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trans men and transmascs do not deserve to be misgendered for any reason. don't let people do that you to. it's still transphobia no matter how much someone hates men. stop thinking about filming catty tiktoks and instagram reels and writing rude, exclusionist and violent text posts about how it's okay to misgender trans men to farm likes, engagement and comments on social media.

don't care if this rhetoric is popular right now. that doesn't make it right.

to trans men: you don't have to and can stop apologizing for being a man. it'll save you. you don't have to hate yourself for the approval of transphobic assholes like that. trans manhood is quite literally nothing to be ashamed of.

genuinely have had numerous people tell me that as a trans man i'm "a men's rights activist invading trans spaces".

so many people legitimately do not see trans men as trans.

i need people to understand that so many people for some reason have the idea that trans = feminine or woman. it's a real issue.

how are trans men invading trans spaces? this is where we live. and of course we're gonna advocate for our own rights. why wouldn't we? we don't exist to self flagellate because the idea of transsexual and transgender manhood and masculinity frightens you. i'm a trans man. i'm trans. i'm not invading my own community.

"Unfortunately, I'm a trans man"

Oh honey, no. Fortunately, you are. Because the world needs more people who aren't afraid to be their most authentic selves. Being a man is yours, and I will celebrate it with you.

I can't believe "trans men face oppression for their gender identity" is a controversial take now in the year of our Lord 2024 but here we are ig

The amount of "men DNI" "I hate men bc theyre inherently violent/evil/manipulative/etc" "why would you ever want to me a man lol" "men suck" "I could NEVER be friends with a man" "imagine dating a dude. ew" "testosterone is basically poison" and other related anti-masculinity rhetoric I see in "leftist" spaces, especially queer spaces, is genuinely disturbing.

I think a lot of it follows the mindset of "women aren't worth less than men, its actually the other way around" like. yall are just reinventing gender essentialism in a more "progressive" way and its doing a lot of fucking harm to trans communities especially. Respect for one gender doesn't mean disrespect for another. It isn't a fucking pie.

and these same people are always the same ones with "transandrophobia truthers dni, it doesnt exist" in their bios

(through gritted teeth) sometimes what's good for your mental health isn't another do nothing day or a little treat sometimes what's good for you is putting in some of the work. Not all of it at once but sometimes you have to finish that essay or at least take the next step or you have to clean your room or at least dust the shelves or you gotta do the laundry or at least put it all in the hamper and it's not fun and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks but you have to because i read a post on the internet that told me that's what being nice to yourself is sometimes

Estrogen saved my life I think

your greatest creation is yourself

little gift for my bf :)

instagram link

please

celebrating my 5 year top surgery anniversary today, so I wanted to draw something that reflects the bliss of feeling your chest for the first time. happy pride 🏳️‍⚧️⚧️💙🩷🤍

Messaging people for the first time is so hard. What am I supposed to say? Like, "You seem really odd and your blog intrigues me. Do you want to have philosophical conversations or perhaps talk about fictional characters?" What! Whatever. I will just follow you back and stare at your blog with my big beautiful brown eyes.

"i am agab" ❌

"i was agab" ✅

"agab" (assigned gender at birth) describes a past event where you were merely assigned a label by a doctor

not biological sex,

and not an identity label.

This is the first in a series or Trans Stories I'm Willing To Share With The Internet, but it's about the first times I started to figure out I might be Trans!

When i was a young child, we used to have these neighbors that lived down the street. I tried being friends with the youngest of their family, who was still a few years older than me.

One day, we were sitting in the Den (like a livingroom that's one step lower than the rest of the house)(also maybe reffered to as a man cave)(I don't care) and I turned to the boy and asked

"Hey, if you didn't know i was a girl, would you be able to tell?"

