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hello i hope you’re doing well! i am not aspiring to be a tradwife by any means, rather my aspirations are completely opposite. nonetheless, i respect women who choose to be stay-at-home mothers. i can’t ever see myself feminine because i don’t identify with it but i truly respect and admire feminine women from a distance. i always wanted to ask – many traditional feminine oriented blogs some questions and i am surprised i found one that allows asking questions! though i shouldn’t be too surprised, since ive seen a lot of hatred being spewed at them by a lot of women on tumblr. one tumblr ask told a traditional femininity blog to kill themselves! it’s very disturbing to me how they preach girls support girls and continue to self project their extreme hatred and toxicity. i am aware that yes tradwives tend to criticize modern feminism but so far i’ve seen too many bitter modern feminists who don’t seem to be too secure in their life choices. if they are secure, why pick on someone who chooses to live differently?

what are your thoughts? if i, am very secure in my choice to be career oriented, i don’t ever see myself picking on women who believe in traditional gender roles? why do modern feminists try too hard to claim biological determinism is a social construct? sorry for long question there but i am curious about what your thoughts about this? thank you!

If I'm totally honest, I think it's because humans- as a whole, not just women- have a proclivity for envy, as well as a misunderstanding of what most traditionally feminine women want.

Most of us just want to be left alone to run our households and love our families and neighbors. What many modern feminists think we want is to shove all women back into the home, which simply isn't true. Am I going to attest that I am far happier at home than I was in my career? Absolutely, because it's the truth. Do I also realize that this life, this career in and of itself, is not meant for everyone? Also yes! I have tons of friends that don't want to be SAHW/SAHMs for whatever reason, and that's respectable!

My other point- envy. Not that I think they're envious of being able to stay home, but I do think that social media highlights only the good things and they perceive tradwives to be ultra-happy all the time, and that is what they're envious about. They see posts of smiling wives or people having fun with their families and think "why can't or don't I have that? why can't I do both?" which leads to envy, which leads to some very hateful comments & views about our community.

I will agree with you that the idea of the "girls supporting girls" is totally contradicted by the idea of them being hateful. While I have my skepticism about modern feminism, I wholeheartedly will defend their right to choose they want and ask that they do the same with me.

I have lots of thoughts and opinions, so if you'd like to ask more, feel free to DM me! I'm always down for a goodhearted debate or chat.

Why I think the concept of a traditional woman is on the rise again….

Scrolling through my Pinterest feed in my time between meal prep, cooking, cleaning, and in general household care I notice at least 50% of the articles about being a traditional woman are why people think it’s on the rise again! My heart lept when I saw that more and more women are going back to a traditional role! More friends to share recipes with!! Why is it on the rise again though?…….

In the 50’s after the war had ended the world, especially the U.S, was looking for something traditional. Something stable. Something moral and comforting. The world was great back then! Peace has been brought, the economy was booming, everything was cheap, and bright red lipstick was still fashionable!

The thing that made traditionalist ideals stuck in that era was the craving for comfort and familiarity and something stable and loving. The world was recovering from evil.

The reason they are sticking again is that people are craving a home with a stable loving and traditional environment! Everybody is almost constantly at war or in some kind of squabble! Threats of terrorism, drugs, nukes, EVERYTHING! The reason that it is sticking is because we need it

I want traditions. I want good china and cutlery that we only use on special occasions. I want to go on holiday twice a year. I want my hair and nails done once a month. I want to make you dinner every night and serve you first. I want an allowance. I want to ask permission for big purchases. I want to be the type of woman who says “I’ll have to ask my husband.” I want you to choose what I eat in restaurants. I want you to make the big decisions and I want to defer. I want to look after your every whim. I want to be your idea of perfection.

More importantly, I want you to want that too.

Accepting my femininity has given me so much peace. It's so lovely to finally accept that I was always meant to be this way, and that there's nothing wrong with me being feminine and wanting to find a husband that I can love, trust, obey, submit to, and have a beautiful family with. ♡

~ Happiness is when you feel blessed and lucky in every moment of your life...~

This hit me deep

Craving motherhood 🌻💕

✨source : pinterest ✨

Sure I can do anything a man could do

But why would I want to

I would rather be carrying my someday husbands babies and making bread