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I faced the doctor and talked through what I emailed her: my wife and I are happy with my cock as long as I don’t orgasm. I wasn’t asking for Viagra. I clearly didn’t need it. I wasn’t asking to be numbed to correct premature ejaculation. My wife preferred me on edge. I asked… I asked to be kept indefinitely teased and denied. “Please, tell me it’s ok… that my wife won’t harm me by keeping my balls brimming full.” 

I got my answer. “She doesn’t need to worry; You never need to cum.”

She gave me what I needed. Not a prescription: but assurance and support… Encouragement!

I told her I don’t get to cum and I worried my swollen heavy balls would burst. She corrected me. Those slow spills I described are good enough to keep me healthy. I can just pour out gently. I don’t need to twitch. My balls won’t burst. This won’t break me. I can be kept brimming with cream. Gushing a little.

She let me embrace the ache. She let me face endless denial. I don’t need to worry. My wife is taking good care of me. It’s ok. I don’t need to cum. She let me keep this vibrant energy.

She beheld my thick and warm cock, half hard dripping with precum. She saw I was perfectly healthy. There’s nothing to fix. She asked if I was in pain as she prodded and pinched my heavy balls. I was not. They were healthy… just swollen from constant arousal. She saw I was quietly simmering in denial.

She didn’t pry as to what we did in the bedroom, since I was such a drippy eager mess. Maybe it was obvious. Maybe she saw my PA piercing, and how “unstable” my cock was out of its cage. Maybe she saw telltale marks of long term chastity, and how I kept shaved.

Maybe she imagined I fuck my wife with a Vixskin cock… like @denial-permanente. It was clear that I couldn’t last. I was trying so hard not to get a full erection. It was clear my wife kept me with no stamina. I was vulnerable.

Tom and his wife have me imagining the good doctor recommending platinum-silicone cocks and 316L stainless-steel chastity to cure erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. No penis pumps. No Viagra. No delay sprays. And an offer of a titanium cage in following years if you’re really committed for the long term…

It’s simple. If you want him to have vibrant sexual energy, just keep him caged and stay hard. Masturbation and orgasm denial works. It’s a gift… You can please your wife with your new platinum grade silicone cock. And harness all that energy into fulfilling her.

But then, I’m imagining my own situation… where I sheepishly admit my wife doesn’t want that. Maybe I admit, while trying to hide my sadness, that she told me my cock doesn’t give her any intrinsic pleasure. And perhaps I’m buoyed that she simply doesn’t want to be penetrated by anyone. It’s not just me. It’s not because I’m lacking.

And then the good kind and empathetic doctor; who assured me I never need relief for endless tease and denial…. Perhaps that good woman would tell me it’s ok, many women don’t get pleasure from penetration. As a urologist she sees many men that can’t get erect, and many couples have wonderful sex loved without penetration. I’m special, my erections are stifled in a cage. It’s not dysfunction, just denial. Men chasing orgasms isn’t healthy. It’s better if I let go, and just enjoy life without climaxes. Without fucking.

Without that delicious feeling of your pink glistening glans penetrating and dragging. And that tingling along your underside and the pressure on your magic spot bringing you close… to the explosion of massive full body convulsions. Thrusting, panting, screaming from pleasure. Uncontrollable clenching and twitching. Wide eyed disbelief during the climax. And then the crushing relaxation and feeling limp and spent. Fuck. I still remember it.

No. You don’t need to cum. You want to stay denied. You chose this because it makes her happy.

It was clear what I gave up. No question. My wife teases and denies me so I stay hard and aroused.

- Do I need to worry how long I’m denied orgasms? NO.

- Should we really be concerned about my aching blue balls? NO.

- Will I burst? NO.

- Can you give me a minimum schedule to cum or get milked? NO.

I asked. I got answers. Clear, unarguable, and inescapable facts. I can stay denied indefinitely.

I was still struggling with all this.

