We Mistakenly Assume People Who Choose To Live Alone Are Lonely When Actually They Have Rich Lives That

Ah, thoughts - they’re not so easy to control.

Henrik Ibsen, Hedda Gabler (via wordsnquotes)

I’ll chime in re: ppl mistyping as so blind recently

Are you ready for some grade a 8 core 4 fix so blind edge? Here we go.

I get it, I really do. On the internet, when we aren’t being cringey Reddit anime-villain-monologuong types, we ALMOST appear cool. Right? Not caring about followers, not caring about pissing people off, valuing the truth and saying the truth over being well liked or being comforting or being professional (wtf is being professional on the internet anyway… you know the types of people in this community I’m talking about)

But please remember that being so blind is actually extremely negative. It leads us to being really edgy irl too. It leads us to pointlessly driving people away; writing people off just because we “didn’t click”; disappearing without a trace; anime-villain-monolguing irl; did I mention being really fucking edgy; purposely starting problems; being “that guy” at parties whether it’s the person making negative comments unnecessarily, the person starting an argument with everyone, the person that leaves early and upset the person who threw the party… the list goes on.

it leads to being hated.

It leads to less employment opportunity because we hate networking regardless of our skill at it. It leads to being a social outcast. It leads to forming bad, codependent relationships or abusive ones because the people you “clicked with” were horrible but the chemistry was just too good to pass up when you go through life hating everyone and everything. It’s constant negativity (at least to people with so).

And most people aren’t comfortable with being hated and being an outcast. And that’s a good thing, because while so blinds are needed in a lot of areas requiring impartiality, being “ok” with being disliked, and cloistering oneself off from society (academia, the government, etc) most jobs, most opportunities, most LIVES do not revolve around that.

Take that attitude you see from us online and begin to apply it to irl circumstances. Think about how many people we drive away. Think about all the opportunities we miss, usually on purpose. Think about the generally rather crushing sense of loneliness any social variant might feel in our circumstances.

This isn’t something to pretend to be or to aspire to be. This is a special kind of personal hell– one that so blinds don’t mind, or even LIKE, but hell all the same.

There are prices to be paid for being so blind constantly, for saying what people don’t want to hear, for challenging convention or simply just not going along with it… why would you want that when it doesn’t have to be that way for you?

So blinds are, yeah, that istp antivillain in the trenchcoat sitting in the corner at a party reading philosophy. Or your really cool eccentric professor that wears weird ties and likes his job way too much. But so blinds are also the type to become terrorists, school shooters, and cult leaders.

Don’t just look at the positives. Realize that each positive of every blindspot comes with many negatives, so blind included.

ENTP Paradox

The most stubborn open-minded people you’ll find.

Enneagram - Integration and Disintegration Points Explained

Type 1: Ones are perfectionists in every way. Because of this perfectionism, they cannot enjoy their lives. However, the one believes achieving perfection would bring them joy. Thus, once they realize that joy cannot be found in perfection, they integrate to seven. When they keep denying themselves that joy, however, they get moody and depressed, like fours. Thus, they disintegrate to four. Type 2: Twos want to help everybody. However what they really want is acceptance, like a four does. Once they realize that they are loved and accepted, they integrate to four. However, when they do not realize that, they get manipulative and want to be repaid as evidence that they are appreciated and loved. Thus, they crave power in people’s lives, and disintegrate to eight. Type 3: Threes want to be successful and work hard toward that success. However, what they really want is security. Success allows them to be secure in both their self-image and in their wallet. Thus, when those needs are met, they integrate to six. When they cannot get their success, they begin to lose hope and become listless. Thus, they disintegrate to nine. Type 4: Fours want to make a mark on the world. They want to be accepted as individuals and express their individuality. Doing this is their form of perfection. Once the individual is perfected, they integrate to one. However, if they fail in their goal, they start seeking approval. Thus, they disintegrate to two. Type 5: Fives have a thirst for knowledge. They want this knowledge so that they may understand the world so they may have a sense of control. Once they feel that they have control over their environment, they integrate to eight. If this goal cannot be met, they get worrisome and panicky. Thus, they disintegrate to seven. Type 6: Sixes want security and safeness overall. Being safe gives them peace of mind. Thus, they integrate at nine. When they cannot get this security, they may lash out, getting competitive and arrogant, especially if counterphobic. However, this lashing out is only an expression of their inner struggle with accepting or rejecting authority. Thus, they disintegrate at three. Type 7: Sevens crave fun and variety. They love taking in a variety of experiences. What they really want, however, is focus and fulfilment. Once they get that, they integrate at five. When they can’t get that focus, they criticize themselves for not meeting their expectations. Thus, they disintegrate at one. Type 8: Eights want to be in power and have control. That way, they can protect themselves. Once they are able to protect themselves, they can focus on helping others. Eights really do want to help others, but they want to lead them. Thus, when not feeling threatened, they integrate at two. When they feel that their power is slipping, however, they get anxious and want that control back. Thus, they disintegrate at five. Type 9: Nines want inner peace. However, their sense of self is lacking, and that’s part another part of what they aspire to me. Once they can realize who they are and what they want, they start to assert themselves and achieve what they want. Thus, they integrate at three. When their inner peace is disturbed, they get anxious and seek security so that their peace may be restored. Thus, they disintegrate at six.

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MBTI Stereotypes and Descriptions vs Reality: ENTP

Part of a series with @itsme-isfp

Type Description:

“The ENTP personality type is the ultimate devil’s advocate, thriving on the process of shredding arguments and beliefs and letting the ribbons drift in the wind for all to see. Unlike their more determined Judging (J) counterparts, ENTPs don’t do this because they are trying to achieve some deeper purpose or strategic goal, but for the simple reason that it’s fun. No one loves the process of mental sparring more than ENTPs, as it gives them a chance to exercise their effortlessly quick wit, broad accumulated knowledge base, and capacity for connecting disparate ideas to prove their points. ENTPs’ intelligence, curiosity and sound reasoning skills are a force to be reckoned with. ENTPs will always be able to find just the right argument, the weakest chink in their opponent’s armor, or the way out of a seemingly hopeless situation. Their fearsome debate skills and impressive knowledge allow ENTPs to overcome many challenges.”

Tumblr:

Sassy meme queen with no motivation to do anything with their lives…other than shitpost or roast people online for no good reason.

Reality:

Prefers to sit back and analyze a conversation before jumping in with a witty comment or idea - provided they find the conversation interesting.  Does play the devil’s advocate, but does it more so to explore the topic from all sides more so than to start a fight…although will poke your buttons every now and then to see how you’ll react.  Able to figure you out in minutes but is still a little clueless when you get emotional.  Doesn’t really want to offend you, but will try to cover it up as intentional if they’re not sure how to make amends.  Will say or do silly shit just to make you laugh. Has no style.

Disobedience, in the eyes of anyone who has read history, is man’s original virtue. It is through disobedience that progress has been made, through disobedience and through rebellion.

Oscar Wilde  (via entp-mess)

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