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Techniques For Hotwives

This is awesome. Just pure awesome. Thanks Albany Hotwife! 

From: http://albanyhotwife.tumblr.com/page/10

Techniques For Hotwives; I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

She shared a dream

How awesome is this... my sexy Hotwife told me about a dream she had. In it, she was in a bar, dressed sexy and wearing her anklet. She'd crossed her legs so the anklet was nicely displayed. She had 3 guys flirting and hitting on her with lots of mild touching (hands on knees, etc.). She said she was enjoying the attention.

Now I don't know if she was just being nice and telling me a story that she thought I'd like to hear, or if it was genuine... but it sure got me worked up hearing about it.

I can't wait to reach that level with her and actually do it.

Such a great post. I must help to keep it alive.

Sexual Questions ;)

1. First kiss? 2. First time masturbating? 3. First sex toy? 4. First kink tried? 5. First time doing oral? 6. First time having sex?
 -Turn Ons 7. Biggest turn on? 8. Biggest turn off? 9. Quickest way to get horny? 10. Weirdest thing that ever turned you on? 11. Top 3 places to be touched? 12. Ultimate fantasy? 13. Do you like the idea of a three or moresome? 14. Do you send nudes? Do you like receiving them?
 -Preferences 15. Sex or masturbation? 16. Spit or swallow? 17. Cut or uncut dicks? 18. Rough or sensual sex? 19. Oldest person you’d sleep with? 20. Loud or quiet partners? 21. How much foreplay do you like? 22. How much teasing do you like? 23. What is too big for you to take? 24. Do you do hookups or only sleep with a partner? 25. How much kissing do you like during sex? 26. What’s the most attractive part of the body?
 -Location 27. Would you have sex in public? 28. Last place you had sex? 29. Where would you most like to have sex? 30. Do you like spontaneous sex, or do you need to be in the mood? 31. Could you go through with a hookup at a strangers house?
 -Kinks 32. What’s your biggest kink? 33. Are you okay with name calling in bed? 34. Would you do any BDSM? 35. Do you prefer to tie somebody up or be tied up? 36. Do you like orgasm denial/forced orgasm? 37. Do you like overstimulation? 38. Do you like having pain involved? 39. Do you like biting/being bitten? 40. Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it? 41. Do you have any strange or extreme kinks? 42. Have any roleplaying preferences? 
-Masturbation 43. Do you own sex toys? How many? 44. What do you masturbate to? 45. How often do you masturbate? 46. How often do you use sex toys to masturbate? 47. Do you masturbate with penetration? 48. Do you go for multiple rounds or settle at one or no orgasms?
 -Oral 49. Do you enjoy giving oral? 50. Do you prefer giving or receiving oral? 51. What makes you orgasm the fastest when receiving oral? 53. Can you deepthroat? 
54. Do you like playing with your clit? If so how do you prefer to do it? 55. What’s your breast size? 56. How often do you go braless? 57. Do you finger yourself? 58. How familiar are you with your g-spot? 59. Do you squirt?
 -Sex 60. How often do you do unprotected sex? 61. How loud are you in bed? 62. Do you enjoy having nipples played with? 63. Do you like/dislike cum? 64. How good are you at dirty talk? 65. Do you get sleepy after an orgasm? 
66. Do you trim, shave or leave pubic hair untouched? 67. How do you prefer partners pubic hair? 68. How many orgasms can you have in a day? 69. How many other people know your bra size? 70. What do you wear to bed? 71. Any funny sex stories? 72. What food if any would you use during sex? 73. Would you give somebody a sex toy as a gift? 74. What’s the weirdest porn you’ve ever seen? 75. Do you often get horny in public? 76. Ever used something that isn’t made for sex in the bedroom? 77. Have you ever walked in on somebody or been walked in on? 78. Do you have any friends you’d sleep with?

Any symbols for Stags to wear?

So we've only just started this exciting journey. I've designed an emblem that represents our Stag & Vixen relationship, had it engraved onto a heart charm and presented it to my wife as a "Hotwife Proposal" as an anklet. (I happily announce she said "yes". I was more nervous over this proposal than when I first proposed to her 25 years ago).

I'd like to wear something that indicates that I'm married to a Hotwife without it being some kind of humiliating cuckold message. Perhaps a piece of matching jewellery that other Hotwife couples will recognise.

Is there any accepted jewellery for Stags, like anklets are for Hotwifes?

That's awesome. I hope my wife reads this....

