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How to Open Up Your Husbands Ass.

A few years ago I could only get a 2 inch wide dildo up inside my husband’s ass hole. I had just bought him a new smaller chastity cage with a new thimble type dick head cap lined with spikes. The dick head cover doesn’t allow for any finger massage of his dick head and the spikes lining it don’t allow any unauthorized erections. Basically his 2 inch dick was made even more useless. But any self respecting chaste pussy slave husband should be able to take at least a 3 inch wide plug up his ass. I couldn’t get one wider than 2 inches to fit up his ass no matter how hard I pushed. He always squirmed away and cried. I couldn’t have the other Doms bragging about how big a plug would fit up inside their slaves. What was I to do? A friend of mine told me what to do. I let my husband open his own asshole. One Saturday I had a friend come over. My husband was naked as usual except for his tiny painful cage. I had his hands cuffed behind him. The poor thing thought maybe I was going to take off his cage and edge him or let him come. (He hadn’t come in at least a month then) My friend brought in a special chair that was wood, straight back, no arms, had a ring in the seat, and a special rubber plug that fit into the seat behind the ring. The plug was a big tapered evil looking thing that was at least 8 or 9 inches long but flared out to nearly 3 ½ inches wide near the base but then back down to an inch or so. She also had some more ankle cuffs and chains. We set it down in the bedroom but my husband had already figured out what it was. He started begging and crying and trying to get away from us.  I had thankfully earlier put a leash on his balls and was holding the other end. A hard pull on the leash put a stop to his leaving. We set the chair up in the bedroom. She called it an asshole trainer. We put the well greased plug in the middle of the chair on a shot post, put my husband squating over the plug with it in his ass a few inches, his hands now cuffed to the legs. his ankles cuffed to the legs too. A very short chain hooked to his balls to the ring in the seat so he couldn’t raise up any. Poor baby, we had to gag him with a ball gag. How long could he stand holding his ass off  of the seat? In order to sit down and get relief on his legs he would have to slowly lower his ass on to the giant plug. Did you know that a man’s ass hole will stretch out nicely if he puts his mind to it?  We found that out. My female friend and I laid on the the bed naked, enjoying each others pussies, while we watched just how long it took for my husband to sit down comfortably. He sure grunted, sweated, and moaned a lot but after about 2 hours he made a little shake and a loud grunt, and he was comfortably seated all the way in the chair with the plug securely fitting all the way up his ass. I think he enjoyed it too because his little caged dick was swollen and tight up against the spikes in the tip of his cage. We let him enjoy his seat for a while, and the pain in his dick head while we had drinks and another go at eating each others pussies. I really had to pull later to get the plug out of him but after that day I’m happy to say that he could be easily fist fucked up the ass like the other caged slaves. What a wonderful training aid and a nice day. It’s nice to have good friends.

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Just to clarify

In BDSM there are three separate forms of power exchange. In no particular order:

Sadism & Masochism

Topping & Bottoming

Domination & Submission

Sadism & Masochism is the exchange of power through pain. Spanking, flogging, whipping, caning, CBT, nipple torture, even rough sex. Like feeling a little pain with your pleasure? You’re a masochist. Does making someone hurt bring you pleasure? You’re a sadist. Can you be both? Absolutely. I think most of us are, in subtle ways. (My Domme pointed out it was rather sadistic of me to tease my dog with a treat to make him do cute tricks.)

Topping & Bottoming is the exchange of power through sex. One of you is in control of the situation, whether it’s just for this roll in the hay, or every single time with your partner. That person is topping. The passive, or controlled one is bottoming. So if it’s being held down or tied up during sex, or begging for an orgasm, or edging someone until they cry… that is sexual power exchange. Can you be a top and a bottom? Oh, yes, you can. You can even do it in the same romp, if that’s what works for you and your partner.

Domination & Submission is the exchange of power through emotions and intimacy. D/s (the shorthand for this) is about rules, structure, discipline, and protocol. And that can be as intense as a 24/7 Master/slave relationship, or as simple as calling your husband ‘Sir’ or ‘Daddy’ because he said so. In between is a WORLD of amazing ways to exchange power mentally.

Rules are set in place with a purpose -not just because they’re sexy. Rules are things like: Check in via text when you leave work (so I know you’re on the road and shouldn’t text). Send a photo of your outfit every morning (so I can see how beautiful you look today, and compliment you). Work out four times a week (because I want to help you stay healthy).

Protocols are similar, they are standards of behavior, such as the way you talk to and address your partner, hand them a drink, carry yourself when others are around, or present yourself to them in varying situations. Protocols are brilliant for reinforcing the D/s dynamic. Broadly speaking, you’re not often reminded of protocols unless you misstep. So something as simple as remembering to stand to your girlfriend’s left and wait quietly if she’s talking to someone at a party can reinforce your submission to her.

Discipline is about reinforcing the dynamic and enforcing rules and protocols. Mistakes are made, rules forgotten. We’re all human. That is when discipline comes in. The transgression is addressed, punishment handed out, and then the slate is wiped clean. Add in some affection after the fact and you’ve just reinforced everything you are working towards together. The intimacy required for this is pretty damn intense, and it’s important to know each other well before diving in.

Structure is key in a D/s dynamic, because without consistency, it can all fall apart. Rules that aren’t enforced are unlikely to be followed. A Dom who allows his sub to get away with everything isn’t likely to keep the respect he has earned. And respect and reverence are part and parcel of the whole kneeling thing. Likewise, a submissive who is constantly fighting the rules she agreed to isn’t respecting the dynamic, and isn’t doing her part to make it work. D/s is a lot of work for both partners, and isn’t something to be jumped into too quickly or taken lightly.

