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Finding a needle in a haystack isn’t that hard if you’ve got a lighter.

You know you're an ENTP when #21

doing really ridiculous/or dangerous things just provide great story material for later.

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TBH ENTP #110

I take every opportunity to insert lyrics into normal conversation because sOMEBODY ONCE TOLD ME…

This hit me hard. I currently don't understand why am i feeling what i feel right now it sucks

Things the Types Need to Hear

ESFP: Look, I get it, you leave people in the dust because you know how crazy and all over the place your life can be and you’re also crazy scared to let somebody in just to have it end up with you accidentally leaving them and both of you getting hurt, but emotional intimacy and real depth in friendships are 100% worth it in the end and it’s the struggle and fight of a lifetime to keep them in your life, but it’s also the greatest gift and you can’t keep denying yourself that intimacy and friendship. 

ISFP: I know you have a lot of great desires and wonderful dreams and they might seem too far off and too crazy and too beautiful to come true, but you have them for a reason, and you gotta stop paralyzing yourself with fear and take that first step and throw yourself into the unknown, and that’s the scariest part, I know, but we both know you’re braver than you look, and that your passion can make it happen. 

ENFP: I know that the moment you hit an obstacle or two when you first start working towards that far off dream, it’s scary and it makes you want to crumble and run away to a new thing like you think you always do, but don’t! You’re miles more tenacious and capable than you give yourself credit for and you’ve got to discipline yourself and trust that your talents and optimism can and will propel you through whatever is keeping you from your goals. 

INFP: I know it’s hard to feel understood and it’s easy to let yourself become bitter by the ways of the world or whatever’s happening, but closing yourself off to others isn’t going to save you the pain. You have a natural capacity to understand others that’s hard for the other types to grasp and when you stop yourself from using that talent, or use it for selfish reasons, you’re doing yourself a massive injustice. 

ESTP: Listen, I totally get that the world is full of fun and interesting things and you want to experience them all, but you’ve got to remember that for a lot of the people that come along with you, they’re there to experience YOU as much as they’re there for the thing itself. Don’t let yourself forget that half the fun of anything is who you’re doing it with. 

ISTP: I know you generally don’t mean to yell or be rude when your irritated and that it’s really just a passing thing and you don’t generally care all that much, but just apologize to people after you’ve calmed down! Explain it to them and that you don’t mean it! Admit to yourself that you care enough about them to try to make amends, even when you’re just being a little crotchety; it means a lot to the feelers lol. 

ENTP: You’re a genuinely fun person to be around and you usually rack up a reputation for that, but just because you’re funny and witty and damn smart doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings and problems that need to be externalized, and trust me, the right people will be more than willing to talk about what’s really happening in your life one minute and go back to elaborate jokes the next without a problem. Don’t stunt your emotional growth for the sake of brevity. 

INTP: It’s okay to not know what to do in an emotional situation. Like, it’s genuinely okay. If somebody’s opening up to you, half the time your presence and you listening is 95% of what they need in that moment. Don’t avoid the situations just because it causes writer’s block emotionally. Emotional availability comes with experience. You’ll learn. Just, be your goofy self and the rest will come with time. 

ENFJ: You’ve got to realize that although holding yourself to such a high standard is noble and praiseworthy, that it sometimes eclipses your ability to be a good friend when that was the goal in the first place. You’re human and can’t do everything for your friends that you’d want to be able to do when they need help, and profusely apologizing and beating yourself up for it just shifts the focus off of helping your friend and turns it to you. Accept your humanity, and just do what you can. They appreciate the help, I promise. 

INFJ: I know you have a tendency to feel misunderstood and want people to show you that they love you and care about you, but you don’t get to say you’re fine AND disappear on people. Either say you’re not okay and pull back, or say you’re okay and stick around long enough for somebody to see through the BS. In my experience, y'all have a habit of making things a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that doesn’t do you any good! Be forward, be honest, and just be vulnerable; they care more than you convince yourself they do. 

ESFJ: I need to be straight with y'all. Learn how to talk about something other than your 4-5 current fixations. In my experience, N’s have a crazy hard time being close with you because you keep bringing the topic back to one of your current Favorite Things™, whether it be the semester abroad you just got back from or the first date that’s scheduled for two weeks from now. Expand your area of interest and you’ll find people will be much more authentic with you. 

ISFJ: You have this really amazing ability to notice the small things about people and that helps you show them you care about them in these really great and meaningful ways, but you can’t let yourself overthink the small things you notice about people. One of my good ISFJ friends started poking around trying to see if alcoholism ran in my family after noticing I’d been drinking wine a lot recently. You might have an intention to help, but overthinking/overanalyzing like that and trying to involve yourself in helping can hurt your friendships. 

ESTJ: Your presence is powerful and intense and that’s great at times, but you’ve got to let out your goofy fun side more, and hoe we’ve all seen it before, you’re a damn riot after a beer or two. People, in general, care more about fun than having every plan go right during the night/event. Be willing to be fun more, you’re so good at it. 

ISTJ: I know you get frustrated with yourself because you want to do new things and get out there and be a fun person, but the thing is, you’re so much better at being a responsible, caring person. Befriend the chaotic, crazy, lovable rascals and let them bring the fun to you (or more often than not, drag you kicking and screaming to where the fun is). 

ENTJ: Look, I’m an INTJ, so I know how hard this is to swallow, but showing you care about a person sometimes isn’t so much giving them solutions to their problems or trying to correct an issue; a lot of the other types literally just want you to listen and hear them out. And you gotta do that sometimes, babe. And shut your damn mouth while they’re telling you everything, okay? Just. Let them finish. 

