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So... How do you find a good therapist for DID then..? We've heard so many horror stories about bad therapists, and we've already had other trauma reg. therapy, so its a bit difficult... Any advice would be great tbh.

Hi anon,

The thing is this really depends on where you live. I think I can give some more general advice though and then you can decide which may work for you!

(Okay, again my answer got REALLY long, sorry about that!)

Remember that, while it would be cool if you could find a DID/OSDD specialist, it can absolutely work if you find someone that has general knowledge about trauma/ptsd or cptsd but not specifically about DID/OSDD. 

Personally I think the most important part is that you feel safe with a therapist, that you feel a ‘click’ of connection, that they are willing to learn/adapt, and that they are honest/open (and humor is 100% important for me).

Now, some things you can do:

Check if there’s a ‘therapist finder’ thing. I think the ISSTD one is most succesful for the US. Maybe there is an association that many therapists are a member of (e.g. in my country there’s an association of private therapists and that website has a therapist finder tool). There’s probably not an option to look for DID therapists specifically, so I always look for therapists that work with trauma/EMDR. For the ISSTD thing, if there’s no one in your area - email the one that’s closest to you and ask them if they know therapists closer to you.

Go to your GP, describe your issues (as detailed or not as you feel comfortable with) and ask if they can help you find a therapist. Some GP places have a social worker that could possibly help you find a therapist.

If there’s a community clinic or community mental health center, ask there as well. You can usually either easily make an appt or just walk in there. Ask them if they can help you find a therapist - maybe they even have therapists working there that can help you.

If you have a friend with a nice therapist in your area, ask them to ask their therapist for names of colleagues.

If there’s no therapist finder, just google. “Trauma therapist city/state/…”, “EMDR therapist city/state/…” etc. Check out all websites you come across. Bookmark the ones that seem decent/okay.

These things can probably help you get a list of names to look into. Next, you will research those names. You will go through their websites, you will look at their photo and decide if it’s a face you like or not. Everyone that seems remotely, potentially, possibly okay - you email them (most have an email address on their website - if not there’s probably a contact form on the website). I never specifically mention a diagnosis in my emails because it can be tricky. I generally kept to “trauma/dissociation issues” or “dissociative disorders”. 

A generic email is okay, example: “Hi, I’m Name. I’m emailing you because I’m looking for a therapist and came across your website. I’m looking for a therapist that preferably has experience in working with dissociation and trauma related issues, or one that is open to learning about these topics. Your website states that you work with trauma / that you practice EMDR, which is why I am contacting you. If you yourself don’t work with dissociative disorders, I was wondering if you could maybe direct me to some colleagues that may be able to help me out. I look forward to hearing back from you, thank you in advance”.

You can include other stuff, of course. I usually included something about whether they would be willing to call me (and included my phone number) if they had any questions etc. - but you could also ask about which insurances they take, for example. It’s okay to email multiple people. I went a bit overboard (maybe) and emailed about 30 - I made a table in word to keep track of who responded when and whether it was positive or not.

Once a therapist replies positively, ask if it’s possible to schedule a meeting. Where I live, some therapists even offer this initial meeting free of charge. Say you just want to check if there’s a click and how it feels, that you’d like to ask some questions and they probably have some questions too. That you’d like to be sure about your choice for a therapist before making the commitment. 

If a therapist seems nice and knowledgeable but for whichever reason can’t help you (long waiting list, not the right insurance, whatever) - always ask them if they can refer you to colleagues. I don’t know about the cost of therapy in other countries, but I think some therapists offer lower fees for people that for whichever reason cannot afford the full price. You can consider asking about this.

And remember… you don’t have to have a DID/OSDD specialist. They’re rare. If you have a therapist that’s enthusiastic about working with you and willing to (for example) get supervision or follow a(n online) training, that’s super good already.

If you’re starting with a new therapist, always try to disclose (if you can) about negative experiences you’ve had. Explain why it may take some time for you to feel safe enough to talk. Explain what you’re anxious about or afraid of. A good therapist will understand, will listen, and will be patient.

It can be an AWFUL struggle to find a therapist and it’s okay to pause the search if you just need some time, but in the end it will be worth it.

If anyone has anything to add to this - feel free to reblog this post or comment or anything! More advice is always welcome in this area, especially because it differs so much between countries.

Take care anon, I really hope you’ll find a therapist!Sae

April is sexual assault awareness month. Reblog this if you stand with sexual assault survivors. I want to see you all reblog.

