GET UR CAT ON THE MIC

just came up with a great idea for a novel and then imagined a bunch of amazing concept art for it. so yeah i'd say today has been very productive

faraday cages are so funny to me. what are we gonna do about all this dangerous radiation? let's put it in a little dog crate. and it works

"Fantastic Boyfriends" is insane because it appears to be one of the most dangerous visual novels w/ the potencial to gigafry your brain but is exclusively read by gay men & transgenders who unironically want to "know how the first game made by Lifewonders is" or "read their first gay visual novel" and basically get oneshotted by it

it’s sometimes frustrating when people respond to posts lamenting like, the fact that every news article is paywalled or every social media site is overrun by reactionaries or that all recipe websites are impossible to use because they’re covered in malicious ads or etc with “here’s a site that gets rid of those paywalls!” “install this recipe-unfucker browser extension on your computer!” “just join [obscure social media site that no one uses] or [dead forum]!” like I get the intent, I don’t take it as like malicious derailing or anything, and I even understanding wanting to spread resources to people esp adblocker resources. but this pattern of response in the aggregate feels like it’s fundamentally missing the point on some level - it is infuriating that you can’t spend an hour on social media without being reminded that the world viscerally hates you and wants you dead for the crime of being a minority, it is infuriating that you’re constantly condescended to about the “dangers of disinformation” by the same professional class that paywalls every single piece of data from the public, it is infuriating that the internet is rapidly approaching a point of total unusability for the express purpose of further lining a billionaire’s pockets, and no browser extension or obscure discord clone is going to fix that. These are structural problems and I think people are using these things as examples to complain about these structures, and it sometimes feels like people are missing that point when they post a link to a mozilla-only browser extension. it feels like unwanted advice to a problem that is already unsolveable via individual solutions. often it borders on patronising, as if people aren’t aware they can log off tumblr and post on a Web 2.0 forum that 1000 people collectively use or haven’t heard of the concept of an adblocker. but again like what else are you supposed to do the next time you want to look up a chili recipe or watch cat videos online or read the news. sucks ass

By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

ADDitude

How to Sharpen Executive Functions: Activities to Hone Brain Skills

Executive functioning skills range from working memory to cognitive flexibility to inhibitory control, and beyond. They power our daily func

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Kenneth Roberson, Ph.D.

Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults with Autism

Practical Strategies for Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults With Autism - Living with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) as

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.

Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation

Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.

Meditation

Martial arts

Sports in general

Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)

Woodworking

Cooking

If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You might always have a disability around this (I certainly always will), but it can be easier. You do not have to be this stuck forever.

The asexual community's antiblackness is so heavily tied towards ignorance about Black sexuality in music. There's some viral post on here of predominantly non-Black aces being upset that 'match my freak' is about sex and upset about 'how allos sexualise everything' 'allos are obsessed with their sex lives' 'why does everything have to be about sex' 'why are the allos making it about sex again' when the allos in question are BLACK MUSICIANS expressing sexuality freely in their own music. The way you lot talk about Black people ace or not is just horrid.

Tinashe's song Nasty helped popularise 'Match My Freak' last year. R&B literally stands for rhythm and blues. Black singers have always sung about romantic and sexual yearning in R&B. Going back to slavery, Black people's sexualities have always been stigmatised and demonised as an animalistic, insatiable hunger. Through music, Black artists especially Black American artists would express sexual attraction on their own terms to push back on those myths. The Black "allos" never stole Match My Freak from you because it was never yours to begin with.

Antiblackness in the ace community manifests in this narrative of Black people 1. As thieves and 2. That we force sex onto things and people. But also 3. Through colonialist attitudes and mindsets.

'We should asexualise it' 'Allos shouldn't hoard it' 'Well it can mean both!' 'Words evolve its linguistic change!' Pardon my French, but fuck off.

The gag is, there's already loads of phrases in AAVE for platonic relationships. 'Match my energy' 'homie' 'twin' literally hold the same meaning. (But seeing how ignorant some of you are I think you should leave AAVE tf alone actually). I briefly covered this another post on main but the (white) ace community feels the need to have ace versions of existing things e.g. 'How comes there's no asexual___' 'We need an asexual__' 'We need an ace ___!' instead of creating something original. Hence the invading Denmark 'jokes'. Some of you don't know how to create things. And honestly, I think some of you don't want to create. I think some of you like complaining about the lack ace representation instead of making it. I think some of you like to 'asexualise' things from marginalised forms of sexual attraction because you look down on them. I think some of you like being complacent.

So, this whole narrative Tinashe took a pure uwu platonic ace phrase with her lightskin fingers and made it all about sex is complete nonsense. It's one thing to consistently demonise Black sexuality but to take from it and then claim Black people have sexualised something that was originally ours is just foul.

the american people will never not be unserious

"In recent years, there has been a rush on the internet to supply image descriptions and to call out those who don’t. This may be an example of community accountability at work, but it’s striking to observe that those doing the most fierce calling out or correcting are sighted people. Such efforts are largely self-defeating. I cannot count the times I’ve stopped reading a video transcript because it started with a dense word picture. Even if a description is short and well done, I often wish there were no description at all. Get to the point, already! How ironic that striving after access can actually create a barrier. When I pointed this out during one of my seminars, a participant made us all laugh by doing a parody: “Mary is wearing a green, blue, and red striped shirt; every fourth stripe also has a purple dot the size of a pea in it, and there are forty-seven stripes—”

“You’re killing me,” I said. “I can’t take any more of that!”

Now serious, she said it was clear to her that none of that stuff about Mary’s clothes mattered, at least if her clothes weren’t the point. What mattered most about the image was that Mary was holding her diploma and smiling. “But,” she wondered, “do I say, Mary has a huge smile on her face as she shows her diploma or Mary has an exuberant smile or showing her teeth in a smile and her eyes are crinkled at the edges?”

It’s simple. Mary has a huge smile on her face is the best one. It’s the don’t-second-guess-yourself option."

--Against Access, by John Lee Clark, a DeafBlind educator

ive found that partially treated mental illness can sometimes look to uninvolved onlookers like faked mental illness.