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Now, to review, you can mix and match the forms of power exchange however suits you and your partner(s). And it is often different from one partner to the next. Some people fit the classic roles of Dom/Top/Sadist and Sub/Bottom/Masochist. Some people switch between sadism and masochism, while always remaining a Dom and top. Some people switch between topping and bottoming. Do you see the point I’m getting at here?

You can be any combination of those six roles in any given relationship, and that includes NOT being one of them, even when, traditionally, the others may apply.

Wanting to be in control in the bedroom does NOT automatically make you a Dom. (Say it again for the fuckboys in the back.)

Enjoying rough sex and spanking does NOT automatically make you a sub.

And you can very well be a Dom who doesn’t physically punish his sub or enjoy rough sex. And you can easily be a submissive who does not get spanked.

The definition of these terms is much broader than my summary, and will differ from person to person. Don’t pigeonhole yourself by feeling you need to adhere to a stereotypical definition of any of these terms or roles.

And if you feel I missed something, and it’s possible I did, as this is based entirely on my reading and experiences in my local community, let’s talk about it.

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I wrote the doctor, and she agreed to see me, and answer my questions about orgasm denial. I started “arguing” my wife’s twitch-free slow-pour perfectly ruined orgasms weren’t enough….

She interrupted me.

She cut me off before I went too far. I felt I needed big spurty climaxes for some reason. I felt my balls might burst from so much teasing.

But she didn’t let me argue, or begging to equivocate by avoiding committing myself to chastity and orgasm denial. Not after revealing myself to her in writing.

I had been so clear in my email. Her face lifted when she realized who I was. She said “Oh! You’re my email guy!” Months of caged denial had made me brave. I was excited to go through with this, bolstered by 93 days of orgasm denial.

I had been so intent in owning my chastity, and meeting my 3 month goal, that I wore it to a dermatology exam two weeks prior. The doctor pulled down my underwear. His nurse watched the stainless steel shine in the bright light as she took down notes, not two feet from my hip. And one week prior I had my first massage, completely nude except for the cage, and the linen draped over me. So I was really keyed up when I met her.

She stopped me mid-sentence. She halted me when I tried to distinguish those tortuously slow pours from “ejaculations”.

She told me “No.” I don’t need to cum. She softened after making this clear. She understood why, as a guy, I thought my orgasms are important. Her face lit up again as she explained exactly what a big dramatic male orgasm entailed. She described them in long drawn out detail… all the steps. How the balls rise up. Get tight. And how very good it feels to clench and spurt. She knew this is what I was denied.

She was empathetic. But she also knew what I craved to hear: I never need to cum. I just want to. My balls may ache, but I can be kept wanting.

No, she said with a smile.

She gave me warm support and praise. She was so proud that we were so well informed. I already had the answer. It was in my email. Essentially, I had asked her permission to stay denied. I asked her permission for my wife to keep teasing me, and let my balls stay swollen, and my creampot brim with cum.

It was so clear.

It was so clear my wife was in charge. That she controlled my orgasms. I mentioned my wife repeatedly in my email. I said “we” to ensure she knew this was consensual. But I didn’t put it on my wife. I gave all the signals, practically begging her to tell it’s ok.

It’s ok. You don’t need to cum. Your balls won’t burst.

I told her I was kept aroused and I worried the vasectomy she’d give me would interrupt our life or tease and denial. She assured me that I’d be ok. Getting snipped and clipped wouldn’t interrupt my wife’s enjoyment of my constant frustration.

It’s ok. She’s take care of me and I’d be ok.

She already knew.

Seeing my balls so heavy and swollen showed I was real. She saw how I lived, in constant arousal. My cock was not shriveled and small. I had a nice warm squishy but firm chubby. My glans was pink and delicate and exposed.

She could see the wide piercing hole. The piercing that marked me as owned, and secures me in my chastity.

Precum had soaked my underwear. I had gushed a little when she explained everything to me. She had me squrming in my seat. I was wet, glistening and slick.

I tried so hard to be a good boy. She told me to pull my pants down further. They were at my ankles as I put my hands behind my back. I stood at attention with gaze averted and unfocused.

She knew. She approved. She praised me and my wife, and provided encouragement, not caution. Orgasm denial won’t harm me. My wife can keep me denied, and mercilessly teased.

If I wanted to get a doctors note for an orgasm, then I failed miserably. But she could read me. I wanted her approval. I drank in her encouragement. I was completely submissive and she hit my praise kink so hard, she made me gush.

I left, shaken. Relieved but quivering. I was making my next appointment when her nurse came out to meet me, with a smirk on her face. There was no reason for her nurse to see me again.

This smirking redheaded nurse had asked my doctor to confirm. She had seen the email printed in my chart, or earlier. My email tried to keep professional, but it was so obvious that my wife kept me in chastity and denial.

They both knew.

She came out for no reason except to tell me it’s ok. And to smile at me. She knew my wife is in charge, and put her hand on my shoulder.

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If I had showed her the chastity cage, or wore it for the exam, I risked her disapproval or warning about erectile function. I chose not to risk that. It doesn’t matter though. I could have been on the honor system. But the piercing, and maybe even the tell tale signs of long term chastity wear, made it obvious. The effect is the same. I was submissive and simmering in my denial.