I had started noticing that i had more "masculine" facial features (thicker eyebrows, broad shoulders, square face shape, my dad's big nose/forehead, ect.) At the time I was a little self conscious about this, but that didn't help the pang of hurt I felt when it was confirmed that I still looked "feminine"

Of course, he said "obviously," and we moved on, but for "some reason", I was deeply disappointed by this

This is just one of many dozens of stories I have like this

When I was even younger, i tried walking around the house Shirtless. No traing bra, no shirt, no bathing suit, nothing! I hadn't gone through any puberty, but that didn't stop my Dad and Brother from yelling at me! My argument was that they walked around shirtless all the time, why couldn't I? It's hot, let me take off my shirt too!

Nope! No, no, no. My mom had to quickly explain there's a difference between boys and girls and that I can't be shirtless, even around my family...

When i was in middle school (early teenage years for non Americans) I would dress more masculinly to "scare off anyone looking at my baby sibling" because I wanted to be a protective older brother

When I hit highschool, during the pandemic, I started experimenting with my hair and my freedom of expression. I buzzed it off at the beginning of lockdown so I could dye cool patterns into it, and as it grew out I kept the sides shaved and grew a mowhawk, dyed red ofc. But I had to attend classes again, with red liberty spikes, a black face mask, and new confidence. People in the hallways called me the "mowhawk guy". I wasn't even thinking about my gender identity at the time, yet I always felt this bubble of giddiness every time I heard about the "mowhawk guy" from my friends.

Maybe I was being made fun of, who knows, it made me happy

I've been mistaken for a man from behind, especially when I had shorter haircuts, and any time I heard someone call out "sir!" When trying to get my attention! I would live off of that high for weeks, if not months!

I started going by He Pronouns almost 2 years ago, but i told myself I was Genderfluid. I kind of used this as a crutch, so I didn't have to correct anyone...but I always have a secret preference for Masc Pronouns.

I've always shopped in men's clothing, the loose shirts didn't have corny slogans on them, the shirts weren't cropped, the jeans didn't hug anything, I liked the styles of old band tees and flannels...

Anyway, those are the times that stick out in my mind as the first few times I experienced Gender Dysphoria and Euphoria! Thank you for reading my ramblings, and if you have any stories of your own, please reblog and share! I love hearing about others experiences!

Trans tips #4!

Reframing how you talk to/about yourself!

I talk to myself alot! Okay maybe not TO myself but I have a weird habit of narrating everything I am doing in my head to myself.

One thing I have to make a conscious effort to do is to use my preferred name in my head. Often I'll have my narration going on and I'll have to interrupt it to use my preferred name

Same goes for my Pronouns!

Example from today: "(Deadname) turned the ignition off, grabbing her keys and taking a deep breath before opening the door- no, wait, LI grabbed his keys, and reached for the handle of his door, ready to go to work..."

It's okay to make mistakes, and to have hiccups, it doesn't make you any less Trans!

Maybe I should stop taking to myself but I digress!!!

The other thing i do is i reword how I refer to myself, my body, my clothes, ect.

I started referring to my bras, which I use as binders, as harnesses. Idk why but this makes me feel much better about myself.

I don't own boxers as of right now as an obligatory Broke Collage Student BUT I stopped calling my undies Panties and call them Undies. I hated the word panties anyway so whatever! I also wear alot of loose horror t-shirts and cargo pants with docs (in case you wanna know how I dress for some reason!) So no renaming there!

Onto my body, right now I sit at a C cup, so no flat chest here, but I still call it my chest and my pecks, and I try to avoid saying Tits, Boobs, ect. They are my pecks and bitches be jealous of my big soft pecs!

Reframing how you refer to yourself can help a little bit with dysphoria! Remember that you got this and do what works for you, this is just what works for me!

Trans tips #3!

I feel like this is said over and over and over but I wouldn't be a good Trans Teacher unless I reminded you to Please Practice Safe Transing!

(I don't know how else to word this)

If you wear Tape! Don't tape your Nips! If you do, get pasties or something! Use proper tape! Not duct tape or packing tape / ect.! Take care of your skin! Use baby diaper wash cream and let your skin heal before you tape again! Do Not Rip Your Skin Off For The Sake Of Taping!!!

