Spacebuggorez - Questionable Decisions

I think one of the things that has brought me the most peace in my life was the decision to stop responding to anything not clearly stated to me.

Anxiety: Oh no your friend hates you!

Me: Well they didn't say that. So either they need to fortify and tell me themselves, or I will continue to be their friend exactly as I am.

Not just that though. When people hint drop that they want a thing from you, I act as if I have not noticed at all. Either you directly ask me for that thing, or you are not getting that thing from me.

I actually decided to start doing this because I got diagnosed as autistic and I realised how much stress and unhappiness I put on myself trying to figure out everyone's motives and wants and needs all the time. So I decided I'd just... Stop.

And I tell people that. I tell people "I don't notice or respond to hints or passive aggressive behaviour. Either you need to be straight with me or I will continue as I am." And you know the only person that has had a problem with it?

My former abuser (who I am vvvvv low contact with). Because they relied on me feeling obligated to respond to their unspoken moods and wants to keep me in line.

Everyone else has been immediately on board and my relationships have gotten SO much stronger. Because I am asked directly for things, and I will give a direct reason for my response, regardless of what that response is. (e.g. "Hey, can you call me, I want company on the drive home!" "No, sorry, I'm in the middle of [task], but I will be done in twenty minutes so if you still want my company then, I'll be happy to.")

So I put this out as a suggestion for all people, ND and NT.

Stop responding to hints, passive aggression and other 'unspoken' things. Use, model and encourage clear communication with everyone, you'd be surprised how much easier it makes EVERYTHING!

"Everything's too bright..."

Can I have a J regretting that she followed Cyn? Or Cyn being cylly? Thanks!!

oh lookie, it's uh... mango?...

Can I kindly request sum Nuzi they’re so adorable together 🥹. Nuzi cuddles would be nice. If not it’s okay thank you 🙏

*tosses it at your face and runs away on all four*

I will not be active much right now as I was on this week since today is the last day of spring break. Howhere I will still get on Tumblr everyday after school, I just will not be able to post my art everyday due to assignments and exhaustiveness.

Meowzies to all you! <3

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You're welcome!! :3c

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¨A terrible presence looms in in swirling shadows, feasting once a leaking carcass.

A beastly growl emanates from a sickly yellow glow; an acidic X which burns pit and burrows trenches into the subconscious mind.

It looks at you, indifferent, hungry. A mountain of madness rests upon a basin of sorrow, poisoning the roots of stoic structure one vainly calls the self.¨

Written by @daschantal05 (a very cool guy :3)

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I'm really not happy with how I drew buildings... But I hates drawing them 😰

Sooo... I decided to go for a simple art style to avoid drawing the complex details pfft

I do need to practice drawing buildings. But I can't do that without torturing my constantly under-simulated brain and weak wrist :)))

JUzi son all done phew!

OilRose is coming up tomorrow!

I also have seven art requests to do lol

oml someone finally understood me!

t4t khori

Loser