I was a good boy, and why would they give me anything but encouragement? The praise got to me. “It’s ok. Don’t worry. I know. Your wife’s in charge” with a huge smile. “You don’t need to cum. You won’t burst”

I faced the doctor and talked through what I emailed her: my wife and I are happy with my cock as long as I don’t orgasm. I wasn’t asking for Viagra. I clearly didn’t need it. I wasn’t asking to be numbed to correct premature ejaculation. My wife preferred me on edge. I asked… I asked to be kept indefinitely teased and denied. “Please, tell me it’s ok… that my wife won’t harm me by keeping my balls brimming full.” 

I got my answer. “She doesn’t need to worry; You never need to cum.”

She gave me what I needed. Not a prescription: but assurance and support… Encouragement!

I told her I don’t get to cum and I worried my swollen heavy balls would burst. She corrected me. Those slow spills I described are good enough to keep me healthy. I can just pour out gently. I don’t need to twitch. My balls won’t burst. This won’t break me. I can be kept brimming with cream. Gushing a little.

She let me embrace the ache. She let me face endless denial. I don’t need to worry. My wife is taking good care of me. It’s ok. I don’t need to cum. She let me keep this vibrant energy.

She beheld my thick and warm cock, half hard dripping with precum. She saw I was perfectly healthy. There’s nothing to fix. She asked if I was in pain as she prodded and pinched my heavy balls. I was not. They were healthy… just swollen from constant arousal. She saw I was quietly simmering in denial.

She didn’t pry as to what we did in the bedroom, since I was such a drippy eager mess. Maybe it was obvious. Maybe she saw my PA piercing, and how “unstable” my cock was out of its cage. Maybe she saw telltale marks of long term chastity, and how I kept shaved.

Maybe she imagined I fuck my wife with a Vixskin cock… like @denial-permanente. It was clear that I couldn’t last. I was trying so hard not to get a full erection. It was clear my wife kept me with no stamina. I was vulnerable.

Tom and his wife have me imagining the good doctor recommending platinum-silicone cocks and 316L stainless-steel chastity to cure erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. No penis pumps. No Viagra. No delay sprays. And an offer of a titanium cage in following years if you’re really committed for the long term…

It’s simple. If you want him to have vibrant sexual energy, just keep him caged and stay hard. Masturbation and orgasm denial works. It’s a gift… You can please your wife with your new platinum grade silicone cock. And harness all that energy into fulfilling her.

But then, I’m imagining my own situation… where I sheepishly admit my wife doesn’t want that. Maybe I admit, while trying to hide my sadness, that she told me my cock doesn’t give her any intrinsic pleasure. And perhaps I’m buoyed that she simply doesn’t want to be penetrated by anyone. It’s not just me. It’s not because I’m lacking.

And then the good kind and empathetic doctor; who assured me I never need relief for endless tease and denial…. Perhaps that good woman would tell me it’s ok, many women don’t get pleasure from penetration. As a urologist she sees many men that can’t get erect, and many couples have wonderful sex loved without penetration. I’m special, my erections are stifled in a cage. It’s not dysfunction, just denial. Men chasing orgasms isn’t healthy. It’s better if I let go, and just enjoy life without climaxes. Without fucking.

Without that delicious feeling of your pink glistening glans penetrating and dragging. And that tingling along your underside and the pressure on your magic spot bringing you close… to the explosion of massive full body convulsions. Thrusting, panting, screaming from pleasure. Uncontrollable clenching and twitching. Wide eyed disbelief during the climax. And then the crushing relaxation and feeling limp and spent. Fuck. I still remember it.

No. You don’t need to cum. You want to stay denied. You chose this because it makes her happy.

It was clear what I gave up. No question. My wife teases and denies me so I stay hard and aroused.

- Do I need to worry how long I’m denied orgasms? NO.

- Should we really be concerned about my aching blue balls? NO.

- Will I burst? NO.

- Can you give me a minimum schedule to cum or get milked? NO.

I asked. I got answers. Clear, unarguable, and inescapable facts. I can stay denied indefinitely.

I was still struggling with all this.

@nice-predator assured me:

“You’re stuck in a cage for the greater good. You truly seem to thrive with denial.

It works because you respond so well and strongly to it. The end justifies the means.

This works precisely because of your relationship with your cock. If you were less fond of it and of its capacities, it would not be the same effect at all. It’s necessary to control it. I have seen the results and I agree with the experiment’s conclusions. The cage is best for you.”

She is a good friend, and knows me too well for my own sanity. But she essentially prescribed me chastity and denial. I’m reading that and imagining if the good doctor would have agreed, I had been brave enough to be open about wearing chastity.

We then discussed the wisdom permanence and truly letting go:

“At this point, I'm definitely leaning towards no full climaxes. Full chastity and edging are yielding better results. Orgasms disrupt your progress.

Then again, maybe some of that disruption is a good thing in terms of causing a certain disorientation. Basically, I think that any (IF any) orgasms should not be a reward or service but a further mindfuck. ... I can't decide whether a full orgasm is a good idea anymore either.

But your wife might take orgasms off the table altogether.”

I shuddered and let out a whine at that. She was kind to relent, not push so deep, and pulled back from never again.

“Probably not 100%, but only extremely rarely just for the sake of you not having complete certainty of the future.

Seems like her style at this point. After years of seeing the patterns and trials, I feel that this is the correct conclusion. I'm hard-pressed to think of what a better alternative would be.”

