And Her Gym Hottie's Name Is....

That would be lovely. Yes please.

Just her body... her heart is mine.

I really hope that's true.

The world would be a better place if this happened more.

Very insightful.

Men like to Watch - Women like to be Center of Attention

For people reading here, it’s probably clear. Men like to watch. Women like to be watched. That’s why a hotwifing dynamic works. When it comes to including others, men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Women fantasize about being with another man and being watched by their husband.

The research proves it out. Men want to watch. Women want to be watched. Why? The researchers don’t know. They speculate that perhaps women are taught to be the center of sexual attention and for men to pursue women, perhaps it’s male competition. competitive elements. Perhaps it’s just a natural dynamic. Women would naturally have multiple partners. Sometimes a man would watch, other times he would join in.

The interesting bit is that men who fantasize about this have a higher self-esteem than those who don’t. It takes a strong man to encourage his wife to enjoy herself with another man.

Absolutely. The whole point is that you enjoy it.

How you started that talk about her be a hotwife?

Whew, as with most things, we struggle to remember how things started.

I think the first thing I did with her was to play a game. I made cards with questions on them and had her pick cards and answer the questions. The questions hinted at hotwifing eg: her first sexual experience and if she'd fantasised about having a threesome. 15-odd questions later and it was very easy to tell her how I find the idea of her being with another man was a very sexy idea.

I didn't justify or explain it. I just left it at that.

A week later, I tied her hands and blindfolded her, and told a little story about inviting a friend over, and then made love to her while wearing a penis sheath so I'd feel different. She really enjoyed it and next thing we know, the fantasy was acceptable.

What I imagine my wife is doing whenever I'm not there.

My fantasy marriage - Saturday night celebrations at home. (I'd forgotten how much fun drawing is - yes I'll do more, if you guys keep re-posting them)

Excellent.

Ground Rules

Another day of Hotwifing advice and of course..your questions and stories is upon us. Today I am going to address the topic of Ground Rules.

I have heard some major horror stories in the lifestyle from couples who swing and from couples who Hotwife and all due to this one most important topic. Due to the fact that there are 2 people involved in both lifestyles, you have to remember that feelings and emotions matter not just with you, but also with your partner. Without solid ground rules that address the feelings of both partners, this lifestyle can and does destroy marriages and relationships.

As a Hotwife myself, my goal in the lifestyle is not just to fuck other men, but to enhance my marriage with my husband. In fact, the latter is priority number one! And if you don’t do the same, then you are not Hotwifing….you are just dating and playing the field.

To avoid the tragedy, ..set ground rules….both of you! My Stag and I do not have many ground rules now but we started off with a ton of them. And if you are just starting off in this lifestyle, I can recommend a few to use on your own. Experiment with them. Use them if you like. Add to them if you like. Delete a couple if you like. It really is all about what works best for you both as a couple.

A good one to start with is to set the ground rule of ..You do not message or contact men without your Stags approval. And you do not agree to meet anyone without his approval. This will eliminate the possibility of jealousy.

Another good one is that you will not have a playdate without your Stag being present. The truth of this one is that your Stag most likely really will demand this anyway for safety sake.

Another is that there is no kissing (I can’t do this one at all and my Stag has never laid down this rule but there are those who are serious about this one)

Couples who are ok with the wife playing alone, some set a rule for the Hotwife to take pics and video each and every time they have a playdate. (This is one of my Stags rules).

Another good one for beginners is to always include the Stag, whether that be by the sex itself or the constant eye contact or touching. This is used to assure the partner that you are his always and it also helps show affection in a very intimate setting.

Some Stags require their Hotwife to dress super sexy. But I think this is a given anyway!

Another very good one for beginners is to set the rule that anytime one of you is feeling uncomfortable with anything, that you immediately stop and talk about it until you come to an agreement and set the boundary or draw a line in the sand.

Remember you can set whatever ground rules that you like. And also remember that this isnt just about you. Do not get into this lifestyle thinking that your needs are to be met only. That doesnt work. This lifestyle is for you both. Keep each other in mind at all times and you will have a great time!

This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and stories of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions or stories today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! ♂️♀️♂️ ~LillybGoddess