What Do You Think Is The Biggest Misconception Of Being A Trad?

“if you become a housewife they’re gonna cheat and you’re gonna get abandoned with nothing some day.”

has to be the biggest self projection ever. why do you automatically assume every relationship is going to go badly, and why do you feel the need to project your own fears onto other people who actually feel secure in their relationship/with their decision?

A masculine man is different than an abusive man

The abusive men is the one that uses his strength and resources for his own benefit and in detriment of others well being.

The masculine man is the one that knows he’s capable of using his strength in a selfish way but chooses to use his potency to benefit others even if he has something to loose with it

For example the owner of a company could worry only about profits but chooses to be at service for people for a greater purpose

For example a husband that instead of demeaning his wife to make himself feel more powerful chooses to offer his best to her

A masculine man understand that he leads when he has the trust of others not when he subjugates and threatens them

One thing is having control, another is having respect

The abusive man rules through fear, the masculine man rules through admiration

We sometimes hear people saying that traditional gender roles breeds abusive men but this can’t be further from the truth. The truly abusive man is the one who’s aggressive and impose his presence through fear is not a true representation of the “patriarchy” - that is a violent and uncontrolled man that doesn’t even deserve the presence of a woman in his life. A man that is violent with his family should and deserves to be in jail

Our civilization got to where it is being conducted by strong and mature men that took care of their women and took their kids to the world so their offspring could expand. This is the true “patriarchy” and there is nothing wrong with it.

It’s just a man fulfilling his duty… providing, protecting and leading his family.

That is the masculine man, a man that acts according to his essence

Heaven knows I keep falling into some of these traps… 😥

I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for the grace, love, and mercy of God.

Something I enjoy about my marriage:

My husband actively pushes me to have a life outside our house. I want to go swimming and workout? Fantastic, let him know how much dues are for the gym. I went on a walk? He wants pictures, where did I go, what did I see! I want to join a church group? Absolutely!

He sees me more than just someone to be kept at home. He sees me as whole person with wants and needs. That is more than I could ever ask for. 💕

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“Young ladies,

You may never have considered this, but you can make a career out of being a housewife.

Find a good man and then love him, have his children, love and raise them, meal plan, shop & cook, keep a clean, tidy, pretty home, be hospitable.

It's a great life.”

I want traditions. I want good china and cutlery that we only use on special occasions. I want to go on holiday twice a year. I want my hair and nails done once a month. I want to make you dinner every night and serve you first. I want an allowance. I want to ask permission for big purchases. I want to be the type of woman who says “I’ll have to ask my husband.” I want you to choose what I eat in restaurants. I want you to make the big decisions and I want to defer. I want to look after your every whim. I want to be your idea of perfection.

More importantly, I want you to want that too.

local Oklahoma resident visits Colorado and is shocked and appalled to see that the land goes up sometimes.