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RANDOM BUTTONS FOUND ON THE REMNANTS OF THE EARLY WEB DURING A SURFING SESH FROM EARLIER TODAY.... ENJOY?

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the not so perfect captain

Can't remember if I already made this post or not but anyways.

It's so fucking infuriating how binary trans people who are very clearly just dealing with abusive family members who are playing the goalpost shifting game will hear these clearly abusive family members say "I'd support you if only you were nonbinary, being [chosen gender] is just too much."

And instead of reckoning with the fact that their family members are blatantly lying and goalpost shifting, they instead decide to take these Blatant Fucking Lies at face value.

So then they come online and yell that nonbinary people are actually privileged over binary trans people and we're actually soooo much more accepted by cis people than binary trans people are.

Even though if these binary trans people told their shitty family members that they were nonbinary the goal posts would very blatantly just shift again. Because these cis bigots do not actually want them to be nonbinary, nor do they support nonbinary people. They're literally just fucking lying.

But binary trans people would rather blame nonbinary people for existing rather than accept the fact that their family members are just useless bigoted jackasses who hate all trans people, and are just very clearly pretending to accept whichever category the person they're talking to is not part of.

And it's not just kids who are doing this crap either, there are fully grown adults doing this shit. All in the name of shitting on nonbinary people and pretending that exorsexism isn't real because "actually cis people looooove you". No they fucking don't. You just have shitty people for family and would rather pretend they're not bigots than actually fucking have solidarity with nonbinary people and the basic understanding that you are being lied to to pit you against other trans people by cis people who will literally never accept you no matter how you identify unless you stop identifying as trans altogether and go back to pretending to be cis.

Stop fucking taking the blatant lies that cis people tell you at face value. Nonbinary people are not "more accepted" by cis people, you're just fucking lying right along with your bigoted shitty family members.

Hating us will not make your trans-hating family members accept you. They are fucking lying when they tell you they'd just respect you if only you were nonbinary. And if you keep defending them and directing your hatred at nonbinary people and pretending we have no real fucking problems, you are just as much a bigot as they are.

Sometimes you just need to accept the fact that your family is filled with abusive bigots who are lying to you. If you'd rather keep defending them in the name of hating nonbinary people and using us as your scapegoat, then fuck you.

"Lesbian means exclusive attraction to women!"

"No, it means non-men exclusively attracted to non-men!"

"It actually means queer attraction to women!"

"Lesbian means women and nonbinary people being exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people!"

Lesbian is a multifaceted label that can describe many different experiences. There is no one perfect definition of lesbian that will encompass the entire diverse experiences that lesbians can have.

I'm personally a genderqueer woman who's exclusively attracted to other women, but the lesbian next to me might be a transmasc lesbian who loves all genders except for men. And the lesbian next to them might be a bigender lesbian who's both a girl and a boy, who's exclusively attracted to women. Our experiences can all be described by the term lesbian if that's how we wish to describe it, but we might define it differently based on our own experiences. And guess what?

None of our definitions are wrong, but none of our definitions will encompass every other lesbian's experiences. A word can have multiple definitions without any of the definitions being wrong. And those definitions can be very vague or very specific. Labels are made to fit us- we aren't made to fit labels.

People who may have a different experience with the lesbian label are not your enemies. People in lesbian spaces who aren't exactly like you are not your enemies. The problem comes when you try to force one singular definition on every single lesbian. THAT is harmful. Sending death threats to other lesbians because they don't have the same experience as you is harmful. Not another lesbian having a different experience from you.

I'm reading Light for the first time and Michael Grant is so unserious. He gave this alien-demon-child every power under the sun but also made her nearsighted. I'm cackling.

"The nonbinary afab who goes by she/her, dresses femininely, and uses a push-up bra when I—" when you what? What's wrong with her?

Is she not nonbinary enough for you? Is the way she experiences her queerness and how she presents not perfect enough for you? Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny, right? So why is she the exception? Why does she have to hate herself to appeal to your standards? Why is she any less trans—any less worthy of respect—cause it's "not visible"? Queer solidarity my ass. Don't spout this bullshit on Pride, man.

sometimes a theme recurs in your work without your permission. and sometimes it reaches a threshold where you're like. well now i think this is saying something about me against my will. don't know what though

Stanley is an absolute asshole and that's one of my favorite parts about him. Like yeah we can talk about his hidden heart of gold and whatnot, how he subtly shows his care for the kids and for his brother, but, like. He's still an asshole.

He has beef with multiple children! (Gideon and Pacifica, at the very least). And he has a reason--- defending his family--- but it's still beef with children! He regularly scams travelers out large amounts of money! He doesn't pay his employees! He insults people to their face! Even if he's doing it out of projection love, he still gives Dipper the short end of the stick, like, all the time. He opens a potentially world-ending portal just to get back his brother--- that's an asshole thing to do!

And this isn't a critique of Stan at all. But his churlish asshole nature is a beautiful part of him that makes him a really fun character. Being a good character doesn't = being a nice character. I'd even argue him becoming nicer isn't--- shouldn't be--- a requirement for his character development post canon. This is a guy who's yelling at other boaters over the radio. This is a guy who undoes your boat's drain plug 'cause you insulted his brother. Stan's a rude, penny-pinching curmudgeon that his family insists is nice deep down because he is--- to them. He don't give a shit about anyone else!

Let Stan be mean, dammit. He deserves it.