if yoko Ono had been a man they would sing his praises as the yaoi king that destroyed those infidel Beatles
i revisited the account of an artist i really like and now i'm getting napoleon x duke of whatever on my page............... beaucoup interresante
theyre in a polycule
i like how even liam was like... oookay that's embarrassing reel it back.
I hate noticing how being aware that I have a woman's voice limits how I use it and limits my ability to talk back to people because I know it's not perceived the same as a man's - commanding, believable, threatening.
Living in Finland, the apartment building I live in has a common sauna (you need to book your shift). Several times when I have been in there, I have heard someone aggressively trying to open the door. I assume it's just someone trying to go to the sauna for free, testing if it's vacant. I hate that I find myself thinking, I want to yell fuck off, but then that person will hear there is a woman in here, alone. So I do nothing and swallow my frustration.
I have a neighbour who has an animal that makes quite a bit of noise. What annoys me more than the noise is him shouting "quiet!" at the animal whenever it makes a peep. I want to yell "you shut up!" at him, but I don't, because I remember my voice doesn't boom like his. Would he even hear it through the walls like I hear him? Would he give a shit hearing a woman nagging at him? So I do nothing and swallow my frustration.
This happens in public spaces, too. I'm afraid to speak up because I'm too aware that as a woman, I'm perceived as weak, vulnerable, shrill, and easy to dismiss. A man taking a stand with his voice evokes a completely different response in people, at least that's how I feel. I hate noticing that in situations like this, I ask my male partner to speak up for me if he is there, knowing that his voice will lend my thoughts more credibility than my own.