THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It May Save A Life, It May Save Your Life.)

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

Reblog if you’re proud to be a witch ✨

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6 years ago

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6 years ago

I know what my next necklace/pin is gonna be

WITCHES NEED A SECRET SYMBOL FOR SAFE PLACES

So a lot of us are out of the broom closet so to speak, but many of have to be careful of being public because of the views of the communities we live in. What I propose is a symbol we can put on flyers or in shop windows that means “You’re safe here.”

I don’t believe that a pentagram would work because it’s got so much stigma attached and it’s really easily identifiable. Ideally, we can find something that is not tradition specific. I don’t know. I just want us to be able to put feelers out into the community without painting a target on ourselves for intolerant jerk faces, and I want witchlings that are seeking guidance to be able to do so in a safe environment. I mean, how badass would it be to find a little symbol of solidarity in your favorite coffee shop or bookstore??

Reblog with suggestions!

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6 years ago

yes please!

Discord Server?

Thinking about making an LGBT+ Witch Discord server if there’s enough interest. It would be like other witch servers, just specifically for people who are LGBT+ in any way, shape, or form. It would also be open to people of any age.

Please like or reblog if you’d be interested in this!

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6 years ago

Grief as an Offering

One of the goddesses I’ve been getting to know of late is Hela, the Norse Goddess of death. She rules over Helheim which is the Norse realm of the Dead which the Valkyries did not take to Valhalla to fight at Ragnarok.

She is different than other Dark Goddess archetypes. She is quiet, somewhat reserved, and gentle. She isn’t so much the bringer of death, as the relief afterwards. She is who will reunite you with your clan, your kindred and your ancestors after your long journey and your last breath.

I had never considered that Grief could be an offering until tonight. When I realized that of course, of course she would take grief. No one else wants grief, Hel does. Give Her your grief, and your pain, and your fight to the last breath. She will take it gently from you.

Working through Grief is messy. Most of the feelings and thoughts don’t make a lot of sense, and we keep it so closely. But eventually, we must let it go, and now we have someone who wants it. Once you are done with it, once it has done everything it needs to do for you, give your Grief away. And to someone who sees the beauty in being able to let it go.

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6 years ago

Grimoire?

Journaling has been a major downfall of mine, especially when it comes to the craft.

I would write in my journal and feel as though I wasn’t doing it right. I only reflected on my day and see how could I incorporate it spiritually, but eventually I’ve disconnected.

One day, I decided I wanted more of a grimoire, so I started journaling my daily tarot pulls. While I felt it helped, the feeling of something missing lingered and my poor journal waited for my return.

Recently, I was cleaning my room and spotted my journal. I instantly felt bad because being a writer myself, I felt disappointed at my lack of creativity. I wanted to write about the craft, but what?

I was reading about academic journaling in my journalism class, and a idea sparked in the middle of my chapter.

Typically in academic journals, it’s recording any to all information that’s being researched. It starts with an idea/hypothesis/thesis, and your journaling goes from there. Anything you learn or think about, it’s recorded and eventually developed from new research.

I looked at all of the tabs on my laptop of things I’m researching regarding the craft, and I knew that any to all information should be recorded.

It makes me wonder, are academic journals inspired from grimoires of the past? Breaking down the science of your studies?

I feel more than ready now to continue in my old journal with new, fresh information, and also the start of something new.

I recently researched dream magic, that eventually turned into a web of ideas. I’ll give a list of how I started with one topic that lead into many, a perfect start for my grimoire:

Dream Magic

Illusion Magic

Sensory Illusion

Optical Illusion

Light Spectrum

Radio Waves

Electrical Impulses

Energy Work

Mindfulness

Crown Chakra

Mirage

Crystal Ball

Crystal Scrying

Obsidian

Black Mirrors

I started with one topic, dream magic. In my research, I started noticing key words that lead into more research to where everything above is recorded in my journal/grimoire.

I’ve always thought of grimoires as books full of old spells that’ll change the reality around me in an instant just by reading the words outloud.

It never dawned on me that a grimoire is a book of personal research. The information may not be useful to many, but to the user it’s a powerful tool because they understand the whats, whys, and hows of the information recorded.

Journal is the Witches modern term for grimoire, and scientists use a similar concept in their academic journaling.

Knowledge is power, and that is what we create in our journals. It starts with an idea that goes down a rabbit hole of discoveries, connections, and even new ideas.

How do you write your words of power?

**Update**

Witch Tip

While writing in your journal/grimoire, pulling tarot during the process can also be a part of your research by using spirit to bring depth into your information.

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theknightsystem

5 years ago

Some thoughts on Self DX-ing

If you go to the doctor for a physical illness you google it ahead of time. You walk into the doctor and say "I've been having chest pains, headaches, and a runny nose. I think I might have the flu." (Disclaimer, I do not know the symptoms of the flu off the top of my head. This is an example.) Now the doctor might look at you and these symptoms and say "You're right. I think you do have the flu." Or they might not think you have the flu and use the symptoms you gave them as well as their medical knowledge to give you a real diagnosis.

Think of all those times you stayed home from school because you were sick and you didn't go to the doctor. And so you have an excused absence note that says "Step Throat, Flu, Ear Infection, Pink Eye" for example. You probably did have those things because your parents did research on it before hand and went "Yep the kid has _____"

When people self diagnose they do a ton of research on their symptoms. They look at websites, the DSM, read other people's experiences. Sure not everybody does that but a lot of people do. They might not be able to afford a therapist but they can afford the internet. And all the research they do on it can help guide them. Just like the research people do to see if they have the flu.

Now when that person goes to the psychiatrist with all the information and says "Hey I experience impulsitivity, hyper fixations, lack of focus ect. I think I have ADHD." The psychiatrist can test them specifically for those things and in some cases can go straight to treating them. There's some cases where people do self dx wrong. But people do get it right too. And sure if they get it wrong the psychiatrist still knows what symptoms they're treating and can use it to guide them to a new diagnosis.

The moral of all of this is that self diagnosis is valid. You know you best so long as you do some research first. Mental health is a chaotic world.

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6 years ago

I wish my parents would understand this, no matter how many times I seem to explain it, they don’t listen 😓

a note on people who always say “i don’t mind” whenever you ask where they want to eat/what they want to watch/etc:

usually this is because they’ve been punished in the past for voicing their opinions, not because they’re out to annoy you specifically. depending on how much flack they used to receive, it can be very stressful for them if you try and force them to offer up an idea.

(edit: this was based off what my friends had told me about why they don’t like choosing things, it’s come to my attention anxiety at large is a much more common reason! although I will say this point wasn’t about abuse specifically, just any type of teasing/bullying/demeaning response to someone giving an opinion. there are many reasons people can feel uncomfortable voicing opinions, and they’re all understandable— I never intended to imply otherwise.)

a lot of my friends who do this appreciate me giving out like… three options. pick three different things that you will be happy to do any of and ask which of those three options they’d prefer. it removes the fear of “what if they don’t like my suggestion” without erasing their option to chose and have preferences so, you know, good all around

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6 years ago