Me: Yeah, I Don't Really Understand How People Develop Celebrity Crushes Like They Can't Even Acknowledge

going to help give this advice to friends i know need this.

hey, im currently living with the abusive father you have described in the past. Any tips on making it out of here alive?

Jesus. Okay, so: write everything down. Any time something happens, write down the date, time, location, what was said, what happened, who was there, whatever you can. Hide it in a book, email it to yourself or someone you trust, whatever. Keep a paper trail going, just in case you need it down the road.

Next: do whatever you need to do to become independent and move out. This sounds scarier and harder than it is- I recommend finding a roommate, getting an online bank account, and taking courses like WHMIS, Foodsafe, etc. Online whenever possible. If you're in school, take a practical class if you can- higher education is great for highbrow work, but jobs will always have openings for manual labour. If you have something like welding or foodsafe under your belt, in addition to a driver's licence, you're pretty much good to go.

Do not underestimate the value of your local library. Public libraries are where you can go for study, computer work, printing and filling resumes, and getting assistance for whatever you can't do yourself.

I personally have a hard time clearly remembering day to day life from when I lived at home, but I do recall... Shit. Like.... Feeling empty? Empty and sharp and angry and scared? Indignant, too. Vindictive. But I also started developing a dependence on conflict to manage my stress, and that took a long time to get out of.

Also, a heads up: once you get out, things will probably seem great for a while, but don't be surprised if after a few months of safety and relative stability your mental health takes a sudden dive. Whatever wasn't safe to possess during your time at home often resurfaces once your brain feels secure to do so- 

read up on signs and symptoms of anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress, hypervigilance, anxiety and panic attacks, projection, and dissociation. 

Be prepared to speak to a doctor about it- keep a record of your mental and physical health when that happens. If the first doctor you see says anything about medication being "chemical crutches" or "hysteria blowing things out of proportion", go a different doctor. Find one that listens to what you say and is respectful when giving advice and opinions. If they disagree with your thinking, they should do so politely, and without making you feel irrational or dramatic.

Next.... What really changed my life for the better was time, cognitive processing exercises, and enrolling in a self-defense class.

Learning to recognize my own irrational thought patterns resulting from my abuse was fundamental to avoid spiralling into self-destruction, and self-defense gave me back the sense of autonomy and confidence I didn't realize had atrophied.

I won't lie- I'm not strong or fast or skilled enough to actually win a fight if someone intends to do me harm, but almost as valuable is the awareness that I am now *allowed* to defend myself. Encouraged, even! When someone touches me without my permission, I don't have to grit my teeth and wait it out. I now have the knowledge that I am able to react in self-defense, which seems obvious, but there is a very great difference between *knowing* and *comprehending*, after all. Working through that with other people certainly made that click.

Most importantly: the future probably feels very murky and abstract and far away, right now. But no matter what happens, your future will become your present, and you have in you the power to be whoever you want to be.

Life will bring you wonders you aren't yet equipped to comprehend, and that is a very encouraging truth.

I promise that you haven't yet imagined the good things waiting for you on the other side of the wall.

Please stay safe, and take care. I wish you the best of luck

Link: Hey Pipit, Cawlin gave me a love letter to deliver to Karane.

Pipit: What?! He did?! Well, um...

Link: Don't worry, I didn't give it to her. I know you like her. I gave it to the ghost who haunts the bathroom at night.

Pipit, who takes nightly patrols and knows exactly who Link is talking about: ...

Link: So the ghost fell in love with him and now haunts him at night. She gives him nightmares.

Pipit: Who hurt you?

Link: Cawlin and his friends did, were you not paying attention?

tw: vent

I'm a horrible person. I feel like somethings wrong with me I can't pin point it but I feel like somethings there. something, I don't know. I can't talk about neurodiversity or mental health because I tense up and start freaking out because I start thinking about what I use to think about myself. I try my best not to think about those things since I have in the past and I dug myself into a pit of self hate. I don't know what to do because I feel like questioning those things make me one of those kids who just take something very small from themselves and tell everyone they are neurodivergent. I can't do this anymore, and I faking all of this? Did I make it up? I remember last year I realized that people didn't like my personality so I made up a whole new one. I don't know who I am anymore. All I know is that something is wrong but I can't do anything to help it. So I'm stuck in a cycle.

genuinely so fucking tired of people leveraging the "groomer" argument against people who support sex ed because scientific literature over decades shows that comprehensive sex education starting around kindergarten actually prevents children from being sexually abused and groomed because it teaches children the correct words for their body parts and also teaches them concepts of privacy, personal space, bodily autonomy, the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touching, and the fact that sex is something that only adults do. children with this knowledge are not only better equipped to identify abuse and predatory behavior and communicate that its happening to a trusted adult, but also prevent it from happening in the first place by recognizing when something is happening that shouldn't.

sex education does not sexualize children, it prevents children from being sexualized. anyone who is against early foundational sex education and claims they are doing it to protect children is a fucking liar.

YES OFC IT'S SO AMAZING WE'RE LITERALLY SO PRIVLEGDED

stardew valley culture is making multiple saves just so you can marry your many villager crushes while not hurting their feelings by divorcing them.

oh shit, he's imprisoned someone.

Guess he's not going to church anymore. 🤷‍♂

andrew pls

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they'd just throw it away when cleaning anyways, so why get mad? that people are actually reusing plants?

I’m totally gonna do it

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