Sometimes You’ll Make Mistakes. You’ll Fall Into Old Patterns Again. What Matters Is That You Pull

cut grass and fresh laundry

morning and night

You before them🤍

spoiling myself with adorable victoria’s secret matching bra and panty sets, buying myself cute pink workout clothes cuz i deserve it, all with the money i earned and worked hard for <333

Ways to Check In with Yourself

What I personally use, and you could too. I check in with myself everyday.

1. Asking myself if there’s anything that’s bothering me at work

Sometimes I’m bothered by work I’ve been procrastinating about; or reaching out a contact I know I should’ve reached out to earlier. I then start making a list on my notes, making bullet points for each task.

Noting it down helps me visualise what I need to do, and ensuring that I get it done.

I do this by using prompts. I write these down in my notes app, I open them whenever I decide to check in with myself.

These are my work check- in questions:

A. Am I stressed at the moment?

B. If I am, why?

C. What do I need to do for myself right now?

D. Do I need someone else’s help for this?

E. If yes, who is that person?

F. What do I need to do today in order to end my day with a peaceful mind?

2. At social events - going to the bathroom alone to collect myself

Sometimes, at events, I’ll go to the bathroom for 5 minutes to regroup myself. I ask myself how I’m feeling and what I’m feeling… if I’m at a party, this is the point where I consider if I can drink* more or not/ sober up a bit. I also take the time to make a semi decent game plan.

A. How am I feeling?

B. Am I in a state where I can drink more?

C. When was the last time I drank water?

D. Am I hungry?

E. How am I getting home - do I have a cab booked, is someone going to drop me, am I going home by myself?

F. Do I want to leave right now or am I having a good time?

*I do not encourage minors drinking - please drink responsibly

3. Using this free app called How We Feel

I absolutely adore it. It helps you check in with your feelings, identify them, understand triggers and show you a different perspective on handling things.

Personally speaking, I’ve set the reminders to 3 times a day (morning, afternoon and evening) so that I can track myself better.

Cozy Christmas ⛄️❄️

between the trees & flowers

Repeat after me:

I am the woman of my own dreams. I require no validation. My wish is my command. My life is my own, I build it. My voice is my own, I let it be heard. I am relentless in my dedication to trusting myself. I am insatiable in my thirst for the extraordinary, and I do not settle for the mediocre.

Started dancing in the mornings while I make coffee again. I’ll be alright