I Return With More Old Art Until I Get The Time To Draw Again Because FINALS TIME WOOOO :(

Watching a video on aphobic memes reminded me of something...

It was basically like "Asexual and aromantic people don't face systemic oppression!"

And... we do. Take a look around at how much value society places on sex and romance. Many systems rely on the expectation you will fall in love and get married. We've all heard the meme about getting married for tax reasons. Romance is even used as a measure of happiness. I'm in therapy, and my therapist will sometimes have to use certain charts and templates with me. A good chunk of them always involve discussing romantic life. I'm blessed that she is perfectly accepting of me being aroace, and we've even discussed how harmful it is that there's so much pressure. I've heard of other people in the community who had their asexuality/aromanticism treated like a problem in therapy.

Or, in the medical industry: I was having severe abdominal pains and went to the ER. The nurses were absolutely convinced it was an STD, despite me swearing I'm not sexually active. They only focused on the idea of an STD. It later ended up being an intestinal issue. They pressured me into doing a pelvic exam, then used the wrong size instrument so I was screaming in pain the whole time. All because they couldn't believe there was a patient who did NOT have sex. Who was NOT in a relationship. The expectation was that teenager = sex.

We are continuously taught this idea that everyone has sex and falls in love. All of our systems are built around it. Our whole society expects it. If you are not in any relationship, you are stereotyped as lonely and/or crazy. If you are in a purely sexual relationship, you are stereotyped as being vain and sex-crazed. If you are in a purely romantic relationship, you are stereotyped as leading your partner on and incompatible with others.

I'm fortunate enough to have grown up surrounded by people who loved and supported me for my identity. I love myself for my identity. But even I have still faced discrimination and harm as a result of it. I still get anxious when a doctor touches me. I still feel left behind when I see my friends getting into relationships. But I don't want to change myself.

I want to change the world around me. We deserve better.

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The aroace book experience

"I want to read some books! I really like sci-fi or fantasy stuff." Basically every book has a sexual love plot in it

"Oh... maybe I'll search up 'romance free books?'"

They're all historical books or books from literature classes

"Well... let me check out these lists people put out that allows anyone to add books!"

First list has several romance books listed despite saying no romance

"Huh... what about this one?"

Person running the list has a note about needing to ban child protag books because they got flooded with them

I just want a fun sci-fi or fantasy adventure that doesn't have sex or romance. Why is this seen as childish? Why are adult books seemingly required to have these? I was an avid reader as a kid but stopped when I hit high school, and this is why. I was sick of the relationships.

Hey, massively important!!! I know shit feels terrifying right now, but being loud is having an impact

Another painting I did. I'm really enjoying it!

Page from my doodle book

Stop acting like the Minecraft movie is redeemed

I feel like Im going insane. Why are we suddenly acting like the Minecraft movie will be great? In what way did the second trailer redeem it besides doing some of the bare minimum stuff?

"Guys they used C418's music!" This was the literal basic standard for the movie's sound track. I would be more surprised if they didn't use it.

"It looks better!" In what way? The iron golem looked great ngl, but everything else was mid or just awful. Go look at the villagers and tell me anything has improved.

"Haha the mines joke was funny!" Its a megacorporation trying to sound like they're in touch.

This is still another live action cash grab, and unfortunately it'll probably work. It pisses me off knowing what we could've gotten instead of this. I have seen so many fantastic ideas from people over here. You can go see the movie if you want, but stop praising it like they've done something good. They haven't.

Today is some 2021 art of Caiden and Jaiden. This is actually a redraw of some even older art I could probably find later in the abyss of my hard drive

Why is there so many p*rn images in the transgender tags? I keep seeing it on my dashboard because I reblogged ONE POST that featured the transgender tag recently and now I, an asexual, am forced by tumblr into seeing that gross stuff.

Stop saying the Minecraft movie is just for kids. Kids deserve better.

I am genuinely infuriated at the amount of people defending the Minecraft movie with "well, its made for kids." That's not an excuse!!! Ever!!! Do you all think kids aren't capable of understanding deeper themes? They can't understand emotions? Do you really want to teach a kid they deserve only garbage media until they're older?

"Well, my kid liked it" ok cool. That's not actually my point. People can like what they want. My point is that kids deserve better. Every time some low effort slop gets released, people dismiss it with "its for kids." Its the inherent idea that kids deserve less that bothers me. Why don't kids deserve more? Why is making garbage for kids ok, but not for adults? Is it because... maybe... you value kids minds less? A stupid little kid could never understand the deeper meanings of Minecraft like creativity, valuing the world around you, and realizing how you have the power to shape yourself.

Because that's what Minecraft is about. Its not some goofy ass Jumanji rip off. You make your experience in Minecraft. You can become a miner, a builder, an explorer, a redstone engineer... its your world. I loved finding new things in Minecraft. The awe of seeing my first pink sheep. The fear of the deep dark. The wonder of a massive ravine. The accomplishment of crossing a whole sea. That's what Minecraft is about.

And it breaks my heart we got this instead. Plenty of adults play Minecraft, too. But in a big company's eyes, video games are for dumb children who don't know garbage from gold. Minecraft deserved better than this. I know the movie isn't out yet, but the trailer said enough.