Going back to my yearning to fuck and give pleasure with my cock we went on…

“I know it is an enormous adjustment to make in your mind, and I absolutely get why it is such a struggle. But I also totally understand why she has little interest in the way you feel your cock's best features are. She loves and wants your cock, in the way she is using it right now.

Caged and denied.

I wonder if part of what is so difficult- and possibly a bit painful to your feelings as well- is to accept that what men think their cocks are doing for women is HUGELY misguided for probably a solid 80% of women. The straight truth is that being pounded by cock is simply not intense or 'orgasmic' for the vast majority of vaginas. *Vaginas have a dearth of nerves* once you're past the 0.5 to 1 inch of labia that packs them in. They have evolved to take a gruesome beating (for birth) with minimal pain or damage. No matter how big or vigourous a dick gets, the sensation isn't all that intense physically to most women (there are always exceptions of course). Most women also *cannot* orgasm from penetration alone, end of story. Faking that particular orgasm is the norm, not the exception. Sorry this sounds like unnecessary ob-gyn rambling lol .. but I feel it's important for it to drill my next point in (have it *penetrate* as it were haha 😜):

Most women get the INTENSE joy of being penetrated from the peripheral factors of it, not the dicking itself: The psychological closeness and intimacy, the intrusion (if they are more submissive), their partner's enthusiasm and own intensity if they love it, the fact that they feel this viscerally needed by a man.. THAT's the real appeal.

Now your wife is getting all of those and them some *by keeping your cock locked up*. So while you wish that she'd want your dick a bit more, my question is: Why? She HAS your dick. It is doing all the very best job a dick CAN do: It's making you pliant, needy, gushy, attentive and fun. It's driving you crazy. Your desire and your wife are constantly on your mind. This is the penetration that matters to her.

So basically, what I'm saying is that you are framing this as a lack of her interest in your cock and what YOU know it can do (which I do not blame and sympathize with, don't get me wrong). She has great interest in your cock, that's why she is keeping him where it does its absolute most intense work for HER, by fucking your mind constantly and permanently.

I mean I'm sitting here typing this and keep shaking my head at how accurately and fully she is wielding this chastity thing. She is mastering it; you got signed up and training for the big leagues, that's what's going on. That's why it's hard.”

And here I am…

I gave her the keys - vowing I’d never touch them.

First she told me she’d keep me caged for at least 3 months. And she did… not one moment of freedom.

Then she told me she was done with letting me touch myself. She told me my masturbation denial was permanent.

Then she told me she didn’t miss my cock. I was hoping she’d want me uncaged occasionally. But she said my mind is more fun to fuck… and she’d rather penetrate me.

She offered to give me permanent orgasm denial. Since I was so enthralled and filled with constant frustrated desire, she determined this was best for me.

She offered permanent chastity. She said she should seal it shut to reach me a lesson about expectations. I believed her when she said she preferred me caged.

I lived for 12 months in enforced chastity.

She had pressed me to accept the real consequences of living out my deepest fantasies. She was giving me the dream.

She encouraged me to float along and accept endless frustration. She was happy I never got used to denial. It was a perpetual motion machine. My balls churned and I drooled precum endlessly.

She reminded me I never needed to cum, and I had been brave enough to get explicit permission - in writing - from a urologist I could stay denied indefinitely.

In the end I twisted and cracked.

Be careful what you wish for.

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Review #1 - from Alicia I still love this shock-collar for Husband training. I have truly seen a positive attitude change in him. We all have times our significant other irritates us, but most Women don’t know how to stop it. Example, I was reading my book, and my Husband kept pestering me. I just looked up and turned on the Zapper. Then I told him to vacuum the upstairs, and not interrupt me until I summoned him. 

Once I finished reading I gave him an extra good zap to summon him to get me a glass of white wine. Now if you had known my man years ago, you would not believe how responsive he is to my needs and desires.

Review #2 - from Christine After purchasing this we made a rule that my husband would put the zapper around his scrotum just above his balls any time I ask him. It’s also is great on date night. Now when I need the pool scrubbed, I just ask him to put on the zapper. Once it is on, he works hard without any complaints. Then I might get him too clean the stairs. Once he is finished I get him to give me a shoulder and neck massage. I make him wear it 24x7. Even when he is in office. Believe it or not, its an amazing training device for husbands.

Review #3 - from Jenny We recently started using a remote shock puppy collar on my husband’s balls to ensure obedience. This particular model has six shock levels plus a vibrating signal. It’s amazing how effective it has been. 

Since we started our FLR, we had a rule that if I called him or gave him an order he must drop whatever he is doing and come to me or do what I told him to do. This used to work according to his mood, and while I of course had the right to punish him, I didn’t do it regularly because I’m lazy. Now I call him using the vibrating feature and he knows that if he doesn’t come immediately (or if he doesn’t obey an order immediately) his nuts will get zapped. He is so responsive and so fast now! When we go out I always make him wear the fully recharged zapper and he behaves like a gentleman, since he knows that I keep the remote with me at all times and that I’m not afraid to use (frankly, I like to use it – hahaha!). 

My sweet husband never argues with me anymore and shows proper respect at all times. Even when the zapper is not on, he knows that he will be wearing it before he goes to bed every night. That is a ritual we have since we got the device. Every night he asks me if I am happy with his behavior for the day. If I’m not, I give him shocks of varying intensity and duration depending on the infractions. I love to see the look on his face when he asks the question, especially on those days when he knows he’s been a bad boy, which are now becoming rare. I recommend this gadget to all dominant wives. You will never let any misbehavior go unpunished and he will become a new man, one you will like a lot!

