Can't Think Too Hard About Our Own Plurality Or We Might Have A Mental Breakdown

PAIN PROTECTOR

An alter who's role is to protect the body from pain, typically by fronting to endure or relieve the pain themself; A combination of a protector and a pain holder. Flag base by @/gorefix

F2U -> credit is appreciated but not required!

Our Splitting Experience

hi! i figured id write about my experience with splitting as someone who struggles with blurred dissociative barriers and difficulty with headspace connections

cw/tw for splitting talk and such below the break

so for me, when i split, it starts with extreme dissociation.. like really bad.. and when i dissociate my eyes essentially unfocus and its nearly impossible for me to refocus them.. then comes a nightmarish headache, and i just need to sit down and try to stay calm

now this might just sound like serious dissociation or like a panic attack or whatever else others may connect this to, but the difference for me is that i start to hear the new alter's name echoing through my head, in some weird way.. idk how to explain it other than by saying that.. it slowly gets more severe, and sometimes those echoes will have other information included, but the dissociation will reach a peak as well as the echoes before it all just fades away.. it leaves me exhausted and drained, and its very unpleasant.. from there, the alter will have some kind of rudimentary form, and over a short time theyll fully develop.

keep in mind this is just my experience but i wanted to share it in case anyone else feels that way.. :p

so thats all! - 🌹

もんんも

🌌List of Ways to Spend Time with Your In-system Partner in the Exoworld🌌

Journaling Together(sending letters to another, conversation, love notes, feelings)

Listening to Music together

Watching movies or shows together and talking to another about it

Gaming together, maybe spectate another or make decisions together

Going on walks or exploring nature together

Cooking and baking together

Working out together, maybe one will possess the body while the other helps encourage

Drawing or writing together

Getting a physical representation of your relationship, like a ring

Meditating together

Divination together(tarot)

Letting your partner make decisions for or with you

Planning and doing a Morning or Night ritual together, like helping another get dressed or brush their teeth

Self care time together

Eating together

Clean and organize together

Shopping together

driving together

reading together

show/save images and memes your partner might enjoy

"Texting" another throughout the day (using simplyplural chat or pluralkit discord)

Mental check-ins, if you have fronted and haven't spoken to your partner, just call them up and ask them how they're doing

Encourage another throughout the day

Help another with homework or work(If one is tired, maybe take over for them, or help guide them through studying or not getting distracted)

some quick things you can do that may help you feel a little better. pick one and see if it helps!

- brush your teeth

- take a shower or bath, or wash your face

- put away five things that are out of place

- cuddle a pet, plushie, or beloved object

- eat something, either a snack or a full meal

- drink water!

- go for a walk outside

- close your eyes breathe deeply for ten seconds

- make a checklist of things you need to do

- call or text a loved one

- journal

- check in with your headmates to see how each other is doing

it can be hard to look after ourselves when we’re suicidal, but you are worth it. please take care of yourselves today. we hope that doing something small for your own health may improve your mood, if only a little.

reach out if you want to brag about how you’ve cared for yourselves lately, or if you need a little encouragement. we love you.

by odwyer_sio9

Sheepdogs enjoying the sunshine

by James Rebanks

Luckily, I only know of one headmate who identifies as female (I the host am transmasc, physically transitioning the body), and unfortunately I don’t have good enough communication with her to really know how she feels about things, but the nonbinary ones I know of are chill with the body regardless of gender, though they like to present their own ways. Some of the other guys in here and I get really dysphoric, so I think transitioning was definitely the right choice, but to a point none of us will feel 100% comfortable, so it’s just something we have to live with (I feel so bad for the nonhumans, they get super dysphoric about being the wrong species, and it’s rough on our littlest one to be in a grown-up body). I don’t really have answers, but imo it’s a process and you’ll be able to figure out what works for you and your system in time <3

DID is fucking with my gender rlly bad and my friend said I should reach out so. Trans systems with complicated genders reblog so I know ur out there???

I would love to hear ur experiences bc I’m getting my ass kicked by gender

Some types of switching for us