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Fantasy Guide to Palaces, Castles, Houses and Homes

We to live in a great fantasy land? A hidden hollow in a tree? An underground city? Perhaps, if real estate is good. So lets go top to bottom.

Palace

This is where the royals usually live. This style is less medieval and more Enlightenment chic. Royals can live in castles of course but if they are fashionable they have a palace.

Castles

Castles are not exactly the most cosy place to live. They are built for defense rather than comfort. Castles can be inhabited by royals and nobles.

Manors, mansions and manses

These are great houses seen more often around modern times. These houses are usually surrounded by great parkland for hunting. Nobles usually inhabit them.

House

A house in a fantasy setting usually refers to a double storey home. Owned by the well to do common folk.

Cottage

A small one storey home in the county.

Hovel

The real bottom of the property market. Made from sticks, shit or peat, this home is usually a single room and usually shared by the livestock on a bad winter.

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How To Run Away From Home Masterpost

Ordinarily I’d just push y’all to the main blog, but the likelihood of clickthroughs from Tumblr is low, and I think this is really important information for a lot of folks out there in Tumblrland. This post is LONG.

Here’s the most important info from the HTRAFH series I posted on OSG this week. The OSG proper posts are linked throughout the text.

Where are you going? Who can help you? What do you need?

Not only do you need to pack a bug-out bag with some or all of your life necessities, but you need to be emotionally prepared for the fallout.

This is not an easy decision, and it should not be made lightly. Being completely independent and unsupported by your parents is fucking hard, which is why >70% of runaways go back home within a day. People doubt you and belittle you, it’s hard to get systematic support from schools or social workers, and you’ll be in therapy basically forever. It sucks. But it can be worth it.

Leveraging your freedom with the emotional and social consequences of being parent-free makes running away and life after being kicked out really difficult. When you commit to getting out, you have to make a lot of uncomfortable and difficult decisions that center on: which is worse.

Which is worse: living in a homeless shelter or feeling like a hostage of your family?

Which is worse: getting a crappy job or being financially dependent on family members who use money as a form of control?

Which is worse: uncomfortable conversations with police and social services or enduring abuse?

Make a Plan

What should you plan? How do you even get started?

The most important things you’ll need to know how to find are: housing, money, and support.

If you had to get out of the house in two minutes:

Where can you go?

How can you get there?

What would you do the next day? The next month?

How can you get food?

How can you get money?

What else do you need?

How can you keep from getting dragged back “home”?

Who can and will help you stay away?

Come up with a concrete plan that covers those things. If you can, come up with alternate plans in the event things don’t go the way you thought they would. Your friends’ parents may be generous to let you stay for a week, and they might even feed you when you’re there, but you need to think beyond that.

You can’t live off of other people’s generosity forever. Couch-surfing and crashing with someone rent-free must be a temporary part of your plan.

You’ll want to find long-term housing, whether it’s with a shelter, a hostel, or a transitional living program. At some point you will need money–for shelter, food, health, and fun. Find ways to make a living, even if it’s doing something as passive as taking surveys and watching videos on your phone.

Talk to people. See which friends can help you out, and who can point you in the direction of case workers. Call shelters and social services to ask for help. Apply for grants and financial assistance. You never know who is willing to help until you ask them.

If nothing else, know where to find a homeless shelter and food bank.

Pack Your Bug-Out Bag

What’s a Bug-Out Bag?

It’s a bag that’s ready and waiting for you when you need to get out–whether it’s a temporary relocation or a permanent escape. It’s a term used by the preppers but it’s also used among runaways and throwaways as a bag that has the bare essentials for striking out on your own.

Chances are, you can’t fit everything you need in a single bag–and even more likely, you won’t have access to the things you need to put in a bag. But figuring out exactly what you need is the key to planning a bug-out bag and your immediate future.

When I left home, I had an extra pair of pants and my wallet with a few dollars inside. I didn’t have a phone or a debit card or anything. Now I have a hoarded 300-square-foot apartment–living proof that if you keep pushing through, you will eventually have the material objects you need.

But if you can make a bug-out bag, find a safe space (or several safe spaces) and gather the essentials. If you’re in an abusive situation where your possessions and privacy are strictly controlled or monitored, you’ll have to be extra sneaky.

Good places to hide stuff:

between the mattress and box spring

underwear drawer

coat/pants pockets

bottom of a clothes hamper or trash can

an air vent

friends’ houses

sticks of deodorant

old pill bottles

book/binder safe

potted plants

battery compartments of electronics

What do you need in your Bug-Out Bag?

Anything that you might need or want if you had to get out of the house in less than five minutes. Here is a one-page printable checklist for pre-packing your bug-out bag:

edit: As a youth who was kicked out in a time before cell phones were ubiquitous, I neglected to include a phone on this list. However, if your parents pay for your phone, it can be cut off at any time or be used for blackmail against you. If you can spare the $10, get a burner phone at Walmart for emergencies.

Who Can Help?