Review #4 - from Me I instructed My husband to buy one of these Remote Shock Puppy for Me several months ago. Once this shock trainer arrived, I looked it over and ordered him to attach it to a locking bondage belt that I secured around his balls. I immediately started experimenting with the shock settings on this wicked little device. It has 16 levels of shock intensity. I discovered that level 3 or 4 are good to get his immediate attention or to summon him to My presence. I use levels 5 to 7 as for punishment for minor infractions, while higher levels are reserved for more severe discipline. Usually anything above level 8 is sufficient to drop him to his knees. I don’t think I have inflicted anything higher than level 11 on him which makes him beg for mercy! I keep My slave in his “shock trainer belt” nearly all the time (except when bathing and so forth). 

I really enjoy that I am able to discipline (shock) him when we are out in public like at a restaurant, shopping mall, and so forth. I usually shock him whenever I see is his attention wander from me, or he dares to glace a little too long at another woman. 

Queens & Ladies, take My advice and buy one of these shock trainers for your slave/husband. Using this shock trainer combined with the male chastity device of your choice will keep him under your complete control and help make living with him a real pleasure for you 24x7..!

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Why Chastity?

Before listing some key reasons, let’s emphasize that chastity encompasses more than just caging a penis. Submissive men with great self-control can be perfectly chaste through obedience alone, a very impressive feat. Dominant men may also prefer a sub with an unusually small penis to have it fully visible. So with both options (caging and pure obedience) in mind, here goes:

Ownership: It reflects someone’s ownership over your body. He decides when it’s right for you to climax. Your orgasms are secondary. It is about the fact that you have ceded control over them to the man who owns your body. He can decide to have you beat off on a whim, or deny it for discipline.

Arousal: Chastity will make you unusually horny. Being unable to release that sexual tension makes you sexually charged. Your feelings of sexual attraction are revved up, and you become more open to new sexual experiences. Paradoxically, you feel more like a sexual person than when you were free. You are always in a state of readiness.

Realignment: Chastity leads to drastic changes in sexual behavior. Being unable to jerk off leads to exploring other forms of sexual activity, such as focusing on your ass, mouth, and nipples (and male breasts for those who have them). 

Self-Control: This is particularly true when chastity is achieved through pure obedience. For those unprepared for this leap, who cannot control their own urges, a cage is like a bike with training wheels. Your key-holder can help you learn the virtues of chastity, to the point where you are eventually able to exercise full self-control. Admittedly, some may never reach that point, and may need to remain caged.

Role Clarity: You enjoy being in a relationship characterized by well-defined and contrasting roles - Dominant and submissive, top and bottom. Sublimating a defining trait of masculine identity - seeing your penis small, limp, and useless except to pee - is psychologically potent. It helps you focus on serving your obviously more masculine partner, both in and out of bed. Especially when caged, it unmistakably signals no need for reciprocation. Your penis is clearly marked as not a sexual organ, focusing your partner’s attention on your ass, mouth, and nipples.

(Inspired by an illustrated post by @chastestories, but extensively rewritten to expand the concept beyond caging)

Public Play

The first and most important rule of public play is KEEP IT PRIVATE. The sexuality you share with your significant other is not actually public play, but private play, done in a public setting. If anyone else can detect that you are playing, You’re doing it wrong, very wrong.

Other people who are sharing the public space you are in shouldn’t have to be a witness to your kinks and fetishes and to force them on other people is very rude and disrespectful. As much as I would love to, there’s no leading him around the mall on a leash. The key to this is subtlety. No one else should be able to detect that you are actually playing kinky games in front of them, and if they do detect strange behavior, you must be able to explain it away as something other then sex play. In other words, plausible deniability.

I will give you an example. If you are a regular reader of mine, you’ll know that if I say ‘puppyluv’ to my husband, he must immediately get down on all fours and not speak. He must have one hand on the ground or floor at all times. While this is usually done at home, I have given the order in public a few times just to rattle him. I like to know he trusts me enough to obey instantly. Before doing so, I look around to make sure no one is watching. If someone did see us and questioned what we were doing, I would say he was looking for something small that I dropped, creating plausible deniability. If detected, we stop immediately, as other people’s comfort and our reputations are more important then the thrill we get from public play.

So now that the rule is established, we’ll move on to some of the other things we subtly do in public to reflect the unequal roles we live at home.

He will never let go of my hand. I love holding hands and when we are out, I like to use his hand as a leash to lead him around. I lead and he follows me everywhere. He must hold my hand until I pull my hand away from his purposely. If he lets go first, he will be punished when we get home. If I grab his hand and press it onto an object, like a hand rail, bench, or table, he has to grab hold of it and not let go. He is now effectively leashed to it until I peel his hand off of it and lead him away.

He will remain at heel at all times unless I command him to fetch something or send him on some errand. If I’m not leading him by the hand, he must wait for me to move before he does. He waits for me to start walking and then immediately follows, catches up and matches my pace. Not following immediately is punishable. I usually want him to walk beside me unless one of my girlfriends is with us, in that case I expect him to follow behind us. If we are walking side by side and I stop, he must stop immediately. Taking more than one step further is punishable. As you can see he has to keep most of his attention on me and I love it that way.