Some thoughts on Self DX-ing

If you go to the doctor for a physical illness you google it ahead of time. You walk into the doctor and say "I've been having chest pains, headaches, and a runny nose. I think I might have the flu." (Disclaimer, I do not know the symptoms of the flu off the top of my head. This is an example.) Now the doctor might look at you and these symptoms and say "You're right. I think you do have the flu." Or they might not think you have the flu and use the symptoms you gave them as well as their medical knowledge to give you a real diagnosis.

Think of all those times you stayed home from school because you were sick and you didn't go to the doctor. And so you have an excused absence note that says "Step Throat, Flu, Ear Infection, Pink Eye" for example. You probably did have those things because your parents did research on it before hand and went "Yep the kid has _____"

When people self diagnose they do a ton of research on their symptoms. They look at websites, the DSM, read other people's experiences. Sure not everybody does that but a lot of people do. They might not be able to afford a therapist but they can afford the internet. And all the research they do on it can help guide them. Just like the research people do to see if they have the flu.

Now when that person goes to the psychiatrist with all the information and says "Hey I experience impulsitivity, hyper fixations, lack of focus ect. I think I have ADHD." The psychiatrist can test them specifically for those things and in some cases can go straight to treating them. There's some cases where people do self dx wrong. But people do get it right too. And sure if they get it wrong the psychiatrist still knows what symptoms they're treating and can use it to guide them to a new diagnosis.

The moral of all of this is that self diagnosis is valid. You know you best so long as you do some research first. Mental health is a chaotic world.

Thought of another way to explain dissociation to people who don’t dissociate and are fans of Doctor Who.

Imagine a person is the Tardis. To the outside viewer, it’s pretty much human sized. Small and very obviously in one physical location. From the inside, it’s actually a bit bigger than the outsiders can see. This is a typical person’s inner world. If the person (or the camera, if you want to go down that route) is in the inner world, and someone knocks at the door, or shouts your name from outside, you can definitely hear it, and it takes next to no time for you to get to the door, open it, and deal with whatever you need to deal with.

As we know, the Tardis is actually much deeper than the viewer ever actually sees (let’s call the unseen parts the unconscious mind to add to the metaphor). Now imagine you’re in a super deep part. Someone knocks at the door. Someone calls your name from the outside. It takes a lot of time and effort to get to the door, if you even heard the person in the first place. And you now have to explain to this other person that you were literally miles away, when from their perspective, you must have only walked two feet, because that’s how deep the outside of the Tardis looks.

A lot of the time, it feels like I’m trapped in one of the deeper places, and I can barely hear people at the door. I can interact with people if I shout loud enough, but it gets tiring a lot. From my perspective, it feels like they are hundreds of feet away, but from theirs, I’m barely one foot away.

me: *expresses my emotions and how something is bothering me*

my parents: okay but have you considered how this is making US feel

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YOU NIQQAS WANNA LEARN ELVISH?! HERE YA GO!

YOU NIQQAS WANNA LEARN ELVISH?! HERE YA GO!

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How I make my fairy bras

Hi! I’ve been getting some lovely questions about my costumes and thought I would do a vague tutorial ! It’s very easy you need

A bra

Scrap fabric (optional)

Fake flowers/leaves

Scissors

Hot glue gun

Maybe a needle and thread but also u can use a hot glue gun

So for how I make my bras, I use flowers from the thrift store, a thrifted bra and generally some scrap fabric

The first thing I did was sew on a pink scrap to the bra, cut it into pointy things, and then I cut apart a bunch of silk flowers from bouquets from the thrift store

I glued them on in layers, Protecting my table from the hot glue and ta da :-)

Its really just glueing shit to other shit :-) cut your flowers into petal shapes individually and I don’t really plan it before hand just kinda start glueing, I kept this one semi symmetrical which is an option but not necessary!

🌸💞🌸💞💗🌸I hope y’all can make some cute costumes and please share if u do!!!!!!!