INTJ: For the love of all that is holy, just cry already. Cry alone if you have to, or better yet, just go to the person you’d literally murder a thousand people for and freakin’ cry about all the crap you’ve been bottling up for the past two months and accept that you can have razor-sharp rationale and be a damn human at the same time. And just admit that you’re insecure about your relationship with that person because you care about them so much and you’re not the best at trusting people.

The real glo up is when you stop waiting to turn into some perfect hypothetical version of yourself and consciously enjoy being who you are in the present moment.

10 things ENTPs want you to know about them (us):

1. We are sense makers. We try and make sense of things. We do this all the time and we do it by making connections between bits and pieces of information relating to things we saw, heard, read, etc. that we most have at our disposal.

2. We understand that the world is complex, people are complex, their problems are complex, their feelings are complex, and their ideas are certainly complex. We work very hard to break down those complexities into something that is easier for us to understand and explain to others. Unfortunately, sometimes it comes off as obnoxious.

3. We can be very social and outgoing, however, underneath that friendly exterior is an often misunderstood (not so much MIS-understood more like NOT understood) person longing to find someone who sees through (transparently through) us and realizes that we too are complex (very complex).

4. We try and make the world a better place by concocting big ideas. Nothing makes us happier than sharing those ideas with others (many, few, or just one person).

5. We see potential in lots and lots of things (not everything, but lots) and can sometimes get lost by all the paths we could follow. Making us commit to one path or another, whether a relationship, a career, a place to live, is NOT easy. It takes a special person, job, location, for us to close the door on all other possibilities. We just might, in due time.

6. Just because we are thinkers doesn’t mean we don’t have feelings. We do. Lots of them. But, most times, those feelings are pushed aside. We push them aside. For us to actually delve into our own feelings and deal with them is to enter a world we are mostly unaware of (and unfamiliar with). It can be a bit scary for us.

7. To further the previous point, unlike our own feelings, we are somewhat insightful about other people’s feelings (at least more than our own). As thinkers, we tend to dissect, analyze, and communicate our thoughts about those feelings from a logical standpoint.

8. Because of our ability to see lots of different perspectives, we are fairly good at interacting with different kinds of people including children. We can intuitively understand children particularly if we can adapt ourselves to their way of seeing things. (Disclaimer: I myself am not a parent; any input by parents would be appreciated.)

9. We have big hearts, but… we are protective of them because we know the consequences of being vulnerable. So for us to commit and open up to someone means that we fully trust that person and believe that he or she will not hurt us. If they do hurt us, it means to us that our intuition was wrong. It would be very hard if not impossible to regain that trust again.

10. MBTI is a really insightful tool for ENTPs because it helps us make sense of things we otherwise might not have understood. It helps us relate to INFJs who are otherwise a big (huge) mystery to us. But also people in our everyday lives (especially those we otherwise butt heads with). Once discovering MBTI, we probably got really (really) excited and ran around telling everyone we know about it, explaining all the conceptual nuances of it, typing people and explaining to them how this theory plays out in their lives. After all, we’re just trying to help them out. Let’s just hope they thought so too

Greek Gods as MBTI Types

ESTJ - Ares ISTJ - Hades ESTP - Zeus ISTP - Artemis ESFJ - Hera ISFJ - Hestia ESFP - Aphrodite ISFP - Hephaestus ENTJ - Poseidon INTJ - Athena ENTP - Hermes INTP - Prometheus ENFJ - Demeter INFJ - Apollo ENFP - Dionysus INFP - Persephone

An ENTP's Late Night Thoughts

Existential crisis, self-discovery, whatever you wanna call it, here’s my thing:

ENTPs are like motivated hippies. We wanna go with the flow–with every single thing–but at the same time we want to try NEW things everyday and all the time, so we PUSH ourselves to do those things. We break rules, break records, blow minds…we have to always be doing and thinking up something new.

ENTPs don’t have Fi, but our suuuuperbly HIDDEN values mean the world to us. We may not give a damn about a single thing on this planet but oNE and that ONE THING can destroy us SOOO easily. For some of us its religion, for some it’s a lover, for some it’s self-image/ego…whatever it is, it keeps us secretly grounded amidst our ever-changing persona. Without it, we are no one (because we try to be everything.)

ENTPs, although it’s antithetical, feel insecure about how other people see them. It’s tertiary Fe. You’ll hear us say things like, “I don’t care what they think! F*ck them!” But deep, deep down, it’s a lie. You have to think of it like this: truly smart people don’t have to say they’re smart, truly gifted people don’t have to say they’re gifted; SO people who truly aren’t worried about what people think of them don’t say they’re not worried about what people think of them.

And this leads me to… ENTPs are actually pretty antithetical people overall. I mean, other types say they’re living contradictions, but we really ARE. While we parade around saying we live in the moment, bad hair don’t care, say we’re smart and we know it…simultaneously we have well-thought out futures, we do care what you think of us (as aforementioned), and we struggle to be seen as smart by everyone since we, like INTPs, DO second guess ourselves a lot. We just don’t show it, and that in itself creates the contradiction. We ARE the ultimate devil’s advocate for this reason.

All in all: ENTPs live through the “masks” that we wear to the world, except the “masks” are hardly masks at all; each one is a part of our identity. Whoever we decide to be today is a part of who we are and a part of our growth as a human being, because seeing the world through different perspectives is a GREAT learning process.

And all that is what you have to deal with when you’re close to an ENTP, or are one for that matter.

me: walks into living room tv: tonight on how its made me: stands in same spot for 30 minutes watching how garbage bags are made

The justification of art is the internal combustion it ignites in the hearts of men and not its shallow, externalized, public manifestations. The purpose of art is not the release of a momentary ejection of adrenaline but is, rather, the gradual, lifelong construction of a state of wonder and serenity.

Glenn Gould (via entp-mess)