My husband never contradicts me while around others, even if he knows what I have said is completely wrong. He lets me lead the conversation in public, only affirming what I have said or adding details. He often mentions to others how smart he thinks I am. If he is the only male present, he usually stays mostly silent, letting us girls have our gab session. It’s easy for us to forget he’s even there. He really portrays the strong, silent type.

Another way he serves me in public is by always being the designated driver at parties so I can drink wine with my girlfriends. In fact, it’s usually the only time I let him drive when we are out together. I love driving, so unless I plan on drinking alcohol, he rarely gets to drive when with me. I sometimes make him bend over and let me insert one of his various buttplugs before we hit the road, but only when I’m driving as it would be too distracting for him to drive safely.

When it’s time to exit the vehicle, if we are alone he requires my permission to do so. He isn’t allowed to ask, so if I exit the vehicle with out giving him permission, he just sits and waits.  Sometimes I don’t give him permission, and when I get out, I’ll walk around and open his door for him, holding his hand, helping him out, and lead him by the hand away from the vehicle. When we approach the vehicle, I sometimes walk him up to the passenger side and open his door for him, and close it once he’s inside. I love the 50’s style role reversal aspect of this. With other people in the car, we do things much more subtly. If one of my girlfriends is with us, he sits in the back seat every time, and he always opens his door last, letting the ladies lead him in getting in or leaving the vehicle. My friends have never even noticed the way in which he unobtrusively submits to us like this.

He has 2 different pairs of sunglasses in my car. A normal pair for the odd time I let him drive, and another pair for when he’s the passenger. The second pair has the sides blacked out and act like blinkers on a horses bridle, creating tunnel vision so that he can only see what’s directly in front of him. I often make him wear them in the car when not driving, but I sometimes make him wear them while walking in the park or window shopping. I lead him around using his hand as a leash at all times as it would be too easy for him to walk into someone else or trip on something just out of his line of vision. I like the way it makes him more dependent on me in public.

While shopping for groceries, he must silently follow me around the store pushing the cart without ever taking his hands off of the handle until we are checking out. If he removes a hand from the cart handle or speaks for any reason, he will be punished at home.

I often make him cross-dress underneath his male street clothes while we are in public. I love knowing he is so sexy and feminine. Panties are quite common. Pantyhose are a must when wearing jeans, as I don’t allow such rough textures as denim to directly touch his bare skin. If he forgot to put them on before leaving the house, I will hand him a pair that I keep in my purse and make him put them on in a public restroom.

I often tell him how pretty he is when we both know strangers can hear. In the future, I plan to buy him a corset and have him tight-laced while we are out. The idea is it will restrict his movement and only allow him shallow breaths, ensuring he feels my control every time he inhales. I will add a little padding around it so that it isn’t noticeable. If anyone asks why he is moving or walking differently, I’ll just say he threw his back out.

When we are sitting in a restaurant, if our table or booth is hidden enough, I sometimes sit across from him and have him put his feet on my lap. I pull a short chain out of my purse and lock it around both of his ankles, effectively hobbling him, until it’s time to leave. I sometimes hobble him when riding in the car as well.

You would think that playing like this, over time, would clue our friends and acquaintances in on the female-led relationship that we have. I cover it up by hinting to my girlfriends that it’s actually the opposite, that he dominates me somewhat. The irony is absolutely delicious. Often times, the girls want to get together and have a girl’s night out. I enjoy it at times, but they do it too often, and I’m not always in the mood to go out with them. I will tell them that I have to ask my husband first. Oh the outrage! It drives them crazy, in this day and age, to think that I would have to ask him for permission. When I come up with a reason he won’t let me go, to avoid going, he gets a few icy stares. My poor scapegoat.

Like most girl groups, we share intimate details with each other including our sex lives, and I share too. Just not necessarily the whole truth. I have, over time, built up my husband’s reputation as being quite the stud which isn’t a total lie as he really is amazing at pleasuring me. But when I talk about how big his cock is and how great it feels, the girls assume it’s his actual cock, not the strap on head harness he uses on me. They don’t know that, hanging out with the other husbands and boyfriends 10 feet away from them, he is securely locked in chastity. Also, his body is clean-shaven, his toenails are painted, and is wearing pantyhose or at least panties underneath his clothes.

While over there talking with the other guys, my ‘stud’ is trained to watch for very subtle hand signals I use to command him in various ways. For instance, when I decide I want to go home, I will signal him to approach me and say it’s time to go. Even though it’s actually me wanting to leave, I again use him as my scapegoat and he’s portrayed as the party-pooper, wanting to leave earlier than everyone else. He is to have a good reason already made up for why we have to go.

My hand signal commands so far are: STAY WHERE YOU ARE, COME TO ME, FETCH ME A DRINK, MAKE AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE, BE SILENT, REMAIN AT MY SIDE.

I never give him any indication that he will be punished for the way he behaved in public until we are home. If he said something that I disapproved of, I will simply walk up to him holding the ball-gag head harness. When that happens, he must immediately swallow and then open his mouth wide, until I have it strapped in place.

If he wasn’t attentive enough and missed hand signals, he gets corner-time and ignored. If he defied or disobeyed me, depending on how badly, he gets the paddle or the strap.

Rethinking Facesitting

For me, facesitting always seemed to be just another male fantasy, and I only did it as a special treat for him. Whenever I tried to sit on his face, it did feel good. It got me revved up as his tongue technique is stellar, but the position was never quite right for me to really let go and experience orgasm.