If you Bind! Even if it's exceptionally tight sports bras! TAKE! THOSE! FUCKERS! OFF!

You should spend at LEAST an hour outside of binders for every 2 hours you spend binding! That's just half the time! Take it tf off!!! The next post will be about rewording how you think you talk to yourself so look out for that!

DO NOT SLEEP OR EXCORCISE WHILE BINDING!!!

Drink lots of water! Stay hydrated! Tea or Coffee is not Water!!! Yes it contains water! But buddy, you body needs pure, unflavored, no additives water to help flush your kidneys and your system!

I know your dysphoric, please don't wear your hoodie or jacket if you are Too Hot! If it's warm enough to the point that you are sweating! Don't wear your hoodies and jackets!!! Please!!!!!

Take your other medicines and eat foods! It helps your meds work and your body work and your mind work and for the love of Fuck eat something!!!

to everyone who has been talked out of testosterone HRT because it will make you "scary": no it will not. testosterone isn't "scary". masculinization isn't "scary". being masculine or a man isn't "scary". it's just another way to be a person. testosterone HRT is a good thing. it helps many people. if you want to take it, take it. don't let anyone else tell you not to because it "scares" them. it's not happening to them. their fears don't matter to you. it's happening to you. it's your choice.

Trans tips #2!

To help with voice dismorphia, practice voice training!

I heard of voice training from a Trans woman on tiktok whom I only know as ellierellie. She brings up thr point that when people first transition, have can have a very unnatural and soft voice, almost like a stage voice.

Her tip is to project your voice to make it sound more natural! My favorite way to do this is to blast my music and sing in the deepest voice i can manage as loud as I can.

The volume of the music helps to cover the sound of your voice to make it more comfortable to talk louder. My favorite music to do this with is 70s/80s/90s rock! Lynyrd Skynyrd, Kiss, The Rolling Stones, ect. I also like to throw in some Hoizer, Arctic Monkeys, Cigarettes after Sex, and The Neighborhood!

I have my personal favorite songs for voice training, but I recommend avoiding songs where the singers voice pitches up or becomes whiney (i don't know how else to describe it, most sad music will have a cord or two where the singer cries out in a higher pitch voice)

I also recommend listening to music by singers of your preferred gender for this! I still enjoy my girly-pop early 2000s music but I often sing it in a mock-high pitched voice to make me feel better about my own voice...also, it's just fun!

You can look up good tutorials for voice training on YouTube! My method is just one of many, but it's the one that works best for me!

My first bit of Trans advice is to get some sort of insurance, I get free insurance for being a college student but you will need insurance if you want hormones.

I went to medical insurance .gov and filled out a form and they reached out with different plans, one being free for students.

Hello! I used to have a tumblr back in its earlier days but I've made a new one to better refect the changes I've gone through as a person

This change is brought in light of the new tiktok ban. I might be loosing my platform to spread good trans information and tips. So I will be unloading more stuff here as a backup social media platform!

Some information about me:

I am a trans man (ftm)

I am also queer, I feel it fits my identity the best

I am engaged to the most beautiful perfect wonderful person in all of existence, past existence, and to ever exist.

Some of my posts might be about how much I insanely love this woman and could happily dedicate my life to breathing her air and worshiping the ground she walks upon like a temple. But I digress

I have a hoard of cats, dogs, a fet tailed african gecko, some gerbils, and they are all my babys

I have an...interesting taste in music

One fun fact about me is whenever people try to describe me, they often just say "that is the most Li individual i have ever met"

I share about my journey, Trans tips, a little about my life, and whatever is on my mind

I hope you enjoy my blog. If you find something that is helpful, I'm glad I could help,

If you find something relatable, I'm glad I can relate,

If you find something inspirational, I'm glad I could inspire,

I hope you have a wonderful day and happy scrolling!