A Traditional Kind Of Love 💕

This hit me deep

A masculine man is different than an abusive man

The abusive men is the one that uses his strength and resources for his own benefit and in detriment of others well being.

The masculine man is the one that knows he’s capable of using his strength in a selfish way but chooses to use his potency to benefit others even if he has something to loose with it

For example the owner of a company could worry only about profits but chooses to be at service for people for a greater purpose

For example a husband that instead of demeaning his wife to make himself feel more powerful chooses to offer his best to her

A masculine man understand that he leads when he has the trust of others not when he subjugates and threatens them

One thing is having control, another is having respect

The abusive man rules through fear, the masculine man rules through admiration

We sometimes hear people saying that traditional gender roles breeds abusive men but this can’t be further from the truth. The truly abusive man is the one who’s aggressive and impose his presence through fear is not a true representation of the “patriarchy” - that is a violent and uncontrolled man that doesn’t even deserve the presence of a woman in his life. A man that is violent with his family should and deserves to be in jail

Our civilization got to where it is being conducted by strong and mature men that took care of their women and took their kids to the world so their offspring could expand. This is the true “patriarchy” and there is nothing wrong with it.

It’s just a man fulfilling his duty… providing, protecting and leading his family.

That is the masculine man, a man that acts according to his essence

Me: I want to be a stay at home wife/mom because of my husband!!! I love having the opportunity to serve him as often as possible and makes his life easier whenever I can by taking care of the kids and our home

Society:

“WhY wHat doEs He dO fOr yoU??”

“WHy ShoUld yOu haVe tO SuBmit, thAts sO SeXist”

“ThAts sO wRong, whY aRen’t yOu a FeMiniSt tHis iS wHy tHe paTriaRcHy iS sTill aRouNd”

hello i hope you’re doing well! i am not aspiring to be a tradwife by any means, rather my aspirations are completely opposite. nonetheless, i respect women who choose to be stay-at-home mothers. i can’t ever see myself feminine because i don’t identify with it but i truly respect and admire feminine women from a distance. i always wanted to ask – many traditional feminine oriented blogs some questions and i am surprised i found one that allows asking questions! though i shouldn’t be too surprised, since ive seen a lot of hatred being spewed at them by a lot of women on tumblr. one tumblr ask told a traditional femininity blog to kill themselves! it’s very disturbing to me how they preach girls support girls and continue to self project their extreme hatred and toxicity. i am aware that yes tradwives tend to criticize modern feminism but so far i’ve seen too many bitter modern feminists who don’t seem to be too secure in their life choices. if they are secure, why pick on someone who chooses to live differently?

what are your thoughts? if i, am very secure in my choice to be career oriented, i don’t ever see myself picking on women who believe in traditional gender roles? why do modern feminists try too hard to claim biological determinism is a social construct? sorry for long question there but i am curious about what your thoughts about this? thank you!

If I'm totally honest, I think it's because humans- as a whole, not just women- have a proclivity for envy, as well as a misunderstanding of what most traditionally feminine women want.

Most of us just want to be left alone to run our households and love our families and neighbors. What many modern feminists think we want is to shove all women back into the home, which simply isn't true. Am I going to attest that I am far happier at home than I was in my career? Absolutely, because it's the truth. Do I also realize that this life, this career in and of itself, is not meant for everyone? Also yes! I have tons of friends that don't want to be SAHW/SAHMs for whatever reason, and that's respectable!

My other point- envy. Not that I think they're envious of being able to stay home, but I do think that social media highlights only the good things and they perceive tradwives to be ultra-happy all the time, and that is what they're envious about. They see posts of smiling wives or people having fun with their families and think "why can't or don't I have that? why can't I do both?" which leads to envy, which leads to some very hateful comments & views about our community.

I will agree with you that the idea of the "girls supporting girls" is totally contradicted by the idea of them being hateful. While I have my skepticism about modern feminism, I wholeheartedly will defend their right to choose they want and ask that they do the same with me.

I have lots of thoughts and opinions, so if you'd like to ask more, feel free to DM me! I'm always down for a goodhearted debate or chat.

happy housewife

Thinking about having a baby with the person you love is AMAZING what do you mean the love and intimacy of two separate people combined to make an entirely new human that is insane I want 10

grenseliv

I think housedresses are a thing we need to bring back in a major way. Flowy, loose dresses are so comfortable and great for house chores. I also am of the opinion that if you take time for yourself to look good, you are more productive, happier, and confident. You also don't even need to do much to look put together, just wear a dress and put your hair in a ponytail and you look great. Also, almost all of my housedresses from the 50s-70s contain pockets.