Ok so my husband and I recently started exploring the "hotwife" dynamic. Mostly he encouraged it and it took me a while to come around to it, but recently I told him that I'd be open to it under the right circumstances. That was about a month ago. I read your blog all the time, and I remember you saying something like when a wife decides that it is possible for her to do something like this and opens her mind to what it might mean, that her daily life changes. Her confidence blooms, and she sees men a different way. Let me tell you, 100% that is my experience. I guess I'm giving off some kind of vibe, because I swear that ever since I internally determined that I might do this, almost every attractive man I see--in a grocery store, in a store, just about everywhere, gives me that "look"--you know, where the eye contact lasts just a second too long. It's been an exciting, flirty, experience. It's also a super turn on. I don't know if I'll ever find the right guy. At this point I hope I do, because I'm wearing my husband out at night to the point he can't keep up. So this isn't really a question, just a comment. We've been married 10 years by the way--both of us are 35.

I know, right? Can't tell you how often I hear this. Even though I've been open to this for like 11 years now, I still have this experience out and about--maybe not to the same level you're now having it, but still. There's something to be said for the novelty of it--if you've been married that long and who knows how long you were committed before to him, you haven't opened yourself up to "flirting" for a long time. To find out attractive men are attracted to you is, well...intoxicating is a great word.

Also sounds true.

Women Need More Than 1 Sex Partner

Anthropologists and sex researchers have puzzled over why women are multi-orgasmic and men aren’t.  It really doesn’t make sense if your model is that men are more sexual. Shouldn’t men be able to have multiple orgasms quicker than women? Yet it makes perfect sense when you realize women evolved for having multiple partners.

Of late, scientists are starting to believe that women who had greater orgasmic capabilities had greater survival outcomes thereby passing their genes onto their children.  This was partly reproductive.  A woman’s chance of getting pregnant was greater if she had sex with multiple men. Pretty simple.  In addition, the offspring's survival was greater if she had sex with multiple partners outside of her most fertile time of the month.  Multiple partners would help to take care of her and their children.  Consistent sex led to deeper social connections.

Women evolved to have multiple partners.   That was the natural order until relatively recently when the practice of 1 woman for 1 man took hold. 

All of this is confirmed by people in the lifestyle. A man’s sex drive  remains fairly stable even with multiple partners.  However, a woman’s sex drive skyrockets when she has multiple partners.  The way it takes shape might be different. Some women like a more connected approach with 1 or 2 additional sex partners.   Some women need the variety of many casual sex partners.  Either way, the husband benefits from having a more confident empowered wife.  A happy wife equals a happy life. 

More husbands are realizing this and helping their wives by encouraging them to take on additional sex partners.

Let's change the memes

There are so many captioned images out there in circulation, but they are all running off one common thread, using the same formula:

They are fantasy situations intended for the stag/cuck to feed our hotwife fantasy. None are for the actual hotwife's enjoyment.

Let's change this!!!

Instead of re-posting other people's memes, let's rather make our own. Let's make them intended to send to our wives encouraging their hotwife desires. Let's make posts that we can send to our wives as naughty sext messages. It seems wrong to send her a pic of another hot woman propositioning me to be my hotwife. It should be of a big cock being offered up for her pleasure. (or similar)

We keep talking about how we do this Hotwifing thing out of compersion, that it's all for her enjoyment, but these memes are so obviously for our own pleasure feeding our own fantasies that they feel a little hypocritical. Let's start a new wave of memes - memes we can send to our wives. memes that they will enjoy and expand their thinking.

So, who's on board?

(BTW, I'm a graphic designer, so if you want me to make a few for you because you have the ideas, but not the tools to make them yourself, just pop me a message)

Soooo many fun ideas here

Non-Cheating Hotwife Challenge

This is for a non-cheating “Hotwife”.  These dares involve flirting and risqué behavior only which are designed to increase trust, confidence, desire, appreciation, lust, intimacy and FUN in the marriage. NO ACTUAL CHEATING TAKES PLACE!! Make up your own “rewards” for achieving certain point levels.  

 1 Point

 #1 – Suck a lollipop seductively in public.

 #2 - Play naughty ‘truth or dare.’

 #3 – Send your hubby a kinky pic of you while shopping.

 #4 - Let your hubby take sexy pics of you flashing in public.

 #5 - Talk to someone on the phone whilst you use a dildo or a vibrator.  Bonus point if it’s one of your husband’s  friends or a male family member.

 2 Points

 #6 - Go out in public in a short skirt with no panties.  Bonus point if you bend over with people around!

 #7 - Wear a skirt and remove your panties in public not far from people.

 #8- Get your hubby a cock cage and lock him up while you dress provocatively all week.

 #9 – Role-play that your hubby is a stranger and you’re a horny, cheating wife.

 #10 - Flash your boobs to a stranger.  Bonus point if it’s “accidentally” to a male acquaintance!

