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You can insult me, but insult my Hogwarts house and it gets personal

I feel attacked

“I need to stop fantasizing about running away to some other life and start figuring out the one I have.”

— Holly Black

part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) "these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won't MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!" and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term "real men" is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women's pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners' pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don't get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that "well, I don't believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it's okay!"

basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it's equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can't just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.

I still think that my favorite urban legend/folklore fact is that there are certain areas in New Orleans where you cannot get a taxi late at night not because it isn’t safe, but because taxi companies have had recurring problems of picking up ghosts in those areas who are not aware that they are dead and disappearing from the cab before reaching the destination and therefore stiffing the driver on the fare causing a loss for the company.

A study tip:

This has been said before, but I feel it needs emphasising because it’s something I repeat to myself several times a day if I’m feeling overwhelmed.

The only way things will get done is if you start. The only way it will get easier is if you do it. The only way you will improve is if you accept that you do not yet know everything.

I’m a perfectionist and a procrastinator, so it’s hard for me to start if I feel I might not be perfect. If I tell myself this, it’s easier to pick up the pen and actually do something.

Classic Duo: The happy golden retriever and the mischievous black cat

“dude” but like romantically

This was something that I really needed and I'm kinda reblogging this for myself🙈🤷‍♀️

a couple of you guys were interested in what i listen to during my study sessions, so here i am, with a masterpost of different sounds you can play in the background while you work! our brains are constantly looking for distractions, which is what makes staying focused hard in the first place - by playing quiet sounds in the background, you can provide your brain with small distractions. this way, it doesn’t have to direct effort into finding them on its own, meaning more of your overall focus can go into the material you’re studying :)

i’ve gathered my recs into 5 categories: ambience, soundtracks, soundtrack + ambience, classical music, and pomodoro study with me videos

and lastly before the cut, here’s a short legend:

(x) - indicates how long the track is (i.e. (2) = 2 hrs) (//) - no music or major sounds *** - current fave

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