How To Transform Her Into A Hot Wife.

I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Great advice

We're young, and I really do think she's the one, but that makes me worried I'd ruin things by being open about wanting to see her fuck someone else. I know it's kind of contradictory, like if we are meant to be our relationship should be fine after experimenting with sharing, but it's still tough getting the balls to admit it to her.

Most hotwife blogs will tell you not to go through with it given those feelings, but this is not a hotwife blog. I think a little bit of jealousy is hot. And when two dudes are grunting away like a couple of cavemen to satisfy one vixen, I think it’s arousing.

So you don’t want to look weak right? Trust me, if you say something like,

“I think it would be hot competing for you against other alpha males. I would love to prove to you why you married me over and over again. I like the thought of putting you on a pedestal and I feel a flutter of excitement and jealousy when I catch guys looking at you.”

Now stop being a pussy and go eat your wife’s.

#want to share her

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

How to transform her into a hotwife.

Practice tip # 2.

Use Porn — Gifs and clips to explore the boundaries of her sexuality.

This is gonna sound worst than it is but teasing out the inner hotwife in your woman will likely require a little bit of mild manipulation on your part. Remember, she has grown up in a judeo -Christian society that stigmatizes sex and neuters it of its pleasure and creativity. It’s a shame that men can walk around in public shirtless showing off washboard abs, hard pecs, and chiseled biceps, but if a woman puts on a form fitting dress and some heels she’s considered a whore. Don’t get me started. I digress.

My point with this lesson is porn will be one of the most important tools for you to use to transform your girl into a hotwife. In this lesson you will use porn ostensibly to ask her opinion about sex but covertly you will be leading her to exploring her sexual boundaries and more importantly causing her to explore them as well. You will also, and here is where the slight manipulation comes in, use porn to normalize sexual behavior that you like by suggesting everyone is doing it. For example by using gifs and clips that show anal sex, sloppy BJs, threesomes, etc., if done correctly overtime, you will not only pique her curiosity but in some cases work her into a frenzy wanting to try it. Be careful what you wish for because once she decides it’s something she really wants to experience she may do it with or without you!!

How is this done? It’s easy really. You should start to collect short clips and Gifs that demonstrate the kinds of sexual experiences that you want to open her up to. You should also collect photos of popular celebrity women, especially her favorites dressed provocatively. You will use the images you collect sporadically to not only learn what she likes and is open to do, but more importantly introduce her to new experiences and behaviors that go beyond her comfort zone. Your goal here is not to force her to do something she’s not comfortable with. Your goal here is to enlarge her comfort zone so that she is engaging in new behaviors willingly and passionately.

My ex used this technique on me. I never saw it coming and only realized it was part of a plan long after we had broken up. I had actually considered a threesome in my head because I have a hot girlfriend who told me she got drunk one night and did it with two guys. She said it was cool. I was intrigued but I didn’t tell her and I certainly would not have told my BF. It was a secret that I was too ashamed to admit or even think much about because I didn’t want to be considered a slut. However, after my boyfriend used this technique on me, not only was I admitting to him that I wanted two dicks but I was tellling him while sucking his cock and pumping a dildo in my pussy. It took time to get there but it started with him sending one gif of a hot girl getting spit roasted by two guys. He captioned with “whoa. This is hot”. He didn’t ask me to respond to it but by captioning it the way he did he removed all negative judgment by letting me know he liked it and it turned him on.

Over time he would occasionally send threesome gifs followed by questions that sometimes had nothing to do with the sex. He might refer to her clothing, shoes or hair I.e “I could see you with that haircut” or “she kinda looks like you”. He deftly put me in the scene. His comments caused me to imagine myself in her position. He also would make a lot of positive comments about the girl like “she’s a boss” or “she has a lot of confidence to do that” Jis comments were designed to make me see the woman in a positive light. I remember him asking me once what I thought it would feel like to have all that stimulation happening to my body at the same time. That question really resonated with me. His technique got me thinking more and more about threesomes. Not just thinking about them but believing that all confident, good looking girls were doing it. I began feeling left out and the thought of my hot friend being with two guys certainlybdidnt hurt my BF’s efforts. It wasn’t long before I opened up and started commenting back on the gifs and clips. I even kept a few I really liked and used them to masturbate to.

Porn is a versatile tool and can be used to advance your goal of making a hot wife in other ways too. I may address those uses in a future post. No go out and start dragging the inner slit out of your demure girl next door.