Having to maintain balance, ensuring he could breathe, and worrying about hurting him with my weight was too much of a distraction to be able to cum. That’s why I have always preferred to lay back, get comfortable, and let him go down on me.

Recently, when I decided to treat him in this manner, my opinion changed completely. I don’t really know what was different this time from the others, maybe practice makes perfect, but it seemed much better.

I enjoyed a nice slow buildup as he took his time, just enjoying my taste. With my eyes closed, I got lost in my fantasy world, and before I knew it, I was so close.

Forgetting in that instant that I was sitting on his face and needed to be careful not to hurt him, I lost control of myself and started grinding hard into his face, taking all the pleasure and sensation I could possibly get, and giving myself an amazing orgasm.

And you know what? It didn’t hurt him in the least and he didn’t die of suffocation. When I got off of his face he looked like a drowned rat, but he was grinning and told me how awesome it was, that he enjoyed it as much as I did. It left him extremely sexually frustrated which is always a good thing.

Knowing that I just rode his face as hard as I could, driving myself into him with all my might, I realized that I don’t have to worry about hurting him any longer.

If it could be this good consistently, I would want to facesit him for my own pleasure, not just as a treat for him. The last few times, I just sat my full weight on him and truly enjoyed myself. It was so hot when he was struggling, turning his face side to side, trying to get air.

I love that I have more control of the action, bearing down on him in the moments when I want more sensation, and lifting off when I want to calm down a bit. I now like the fact that he doesn’t make me orgasm, rather, I remain in control and initiate the orgasm myself exactly when I want it.

We aren’t having sex. I am just using him as a tool to masturbate myself on.

The First 150 Rules

Sorry I haven’t posted much lately, I’ve been real busy with a summer class. But I’m back and I have a treat for all you sissy sluts. Many of you have been requesting an actual list of the rules, so here is a list of the first 150 words <3