Costume updates to come

vintage earth witch

Hey guys I was bored so I made a witch type generator 

;)

Reblog and say which one you got

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

Beginner Witchcraft Resources Masterpost

General Information Sites:

- Awake The Witch Within

- Witchcraft 101

- World of Wicca

- Spells For Beginners

- Wings For The Spirit

- Spells and Witchcraft (WARNING this site has autoplay music)

Specialized Witchcraft Sites:

- Explore The Types of Witchcraft

- Sea Witchcraft at Book of Tides

- Water Witchcraft at Witches of The Craft

- Faery Witchcraft at Patheos

- Satanic Witchcraft at Spiritual Satanist

- Herbal Witchcraft at The Smart Witch

- Witch’s Herbal Reference

- Kitchen Witchery at Llewellyn Worldwide

- Traditional Witchcraft

- Hedge Witchcraft

🌟 cosmic witch starter pack 🌟

some resources to get you started with cosmic witchcraft:

what is a cosmic witch?

cosmic witchcraft 101

cosmic altar & room ideas

must haves for the cosmic witch

astrology: brief zodiac overview

planetary correspondences

star grounding

celestial warding

spiral meditation

celestial music

black hole spell

black hole decoy spell

starlight charm

planetary charm jars

planetary tarot spread

zodiac essential oil blends

cosmic witch vibes

cosmic witchcraft masterpost

cosmic deities:

nyx

hecate

hathor

nut

sopdet

sah

crystals:

amethyst

astrophyllite

celestite

copper

moonstone

aura quartz

crystals associated with planets

plants to grow/use in your craft:

cabbage & red romaine lettuce (nasa is growing some on the international space station!)

starflower

chickweed

star anise

juniper

fruits & vegetables associated with planets

a good blog that posts about cosmic witchcraft: @lunaesteria

and a cosmic witchcraft playlist.

My mom has Life360 and I’m terrified to go to my girlfriends house, Incase she goes over and ask my girlfriends mom “why was my daughter here?”

PSA

theres a new product by verzion called “hum” that allows your parents to track your car and places you go, if your parents are controlling like mine please check under your steering wheel to make sure that they havent installed this

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『07.01.18』 In the name of the moon, I’ll punish you! ☆ I think I’ve found my aesthetic, and that is 90s anime. uwu So why not create a bujo theme for that (but almost(?) completely Sailor Moon bc why not owo?) Oh, I also need to study for my SAT subject tests… ;w; . 「Quick tip: Thinking of buying <stationery> to add to your collection? To make sure you’re not impulsive buying, write it down/keep it in mind for a whole month. If you still want to buy it after the 30 days, go ahead and purchase it! 」

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Would hope I would support non-binary witches, considering I am one... soooo

Experimenting with pixels 🔆

Terfs & Radfems dni 🚫

This is low key me

Taurus sun, Pisces moon, hufflepuff, apollo daughter, who loves cities, video games and music for anon. Hope you like it! Let me know if you need anything changed.

Twitter made the Jewish lady that posted this delete it for “threatening violence.”

Her followers spent the rest of the day tweeting this. Trolls couldn’t keep up.

Self care queen of the century

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♉Taurus♉

🧡 Birthdate: April 21-May 21

🧡 Taurus represents fixed earth in the zodiac cycle, underlining the stubbornness and sensuality inherent in those born under this sign. With Venus as their ruling planet, Tauruses are taken up with beauty and all types of physical expression, from sports to fashion and design. Although they can be quite active once they get going, Tauruses love relaxing and taking it easy, so much that they then to procrastinate, preferring to remain comfortable right where they are rather than moving on.

🧡 Please keep in mind this is a very broad and general description - so not all aspects may resonate with you. <3

Art by naomi lord on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/naomi_lord/

Source: The Astrology of You And Me by Gary Goldschneider

Symbols Chart.

This is so wholesome

For just $100! F uckoing , put a rock in your got damn water #healing #spirituality god I fucking hate capitalism and “new age” bs

I just realized, I’ve had all of these happen before

Anyone else? 🙋🏽‍♀️ 🔮🎶

reblog if your blog is safe for trans witches, non binary witches, bisexual witches, gay witches, pansexual witches, closet witches, mental ill witches and all type of witches 🔮🌿

I know what my next necklace/pin is gonna be

WITCHES NEED A SECRET SYMBOL FOR SAFE PLACES

So a lot of us are out of the broom closet so to speak, but many of have to be careful of being public because of the views of the communities we live in. What I propose is a symbol we can put on flyers or in shop windows that means “You’re safe here.”

I don’t believe that a pentagram would work because it’s got so much stigma attached and it’s really easily identifiable. Ideally, we can find something that is not tradition specific. I don’t know. I just want us to be able to put feelers out into the community without painting a target on ourselves for intolerant jerk faces, and I want witchlings that are seeking guidance to be able to do so in a safe environment. I mean, how badass would it be to find a little symbol of solidarity in your favorite coffee shop or bookstore??

Reblog with suggestions!

Anxiety Riddance Spell

Out of harms reach I am tonight,

for I shall not fear the lonely dark of night.

The shadows that surround are spirits of calm,

my worries and tears now shall be gone.