 3 Points

 #11 – Eye fuck a guy. Bonus point if it’s in front of your husband!

 #12 – “Forget” to wear your bra in public when it’s somewhat noticeable.

 #13 – Wear a loose fitting top in public.  Bend over in front of attractive people.  Bonus point if no bra!

 #14 - Have your hubby make his dick bigger with a penis extender and role-play that he’s a big-dicked stranger.

 #15 – Tell your hubby he can cum only at the thought of you with another man.

 4 Points

 #16 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt with your hubby.

 #17 - Hubby picks out a revealing outfit for you for the day. Whenever you catch someone looking, smile.  At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while he strokes himself.

 #18 - Flirt with another man while you’re seated.  Cross your legs slowly as you talk and see his reaction. Bonus point if you’re wearing a skirt/dress. 5 bonus points if wearing a skirt/dress and no panties!

 #19 – Flirt strongly with a girl.  Tell your husband all about it if he’s not there.  Bonus point if your hubby is present!

 #20 – Go to dinner with a low cut top and your tits out.  Put your tits on display every time the server comes to your table.  Bonus point if the server gets caught obviously looking!

 5 Points

 #21 – In front of people (strangers or acquaintances), say slutty things.

 #22 - Get a lap dance at a strip club with your husband watching.

 #23 – “Accidently” show someone a hot pic of you while showing them something on your phone.

 #24 - Get hit on and picked up by a hot guy.  Your hubby can “rescue” you at the right time.

 #25 - Go to dinner with your husband.  After the meal, slip your panties off and sit at the bar and flirt with other men as he watches.

 6 Points

 #26 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt without your hubby.

 #27 - Go out in public with a remote vibrator in you and talk to attractive guys.  Your hubby watches and controls it.

 #28 - Dress revealing.  Look at an attractive guy until he looks away.  Bonus point if he approaches you!

 #29 - Make up a story about getting it on with another girl while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #30 - Have an anonymous dirty conversation with a stranger online.

 7 Points

 #31 – Time how quickly your hubby cums when you talk about:

a.   Fucking another man

b.  Sucking another man

c.   Him and a stranger (guy or girl) sharing you

 #32 - At a party, leave at least one extra button unbuttoned.  

 #33 – Make up a story about fucking or sucking another guy while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #34- Wear a button-up top.  Hubby dictates how much cleavage is shown.  Smile and flirt with every person that looks. At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while you blow him.

 #35 – Next girls’ night out, wear a dress or skirt with no panties.

 8 Points

 #36 – Hubby gives you money to buy new shoes.  Wear a skirt with no panties while trying them on while someone assists you.

 #37 - Wear a short skirt, dress or revealing top with no wedding ring. Have fun and see how much attention you get.  Share it with your husband as you stroke him.

 #38 - Have your hubby fuck you slowly while you tell him a made-up fantasy about fucking someone else.

 #39 - Use a vibrator while watching porn (any genre - your choice) while describing how hot the guy is or how big his cock is while your husband is forced to masturbate.  

 #40 – Fuck in the bathroom of a club or bar after flirting with strangers.

 9 Points

 #41 – Tell your hubby a made up story about having sex with someone else while he fingers you.  Bonus point if it’s a true story from your past and you let him know!

 #42 - “Accidentally” rub against a guy’s dick through his pants with your hand or ass.

 #43 - Wear a short skirt.  Do things like crossing your legs, adjusting your shoes, etc. to see if any strangers try and look up the skirt.  If you catch them, smile.  Bonus point if no panties!

 #44 - Dress sexy and sit at a bar by yourself.  Smile, flirt, bend over, etc. as your hubby watches.  Then go home with your hubby and fuck!

 #45 – Hubby dresses you as he sees fit.  Go out and do whatever he asks.

 10 Points

#46 - On a girls’ night out, send your husband pictures of you flirting and having fun with other men.

 #47 - Get 3 guys to buy you a drink at the bar.  Do whatever it takes to make it happen!

 #48 - Go to a club and dance with another man while your husband watches.

 #49- Go out without your hubby, flirt with strangers, and keep texting your husband giving him updates about it.

 #50 - Wear sexy, tight, short or revealing clothes when his friends are over.  Do things like bending over, etc. to show it off! See how often you both catch them sneaking peeks.

I imagine my wife has a fuckbuddy/boyfriend because she has needs that she is ashamed of and to embarrassed to tell me. I'm her husband, best friend and father to her child. She's "stuck" with me long-term but a boyfriend is disposable. If she expresses these desires with him and feels ashamed, she can just dump him and never see him again. I love to give her this freedom to express herself so freely. She tells me about her dates, but I know she leaves a lot out and my imagination fills in the blanks.