Accepting My Femininity Has Given Me So Much Peace. It's So Lovely To Finally Accept That I Was Always

Good reasons to not be Catholic:

If it’s not true. (But it is.) (So there’s actually no good reasons.) (So you should look up your local parish and contact them about RCIA.) (Heck you can even just go to one of the Masses today and ask the priest afterwards.)

if being married offends you, if choosing to have kids offends you, if choosing to be there for them instead of other alternatives to child care truly offends you, then sorry I guess you'll have to stay offended. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Moms will keep being moms if they choose to, and wives will keep being wives if they also choose to.

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if you are a woman who wants to be a wife and a mother its actually important that the man you say yes to date, be in a relationship with, and marry actually has skills, resources, and drive. its important that he is honorable and his actions show it. its important he is *actually,* not just conceptually, capable of making a life for you both and any children. him just wanting to be with you, or worse - simply agreeing to be with you....is not enough. that is the ground level. please do better!

hello i hope you’re doing well! i am not aspiring to be a tradwife by any means, rather my aspirations are completely opposite. nonetheless, i respect women who choose to be stay-at-home mothers. i can’t ever see myself feminine because i don’t identify with it but i truly respect and admire feminine women from a distance. i always wanted to ask – many traditional feminine oriented blogs some questions and i am surprised i found one that allows asking questions! though i shouldn’t be too surprised, since ive seen a lot of hatred being spewed at them by a lot of women on tumblr. one tumblr ask told a traditional femininity blog to kill themselves! it’s very disturbing to me how they preach girls support girls and continue to self project their extreme hatred and toxicity. i am aware that yes tradwives tend to criticize modern feminism but so far i’ve seen too many bitter modern feminists who don’t seem to be too secure in their life choices. if they are secure, why pick on someone who chooses to live differently?

what are your thoughts? if i, am very secure in my choice to be career oriented, i don’t ever see myself picking on women who believe in traditional gender roles? why do modern feminists try too hard to claim biological determinism is a social construct? sorry for long question there but i am curious about what your thoughts about this? thank you!

If I'm totally honest, I think it's because humans- as a whole, not just women- have a proclivity for envy, as well as a misunderstanding of what most traditionally feminine women want.

Most of us just want to be left alone to run our households and love our families and neighbors. What many modern feminists think we want is to shove all women back into the home, which simply isn't true. Am I going to attest that I am far happier at home than I was in my career? Absolutely, because it's the truth. Do I also realize that this life, this career in and of itself, is not meant for everyone? Also yes! I have tons of friends that don't want to be SAHW/SAHMs for whatever reason, and that's respectable!

My other point- envy. Not that I think they're envious of being able to stay home, but I do think that social media highlights only the good things and they perceive tradwives to be ultra-happy all the time, and that is what they're envious about. They see posts of smiling wives or people having fun with their families and think "why can't or don't I have that? why can't I do both?" which leads to envy, which leads to some very hateful comments & views about our community.

I will agree with you that the idea of the "girls supporting girls" is totally contradicted by the idea of them being hateful. While I have my skepticism about modern feminism, I wholeheartedly will defend their right to choose they want and ask that they do the same with me.

I have lots of thoughts and opinions, so if you'd like to ask more, feel free to DM me! I'm always down for a goodhearted debate or chat.

I’ve had a cute little llama xylophone for over a year- a gift from a friend when we found out I was pregnant with my daughter- and now she’s big enough to sit up by herself and play with it. It was a bit of a shock that made me tear up a little when I realized it.

Time flies. And God is so good. 🩷

Me: I want to be a stay at home wife/mom because of my husband!!! I love having the opportunity to serve him as often as possible and makes his life easier whenever I can by taking care of the kids and our home

Society:

“WhY wHat doEs He dO fOr yoU??”

“WHy ShoUld yOu haVe tO SuBmit, thAts sO SeXist”

“ThAts sO wRong, whY aRen’t yOu a FeMiniSt tHis iS wHy tHe paTriaRcHy iS sTill aRouNd”

“if you become a housewife they’re gonna cheat and you’re gonna get abandoned with nothing some day.”

has to be the biggest self projection ever. why do you automatically assume every relationship is going to go badly, and why do you feel the need to project your own fears onto other people who actually feel secure in their relationship/with their decision?