@nice-predator assured me:

“You’re stuck in a cage for the greater good. You truly seem to thrive with denial.

It works because you respond so well and strongly to it. The end justifies the means.

This works precisely because of your relationship with your cock. If you were less fond of it and of its capacities, it would not be the same effect at all. It’s necessary to control it. I have seen the results and I agree with the experiment’s conclusions. The cage is best for you.”

She is a good friend, and knows me too well for my own sanity. But she essentially prescribed me chastity and denial. I’m reading that and imagining if the good doctor would have agreed, I had been brave enough to be open about wearing chastity.

We then discussed the wisdom permanence and truly letting go:

“At this point, I'm definitely leaning towards no full climaxes. Full chastity and edging are yielding better results. Orgasms disrupt your progress.

Then again, maybe some of that disruption is a good thing in terms of causing a certain disorientation. Basically, I think that any (IF any) orgasms should not be a reward or service but a further mindfuck. ... I can't decide whether a full orgasm is a good idea anymore either.

But your wife might take orgasms off the table altogether.”

I shuddered and let out a whine at that. She was kind to relent, not push so deep, and pulled back from never again.

“Probably not 100%, but only extremely rarely just for the sake of you not having complete certainty of the future.

Seems like her style at this point. After years of seeing the patterns and trials, I feel that this is the correct conclusion. I'm hard-pressed to think of what a better alternative would be.”

Going back to my yearning to fuck and give pleasure with my cock we went on…

“I know it is an enormous adjustment to make in your mind, and I absolutely get why it is such a struggle. But I also totally understand why she has little interest in the way you feel your cock's best features are. She loves and wants your cock, in the way she is using it right now.

Caged and denied.

I wonder if part of what is so difficult- and possibly a bit painful to your feelings as well- is to accept that what men think their cocks are doing for women is HUGELY misguided for probably a solid 80% of women. The straight truth is that being pounded by cock is simply not intense or 'orgasmic' for the vast majority of vaginas. *Vaginas have a dearth of nerves* once you're past the 0.5 to 1 inch of labia that packs them in. They have evolved to take a gruesome beating (for birth) with minimal pain or damage. No matter how big or vigourous a dick gets, the sensation isn't all that intense physically to most women (there are always exceptions of course). Most women also *cannot* orgasm from penetration alone, end of story. Faking that particular orgasm is the norm, not the exception. Sorry this sounds like unnecessary ob-gyn rambling lol .. but I feel it's important for it to drill my next point in (have it *penetrate* as it were haha 😜):

Most women get the INTENSE joy of being penetrated from the peripheral factors of it, not the dicking itself: The psychological closeness and intimacy, the intrusion (if they are more submissive), their partner's enthusiasm and own intensity if they love it, the fact that they feel this viscerally needed by a man.. THAT's the real appeal.

Now your wife is getting all of those and them some *by keeping your cock locked up*. So while you wish that she'd want your dick a bit more, my question is: Why? She HAS your dick. It is doing all the very best job a dick CAN do: It's making you pliant, needy, gushy, attentive and fun. It's driving you crazy. Your desire and your wife are constantly on your mind. This is the penetration that matters to her.

So basically, what I'm saying is that you are framing this as a lack of her interest in your cock and what YOU know it can do (which I do not blame and sympathize with, don't get me wrong). She has great interest in your cock, that's why she is keeping him where it does its absolute most intense work for HER, by fucking your mind constantly and permanently.

I mean I'm sitting here typing this and keep shaking my head at how accurately and fully she is wielding this chastity thing. She is mastering it; you got signed up and training for the big leagues, that's what's going on. That's why it's hard.”

And here I am…

How long can I get locked in chastity for? Every reblog will add 1 day in pillory and every like will add 6 hours in pillory. I will keep all my followers updated on how long I’m locked for. Can we lock me up permanently? Let’s try

Someday maybe I will decorate one for my beloved

I'm seeking for a serious slave

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