"feminine Urge" "she/they Coded" "girl [thing]" The Way Social Media Commodifies And Memefies Gender

As a ace/aro baby writer, I need this. Thank you 💜💚

For aro/ace writers:

- you don't have to write sex scenes. Tolkien didn't

- you don't have to write romance. Lewis didn't

- you can write very close friendships that have nothing romantic nor sexual in them. Scott Lynch did

- you can write sexual relationships that don't involve romance. Sapkowski did

- you can write romantic relationships that don't involve sex. Pratchett and Gaiman did

Don't let anyone tell you that some kinds of relationships are impossible or that a story must contain some themes. It's your story, write it the way you want

idk how to say this properly as a femme, but like…..

there’s a big issue in the sapphic community of sexualizing butches in a super nonconsensual way.

my gf has been grabbed, shoved around, and groped by women who believe her very existence to be some sort of sexual invite. it’s gotten to the point that when we enter a gay space together, i have to be all over her, or else someone assumes something. she says she’s scared of giving compliments or being nice to women because it’s immediately taken as an aggressive come on.

and this isn’t just a straight women thing, i’ve seen SO MANY sapphic women pull this shit. online too. like, butches posting a non-sexual selfie and getting flooded with super intense sexual comments.

you’re being a creep. knock it the fuck off.

I felt (and still do) the same when I read the book, but ignore it thinking that he written it to show how thick and horny teenages are

You can still have that statement without insulting jews, and/or anyone really

Remember that time John green wrote about two goyische teens kissing in the Anne Frank house and all major literary publications were like “How Romantic 😊”. Because making out inches away from where a child was led away at gunpoint to her slow and painful death is Relationship Goals. I just cannot believe he got away with that shit.

I’m thinking about that person who asked me “ugh why would your parents want you to be attracted to men? Wouldn’t that make you gay? You men try to make everything about yourself” when I made a post about how I feel pressured to be a women who likes men because I grew up being told I’d be a woman who would marry a man and I asked if that counted as comphet. And people just couldn’t wrap their head around the fact that trans guys experience the misogynistic and heteronormative pressure to be women who likes men.

A butch wearing a “Butch Bait” shirt. Send post

the idea of public restrooms as "women's spaces" continues to confound me. you know who I hope is in a public bathroom when I go in?? no one. I would prefer no one else be in the bathroom. and if someone else is in the bathroom I am going to ignore them as much as possible. I did not go into the bathroom to connect with other women. I went into the bathroom to piss and/or shit. it's a toilet's space, not a women's space. shut the fuck up and let trans people piss and shit in peace. let's all continue to avoid eye contact with each other and any and all interaction in the toilet's space.

The Craft [R] (1996)

I think we need to have a very long sit down as a website to get y’all to respect queer non-cis man masculinity . Because every few months this website cycles through the “is it’s toxic masculinity when trans men/butches/gnc trans women/any non-cis men ask for their masculinity to be respected and to be treated as human” discourse and I’m kind of sick of it

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Illustration by Charles Vess for Stardust by Neil Gaiman

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