Pure wisedon for husbands

had a threesome with my bestfriend and my girlfriend. she moaned so much more louder with his dick in her wet warm pussy. and she tells me that she fucks her better than i did

Glad you got the courage to share your girl. Now that you know he can fuck her better I hope you are taking this as an opportunity to up your game.

Watch tutorials on PornHub and eat her pussy more, start a healthy diet so your loads are bigger, and work out more so you can pound her harder. 

You need to show your female that you’re competing for her at the highest level. Otherwise, what’s the point?

#prove yourself

Great advice!

Looking to get my gf into the lifestyle or even just open up more sexually without telling her outright, any tips would be welcome!

Show her you love her.

not just in your words, but in your actions too. buy her flowers, buy her a card for no reason, help her around the house, and don’t forget to tell her you love her. Both men and women need to hear “I love you.”

Build her confidence.

Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful, tell her she looks nice in certain outfits, etc. If she has a nice ass, tell her. If she has great tits, tell her.It is important that the compliments are sincere. She will know if you are faking it.  During sex tell her how good it feels, how good she feels, how good she tastes. Tell her how good she is at sucking dick or how good her pussy feels.

Make her feel safe.

She has fantasies, even if she does not tell them to you or says she doesn’t. Open up about something you have never shared. She her it is safe. You’re together and you’re not going to judge each other.

Be honest.

If she asks you a question, no matter how embarrassing or hard the answer is, be honest. Trust is key to a woman’s ability to open up sexually.

Share some porn.

Text her a sexy picture or see if she will watch a porno with you. This is a great way to introduce kinks or to get the conversation started.

TALK.

After you have watched some porn or shared a few tumblr pics, flirt and tease about them. See if she is receptive. If she resists, back off and try again at another time. Once you plant the seed, water it from time to time and her mind will do the rest. She may be into some of the same things, but like you she does not know hot to bring them up. Crack the door for her.

You may need to do these steps for a several months before she starts to feel secure enough to open up, so have patience. If you rush it or try to force it, she will retreat. Remember your relationship should always come before sexual fantasies. Our fantasies are part of who we are, but we all guard them for fear of judgment or rejection. It is YOUR job to take those fears away from her and provide the environment she needs to relax and let go of her fears.

I hope this helps and good luck.

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Are you ready for an open relationship?

More and more couples are experimenting with having an open relationship - basically, a relationship where each partner is allowed to have other sexual partners outside the relationship. Open relationships are different from polyamorous relationships; typically, in an open relationship, the couple remains emotionally committed to each other and only allows sexual, non-romantic relationships outside of that couple. Open relationships can be a means to cope with long distance, avoid boredom, or just add some variety to your sex life. They work well for some people, but they do require extra communication if they’re going to work.  If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, there are some important questions that the two of you need to discuss first. Namely:

Are both of you equally on board with opening the relationship? Or does one partner feel pressured into agreeing with it because they don’t want to lose the relationship? It’s okay if you’re both nervous or hesitant, but if one person is on board and the other one isn’t, that’s a recipe for disaster.

What are you hoping to get out of an open relationship? Why is this arrangement better for you? It’s okay if you both have different answers, but you should both be getting some benefit out of this. Neither of you should feel like you’re only tolerating this for your partner’s sake.

How much do you want to know about each other’s hookups? Do you have to notify your partner in advance when you’re going to hook up with someone? Do they want to hear the details? Or would they prefer not to know anything about it at all?

Are you allowed to hook up with people your partner knows, and vice versa? Are mutual friends off the table? Are you allowed to hook up with casual acquaintances, or people within your social circles? Or total strangers only?

Is your partner allowed to “veto” certain people that you might hook up with, and vice versa? Are there any potential hookups that are totally off the table? Do you have to give your partner a chance to veto a hookup beforehand?

Are you allowed to see the same person repeatedly outside of the relationship? Or is there a one-night-stand only rule?

Are you allowed to hook up with people within the same zip code? Some open arrangements only allow for hookups when one partner goes out of town. 

How are you going to make sure that you’re both being safe and avoiding disease? Are condoms mandatory? Will you both agree to get tested regularly? The answer to both questions should be yes, but it’s important that you both understand how important it is. 

What happens if one of you develops feelings for someone else? Do you have to tell your partner about it? Or just stop seeing the other person?

