wall, reading: “If we ever stop talking.. Send me a song”

Sometimes you get so close to someone you end up on the other side of them. - Richard Siken, Editor’s page: the long and the short (...)

A tumblr post from memoryslandscape, reading: “I miss you more than I remember you.” - Ocean Vuong, from On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous (Penguin, 2019).

A handwritten note, reading: I always see stuff and think “oh you’d like this” / I hope that you see stuff and think that I would like them, too.

Maybe someday / we will be two /people meeting / again for the first time.

A tumblr post by coffeeacademia, reading: i find it so beautiful how we all read the same poetry and miss different people

A tumblr post by user frenchtoastlesbian, reading: losing people is so interesting because like. no i don’t want to speak to you ever again. yes i think about you on your birthday. / end of ID]

hey!! y'all! can we talk about how we're getting an explicitly Romantic Harlivy comic that's been written by a black, queer, autistic woman?? Like we've been begging for years for DC to let them to be written by an LGBT person and now we're getting exactly that and I'm not seeing anyone talk about it

this is her!!! ❤️ She's the one who's writing the Eat, Bang, Kill Tour comic

and she's been vocal on her Twitter and in interviews about the issue with ableist language in comics and how that won't be an issue in this one

Y'all should go show her some love 🥺❤️ homophobes have been flooding her mentions being bitchy about her "making them homosexuals" 🤡

Transcript of the thread on Twitter by user jenbrea:

You know, it’s taken me awhile to come to this realization, but dropping out of graduate school, losing your career, not having your intended children, and being bedridden for seven years because your neurologists fucked up is…kind of a big fucking deal.

It strikes me as an outcome that should maybe be…counted in aggregate statistics, and that people should be held accountable. Instead, it is 100% invisible to the medical system, the cost borne entirely by myself, my family, and our society. And there are MILLIONS of us.

I was reflecting on my Twitter feed and why I rail on about this. It occurred to me it’s because this (right now) is the only space where this reality can exist. If you counted us and there was accountability for medical fuck-ups/neglect/gaslighting/abuse etc., I’d have no need.

But right now, medicine is (one of the last) noble priesthoods, with all the self-awareness and accountability that noble priesthoods usually entail. (i.e., scant.) And yes, there are absolutely incredible doctors out there, but they are not the norm.

We need to stop automatically lionizing whole classes of people just because we are terrified of disability and death and want to believe in the magic/superiority/infallibility of our doctors or our medical systems (cough, NHS) and start to see things as they really are.

It is ugly, and by the time you get sick, it’s too late to start caring.

Our whole society has contributed to this: the med schools that use absolutely the wrong admissions criteria and curricula; the residency hazing; the shitty systems of rationing that oppress doctors and distort science and reality; the TV fairytales we tell about it all.

By “neurologists fucked up” I mean diagnosed you with hysteria rather than observing the patent abnormalities on your MRI, ordering additional testing, or doing fairly basic clinical exams and *believing the results.*

(No, their diagnostic algorithms do not train them to do this but they still have eyes and brains.)

I wonder how different my life might have been if rather than reach for the easy “nothing to see here” Get Out of Jail Free card, my doctors had kept working under the premise that I WAS SICK.

That truly only happens on TV. Most patients with most doctors get one, maybe two tests. If the answer isn’t blatantly obvious, you basically get kicked to the curb. True investigation and observation doesn’t really exist in modern medicine, not for the average patient.

I have no answers or solutions, but I know that it all starts with seeing the problem, which requires measurement, which is not going to be initiated from within the healthcare system itself. It also requires forcing the medical system to internalize the costs.

Sam Wilson & Bucky Barnes 

The MCU: 2014-2021