Rule#1: A sissy does not have a cock. A sissy has a clitty Rule#2: A sissy wears a bra and panties Rule#3: A sissy loves cock Rule#4: A sissy loves cum Rule#5: A sissy takes it in the ass Rule#6: A sissy loves pink Rule#7: A sissy loves her toys Rule#8: A sissy dresses like a slut Rule#9: A sissy shares Rule#10: Sissies love facials Rule#11: A sissy must have a tight ass Rule#12: A sissy must have perfect bimbo makeup Rule#13: A sissy grows big fake tits Rule#14: A sissy is a pro cock sucker Rule#15: One is not enough Rule#16: A sissy belongs on her knees Rule#17: A sissy doesn’t forget to practice Rule#18: Sissies swallow Rule#19: A sissy begs for it Rule#20: A sissy will fuck anywhere Rule#21: Sissies love to plug Rule#22: Every sissy dreams of being a bimbo Rule#23: Cum is your reward Rule#24: You are a tool used to please cock. Every cock. Rule#25: You prefer Big Black Dick Rule#26: Sissies love garters and stockings Rule#27: Sissies love a good gloryhole Rule#28: A sissy loves the taste of her own cum Rule#29: Woman is superior to sissy Rule#30: A sissy doesn’t have a boyfriend, a sissy has a master(Daddy) Rule#31: A sissy doesn’t have a girlfriend, a sissy has a mistress Rule#32: Sissies bend over Rule#33: Sissies love heels Rule#34: Sissies can’t forget to tuck their clitty Rule#35: A sissy’s ass is always on display Rule#36: Cute panties are essential Rule#37: Sissies wear tight leggings to attract men to their ass Rule#38: A sissy doesn’t neglect the balls Rule#39: A sissy has no butthole, a sissy has a pussy Rule#40: A sissy does not jerk her cock. A sissy cums only from getting her ass fucked Rule#41: A sissy has two holes, both should be put to use Rule#42: Paint your face to look like a whore Rule#43: Work out to keep your sexy sissy bod fit Rule#44: Expose your thong so that they know that its on Rule#45: A sissy’s body is smooth and shaven all over Rule#46: A sissy’s body is always for sale Rule#47: Cum is not to be wasted Rule#48: Sissies don’t think. Sissies do as they’re told Rule#49: A sissy’s mouth is not made for talking Rule#50: Sissies love to be degraded Rule#51: Big black cock is a delicacy and should be treated as such Rule#52: Sissies love playtime Rule#53: Sissies take every inch Rule#54: Sissies always dress slutty when they go out. So they always get fucked Rule#55: Panties are only removed for cock Rule#56: No skirt is too short Rule#57: Sissies wear bikinis Rule#58: The only use a sissy has for a condom, is slurping up Daddy’s cum Rule#59: Wear a black bra, so they know you’re naughty Rule#60: Sissies fuck outdoors Rule#61: Pink is to be worn as a badge of sissy pride Rule#62: Never say no to cock Rule#63: You’re not a person, you’re a sissy fuck toy Rule#64: A sissy doesn’t jerk her clitty. She fucks both her holes while rubbing her clitty like a dirty girl Rule#65: Send pics of yourself to cute boys, let them know you’re a dirty slut Rule#66: Sissies sit when they pee Rule#67: Sissies love a nice gang bang Rule#68: Pink panties alone will not make you a sissy. You must have the body and mind of a true sissy slut Rule#69: Sissies play with eachother Rule#70: Cum is essential in a sissy’s daily diet Rule#71: Sissies are whores that don’t earn a thing. Sissies give everything to their Daddy or Mistress Rule#72: Sissies are property that can be bought or sold Rule#73: Wear stockings and stilettos Rule#74: Sissies tuck their clitty into pantyhose Rule#75: Paint your lips, make them a bright red target for cock Rule#76: Sissies love bukkake Rule#77: Every sissy has a little black dress Rule#78: Your sissy ass was made to take big dicks Rule#79: Sissies wear make up to look like perfect little Bimbo Fuck Dolls Rule#80: Sissies wear sexy lingerie to bed Rule#81: Sissies love giving roadhead Rule#82: Sissies eat ass Rule#83: Sissies love to feel the bulge of a hard cock Rule#84: Sissies always say yes Rule#85: Always keep eye contact Rule#86: Grow your hair long so men have something to grab while they pound your ass Rule#87: Sissies are punished when they misbehave Rule#88: Sissies don’t mind getting kinky Rule#89: Strap-ons should always be treated as if they were real cocks Rule#90: A sissy’s legs are always open Rule#91: A sissy always showers with her daddy Rule#92: Sissies don’t try to hide their panties, they proudly present them for all to see Rule#93: A dildo is a sissy’s best friend Rule#94: A sissy’s pants should always be skin tight Rule#95: Work your sissy ass, so it can handle being fucked on a daily basis Rule#96: Sissies wear yoga pants because they know how good their ass looks Rule#97: Find some sissy friends. Go out and get fucked together Rule#98: Real women don’t enjoy being groped, but sissies don’t mind at all Rule#99: All a sissy needs to know is how to please a cock Rule#100: Be a good girl Rule#101: A sissy can never have enough shoes Rule#102: A sissy’s breath always smells like cock Rule#103: Sissies proudly buy their lingerie in the store Rule#104: Sissies find a way to dress sexy even when it’s cold Rule#105: Sissies eat their own cum to remind themselves that they are no longer a man Rule#106: Sissies love eating pussy only when they get to lap up the Alpha cum dripping from inside Rule#107: Sissies bounce up and down on real men’s long hard cocks Rule#108: Sissies love to finger their own asshole Rule#109: Sissies wear panties when they run their clitty Rule#110: A sissy always says please and thank you Rule#111: Sissies read girly magazines Rule#112: If cum isn’t leaking from your gaping asshole, you’re not done yet Rule#113: Look cute when you look for cock Rule#114: Sissies love wearing crotchless panties Rule#115: Every sissy wants a black daddy Rule#116: Sissies don’t fuck women, women fuck sissies Rule#117: Sissies don’t want to be normal girls, sissies want to be bimbo fuck dolls Rule#118: A sissy needs no help putting on a bra Rule#119: Wear a tight thong when you plug your boi pussy Rule#120: Never be afraid of a huge cock, you must worship it as you do every cock Rule#121: Forget about boxers, sissies wear pretty pink panties Rule#122: Sissies like it rough Rule#123: Drop those panties when Daddy says so Rule#124: Every sissy needs someone to teach them to suck cock Rule#125: A sissy should never run out of her bras and panties Rule#126: Wear a crop top, make all the boys stare Rule#127: Sissies love the feeling of a tight corset hugging their body Rule#128: Sissies always go out with the intention of getting fucked Rule#129: A sissy’s ass needs to be trained to take big cocks Rule#130: Cum dumpster is not an insult it’s your occupation Rule#131: Sissies get fake tits so they can be fucked in a whole new way Rule#132: Transform yourself into a perfect bimbo pin-up girl Rule#133: Desperate for a good fucking? Pick your phone up Sissy, make a booty call Rule#134: Always treat the balls with extra care, after all, that’s wear your treat is made Rule#135: Sissies don’t wear lingerie to seduce men, sissies wear lingerie because it makes them feel feminine Rule#136: Sissies love to feel their big fake tits supported by a tight bra Rule#137: You can always find a way to practice sucking cock Rule#138: A sissy is content with the size of her clitty, its small size reminds her that she is not a man Rule#139: Study real women, take notes Rule#140: Cum is not to be wiped away and disposed of, it is to be worn with pride Rule#141: Always look as cute as can be when you go out shopping Rule#142: When you see a cute boy make that booty pop Rule#143: No cock is too big for a sissy like you Rule#144: Always be ready for Daddy when he comes home Rule#145: Your job is to help him with his real job Rule#146: Every sissy wants to be owned by a big black man with a big black cock Rule#147: Sissies love to wear matching lingerie Rule#148: Keep your clitty and boi pussy clean and shaven Rule#149: A sissy works out like a girl Rule#150: Sissies don’t get to fuck anyone, sissies get fucked by everyone

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This week’s shibari tutorial is the Samurai Tie. You’ll need at least 50’ of rope.

This is considered a maximum exposure rig- restraining a person quickly, while not leaving any exciting areas completely obscured by rope. ;)

Shibari Tutorial: The Side-arm Harness

Here’s the Knotty Boys excellent tutorial on tying the Double Coin Knot, just in case anybody needs a refresher for step 1!

Shibari Tutorial: the Hitachi Harness

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

Shibari Tutorial: Lover’s Harness

Video on how to tie the Coin Knot here

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

Shibari Tutorial: Lover’s Harness

Video on how to tie the Coin Knot here

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Collar & Cuff

A guide for the tie from last week’s photo set. I’ve included how to undo the collar quickly (the last six pictures).

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Collar & Cuff

A guide for the tie from last week’s photo set. I’ve included how to undo the collar quickly (the last six pictures).

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