;_; Stabbed In The Heart By User Gatheringbones On This Fine Winter's Day. Thanks Friendo T^T

;_; Stabbed in the heart by user gatheringbones on this fine winter's day. Thanks friendo T^T

more dating advice:

often times the thing a shy person needs to extend themselves a little and show you more of themselves is for you to extend yourself first, show yourself first, and make a safe staging ground for the shy person to emerge— which requires a certain amount of vulnerability and bravery on your part

that vulnerability can be repulsive to people who find vulnerability triggering, but that repulsion isn’t a reflection of you or anything to do with you and encountering that repulsion shouldn’t be taken as discouragement or negative judgement

most people who date don’t want to actually partner up with another human being and create a loving connected relationship with that person, they want to float in a sea of mostly positive feelings that make them feel better about their image of themselves

being vulnerable and brave and real has the power to jerk those people out of the fantasy. it forces them to identify themselves (and to bail) and to stop wasting your time.

other people experience great relief and warmth and increased connection upon encountering someone who can be real and can treat the relationship like it’s real

those people provide a very good baseline to start an actual romantic relationship with.

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1 month ago

On god, this is what it's like to have sex with Adhd. Now just keep looping it all and...what do you mean I have to stay focused. >:(

I *am* focused...on trying to match Cbat to our rhythm. >:D Whonka whonka womp whompa whomp wheeeet

dominant things you can say during sex

i didnt hear what you said

hold on i need to blow my nose

wow

i feel kind of nauseous

is this anything

i don't know

this kind of reminds me of that one song

we can probably ignore that noise if you want to

why is my sock wet

it smells bad in here

that was weird

where are my glasses

ow

this is normal

sorry

just 2 chill people chilling

this is cool

can you say that again

are we good

youre actually naked

3 months ago

Happy Ides of March to all those who celebrate. ☺️🔪


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6 months ago

fundamentaly embarrassing to show reference pictures to the hairdresser. Like yeah. Hey. Here's a picture of a guy who looks cool. One day I would liketo look cool as well. Can you try to make me look cool. With these paltry ingredients Can you try your very best to alchemize a guy who looks cool right now. In 30 minutes, can you make me into a person. Hey, for twenty five dollars, can you fuck my shit up forever? Could you give me a haircut. Is that too much to ask. Could you cut my hairs

2 months ago

I hope I'm not just a mutual to you, but someone you want to bring up in irl conversation so you have to awkwardly and cryptically say "my friend..." and refuse to elaborate on my origins or the origins of our friendships

2 months ago

i dont like it when electronics talk to me like i understand from a usability standpoint why they do but when i pair my headphones i'd much rather get a little beebeep than a white woman jumpscare

1 year ago

*somewhat spoilers for Scavengers Reign ahead*

Almost finished with Scavengers Reign, but I don't think I'm going to finish it. I'm...just not really getting why people were so hype over it. Which is kinda sad--I was cautiously optimistic about the promise of good environmental and creature design, which it *does* deliver. And to be fair to the show (and its fans,) my sticking point is that I'm not a fan of "life-is-hard, people are shitty, that's reality" style fiction/storytelling. I want pure escapism and hope--hope that I don't have to narratively pay for with a buncha grim dark feels first. :/

The soundtrack was also generally too tension-ramping for me to enjoy and they didn't really break any new ground on sound-mixing/Foley for the beasts/enviro. (I'm like... "distorted violin bow on something," "tiger rumble," "bull gator mixed with tiger" the whole time. They did get some nice pap paps for the mush patting, tho. 5/5 mushrooms, I would also pap those fungi.)

I just...want the creatures and biological focus of Nausicaä, & Mushishi, & Scavengers Reign without all the attendant storytelling sadness, like can we do that? Can I finally have that some day? (Without the insipidity of shows like Pokemon?) /lu

Dungeon Meshi comes the closest, I think, but the environmental storytelling there is kinda flaccid comparatively. Not a lot of creatures/plants exist on-screen except for the featured ones of the episode, and there are certainly no exotic biomes.

Times like this I think...maybe I'm just too autistic. Oh well.

This planet & its biota were prob the closest I've gotten to getting what I want to see, I just can't take the sad storytelling vibes long enough to enjoy it.


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1 year ago
Some Sort Of Earthworm Woim, With Leggie Like Arm Tentacles And Flatwormie Eye Spots

some sort of earthworm woim, with leggie like arm tentacles and flatwormie eye spots


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9 months ago

loudly going "YOU'RE GOOD YOU'RE GOOD" to myself to ward off the memory of every embarrassing thing i've ever done

7 months ago
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱
Yes, This Is The True Ending 🌱

Yes, this is the true ending 🌱

10 months ago

I'm convinced if I suddenly gained the ability to swim like this it would fix all my problems. Just imagine...staying in my own (swimming) lane, vibing with my emotional support watermelon and putting in minimal effort. Perfection.


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