What kind of things do you need on your Bug-Out Bag info list? Think about what you’ll need once you’re on your own. Money, food, housing, medical care, emotional support…

Keep a list of all of the people and places that can give you that so you know where to go in the middle of the night. These can be:

friends

family members of friends

your own sympathetic family members

social services/child protective services

the police

hotlines

domestic violence centers

shelters

food banks

employment offices

clinics

college financial aid offices

the library, which can put you in touch with all of the above

Seriously, I cannot emphasize the last one enough. Your local public or school library has so many regional-specific resources available for you if you just ask. If nothing else, the library is a good place to stay during the day when you have nowhere else to go.

Resources

Note: These links are mostly US-specific because that’s where I live. A quick Google search for these service keywords and your country or area will go a long way in finding supportive providers.

Crisis Hotlines and Chat Support

Most crisis help lines can help you out when you plan to run away from home by searching for shelters and case workers for you, or just by talking through the reasons you want to run away from home. They’re a great resource to have on hand when you’re feeling lost.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: resources and support for domestic violence crises

Crisis Text Line: text-based support and counseling and links to additional chat- and hotlines

Crisis Call Center: hotline and text line for youth in crisis

Boys Town: counseling and assistance hotline for youth in crisis

Youth America Hotline: hotline and chat line for youth in crisis

Thursday’s Child: directory of hotlines, text lines, and chat support for youth in crisis [inexplicably has autoplay music]

Abuse Reporting and Recovery

Whether you’re trying to become emancipated, press charges against your parents, or you just need help with the emotional fallout when you run away from home, these organizations can help you find the resources that work for your specific situation.

American Bar Association: find legal help whether you’re pressing charges against a parent or you want to know what your rights are when filing for emancipation.

Cornell University Law School: information about the emancipation process

Safe Place Program: counseling and resources for youth in crisis

Child Welfare League of America: resources and information for crisis youth placement

Family and Youth Services Bureau: family violence services

Prevent Child Abuse America: resources for youth in crisis

Specialized Alternatives for Families & Youth of America: resources and information for reconciliation, foster care, and the juvenile justice system

Homelessness

Shelters gain and lose funding all the time, so it always helps to search for what’s still open in your immediate area. These websites and organizations can help with that search, but again: libraries are often safe spaces and the staff there know what’s in your neighborhood better than a stranger on the internet.

Homeless Shelter Directory: a map and listing for local shelters and transitional housing programs

40 to None: find shelters that are explicitly LGBT and youth-focused

Covenant House: shelter and transitional housing services across the US, Canada, and Latin America

National Coalition for the Homeless: resources and shelter listings

HUD Exchange: resources and information for homelessness

Homelessness Resource Center: information, resources, and training materials for homelessness

Family and Youth Services Bureau: youth homelessness programs database

National Center for Homeless Education: local and state services

Uhlich Children’s Advantage Network: counseling and shelter information (Chicago)

National Association for the Education of Homeless Children and Youth: educational assistance and resources for homeless youth

National Center for Homeless Education: educational assistance and resources for homeless youth and adults

National Network for Youth: information and resources for homeless youth

Transitioning to Independence

Many of the homeless shelters and youth programs listed above have transitional housing programs, but here are two good resources for getting help transitioning to independent living when transitional housing programs aren’t available.

Help When You Need It: connects you with local providers for financial, food, and housing assistance

Year Up: transitional living programs that get you employed and housed within a year

Health and Wellness

Many homeless youth struggle with receiving adequate health care on the streets. These two sites help connect you with general and mental health services in your area, but they are by no means exhaustive lists. Search for free or tiered-payment clinics in your area for local providers.

Health Resources and Services Administration: find clinics and health services in your area

Mental Health America: map of available mental health clinics

General Youth Support

Most helplines and providers focus on immediate problems such as homelessness or abuse, but youth who run away from home have any number of other issues to deal with, from dating to drugs to staying in school. These organizations help supplement the day-to-day drama you have to deal with. Many larger cities also have youth centers, so be sure to search for what’s in your area.

Boys and Girls Club: outreach and after-school programs, as well as counselors and case workers who can connect you with local providers

ReachOut: information and advice for common issues facing youth today

YWCA: programs and services for at-risk youth

CenterLink: LGBT-focused community and youth groups

If you have any additional resources to add to this list, please reblog them or send me an Ask and I’ll update the list here and at OSG.

Prepare for trouble… make it double…

It’s Tom Holland I’m dead

If We Ever Get A Shadowhunters-Supernatural Crossover

Demon: *Kills somebody*

Dean: WE GOTTA EXORCISE IT

Jace: NONONO KILL IT

Sam: Calm down, guys!

Dean: YOU DRANK DEMON BLOOD FOR LIKE A YEAR YOU HAVE NO SAY IN THIS

All Shadowhunters: He did WHAT!?

Castiel: *Gives Dean lovestruck eyes*

Dean: *Is oblivious but smiles at Cas*

Clary: Why do you have an angel hanging around!?

Alec + Magnus: Those two are so in love.

Sam: Yeah, I know. Dean still thinks he’s straight.

Magnus: *Sighs pitifully*

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You endure what is unbearable, and you bear it. That is all.