Is there an end date to the open relationship? Are you only open when you’re apart? Are you going to test this out for a “trial period” and then reassess if you like it? Are you going to continue to be open if/when you move in together, get married or have children?

What happens if one person wants to close the relationship? Does one person wanting to close the relationship mean it’s closed? Or do you both have to agree before that happens?

Are you going to tell people that you’re in an open relationship? How? Are there certain people that you aren’t going to tell, like parents or grandparents? 

Are you going to be okay if your partner has an easy time finding partners and you don’t? Or vice versa? Many people opening up their relationships assume that both partners will have an equally easy time finding people to hook up with, and this is definitely not always the case. 

This seems like a lot of questions and a lot of logistics, but the more you communicate beforehand, and the clearer your boundaries and ground rules are, the more likely you are to have a successful open relationship. An open relationship is supposed to be fun, but that’s not possible if one or both of you is wallowing in hurt feelings. Communicate your needs openly, and don’t be afraid to speak up if there’s a line you absolutely don’t want crossed. 

Your blog gets me sooooo wet. I’ve always loved the thought of banging multiple dudes. Then my hubby admitted to wanting to share me and when I asked how long he said he’d never even been interested in wife sharing until he met me and that turns me on in itself. Trying to work up the courage to post a pic of my big pierced tits on here and see how many guys would be willing to fuck me ;)

Some women are naturally sluttier than others. These women have a high libido and can basically have anything they want once they realize the power of their pussy. Your husband realized this and put you on a pedestal fast. He wants a HotWife not a cheating wife.

And yes, show us your tits, but also show us that freshly fucked pussy once in awhile so we know you’re not all talk.

#slut confession 

Thanks for sharing this great advice!

The dangers of the lifestyle

Many ask how to begin living this lifestyle; often, how to convince the wife. My answer is always the same: don’t.

I want to use the perfect words I found online time ago (here http://bit.ly/2wRyUEv , all credits due to the original poster):

When me & my long term girlfriend were thinking about this, both of us were incredibly turned on physically about it, but she just would not take the final step because of the emotional dangers. She said because we men can easily separate the physical & emotional we don’t understand that very few women can, and the same thing that makes them lust for a man in bed (which is what guys in this situation want) is the same thing that makes her become emotionally attached to him.

My partner’s last words on the subject were ‘if we go through with this, you will lose me emotionally, and once you’ve lost me emotionally, the physical won’t be far behind, and then it will be the beginning of the end.’

This is so very true.

Over the years, I witnessed so many times the same pattern. Of all the other couples we met living the lifestyle, from cuckolds to hotwives, every possible variation on the theme, I can say ALL split. All but one: the one where both partners were already living the style before meeting.

All the couples that began experimenting together, eventually broke up. The change in the bond between them, which silently grows over time, in the end destroyed them as a couple.

The woman feels less and less 'bound’ to her man, and she usually starts feeling emotions for someone else. It’s almost like breaking the physical limitation opens a breach in her emotions.

The man is pulled towards a spiral of personal fantasies, growing detached not only from his woman, but from her desires and wishes. In divergent directions, he usually loses the capacity to listen to her, and he doesn’t ultimately notice that she’s slowly slipping away.

So, here’s my advice. If it’s a shared fantasy, something both partners were willing to try for a long time, you’ll find the way to try. Internet offers plenty of options. In all other cases, don’t ever try to convince her or him; in the end it will destroy her or him, and you as a couple.

A brilliant thought.

I was about to send a message about how this is a hot fantasy when I remembered that last year my boyfriend was depressed for a month and I took it personally and ended up sucking off a guy I had just met at the bar with my best friend. I ended up dating them at the same time, but was really confused at 1. Why a guy would seriously date me after swallowing the first night and 2. How I felt such little guilt. I will never tell my boyfriend because this really did happen and it would kill him.

Let me answer those two questions for you, cutie pie.  

1) Why would a guy date a girl who sucked him off on the first night who also has a boyfriend? That’s easy. Because you’re a slut. Promiscuous women will always be more sought after. Guys won’t admit it, but everyone wants a vixen.

2) How I felt such little guilt? Sweetheart, why on earth would you need to feel guilty? You did what your body asked you to do. Something that happens in nature shouldn’t make you feel guilty. Do you feel guilty for eating and drinking? Don’t be silly.

#slut confession