10 Questions To Ask A Pot, BEFORE Starting An Arrangement:

Taking out my implants, focusing on getting skinny and entering the game again :)

Update I’m rich ;)

I usually don’t do younger clients but this 30 year old black client blew my back the fuck out 🥵

He was attractive too. I lowkey want more of him

A blessing is about to happen I just know it will.

Be careful ladies this is why you always screen the person. I instantly found it number as a predator on not just this site but many others. Stay safe ladies 💕

My Guide to Escorting: Part 1

This is a comprehensive post about escorting! Under a readmore of course. Part 2 will include information about websites, how to cover your ass, pricing, payment, LLCs & DBAs, taxes, and how to up your game.

I. SETTING GOALS & EXAMINING WHY YOU WANT TO GET INTO IT

This should be your first step. What do you want to accomplish? Make sure that it isn’t out of desperation because you may put yourself in danger. If you are desperate, clear your mind. Escorting is fast money, but not all of it is good money. Please stay aware of that.

II. RESEARCH YOUR AREA

Is your area a place that you can market yourself in? Are there enough wealthy men looking to spend? If there are, you’re gold. While you’re at it, look up the legalities of escorting in your area. It’ll determine how you should operate. If you’re in the US, please educate yourself on the SESTA/FOSTA laws.

III. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ESCORT/ADVERTISING

Do you want to be on a website (i.e. Eros), or freestyle? How would you go about either in your area? If you’re in a smaller city, freestyling in person may not be viable for you compared to someone in NYC. If you’re in a larger city, it may be easier for you to freestyle. More fish in the sea. It depends on your area and what you’re most comfortable with. If you will be advertising, will you use Twitter, Fetlife, Niteflirt, etc. as addons? If so, take extra precaution that your info can’t be tracked back. I don’t know much about Eros, so I’m not going to write a guide on how to use it. However, I will discuss freestyling.

Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, or anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. If you have a good bio and great pictures, you will be fine. Don’t mention money on the app, get his number and discuss money using your fake phone/fake number. If he doesn’t bite, goodbye. If he does, you have a client. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though (i.e. they look poor as shit. Always pictures in public settings like public bathrooms). Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford, and make it specific to neighborhood if you can.

If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays (when no specials are being run) to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. However, you can freestyle at places beyond bars and restaurants. Bookshops, coffee shops, anywhere in affluent areas with men of quality. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it.

You should also determine whether you’ll be doing incalls or outcalls.

IV. FIGURE OUT YOUR BRAND

How will you market yourself? This will be your genuine brand, the person your clients will see you as. Because of this, it should be something you can emulate easily. Are you a girl next door type? A vixen? An erudite? A mix of them? Whatever you choose, don’t stray from that lane. You should eat and breathe your persona whenever you are “on”. I recommend looking up the 13 Feminine Seduction Archetypes and seeing how you can play into yours. It’ll make snapping your persona “on” much easier. Also, you should pick a name based off of your brand. Ensure it’s not common, or taken by a popular escort. You should want your own shine.

Branding will not include all of your essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of you that your clients will most enjoy. To effectively brand, you have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research (again) on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re monied and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?

Figure it out.

V. PICTURES

This is based off of what you are trying to market yourself as. However, you should choose different settings and poses that will appeal to your ideal client. If you are just starting and don’t have money for professional pictures, find a sub that can do your heaux pictures if you dominate them (real shit, there are men like this) or use well-taken selfies (NOT OF YOUR FACE & HAVE THEM TASTEFULLY DONE). Something I am valuing in my pictures is color theory. I am marketing myself as a getaway, so I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks are my prime colors. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. If you’re marketing yourself as the girl next door, your pictures will be vastly different from mine. However, you should always have uniform lingerie, some body makeup on, and some nice heels. It doesn’t have to be expensive as long as it’s good quality. Ensure that your clothed pictures get the same energy. PLEASE no spandex dresses or anything of the sort. The type of clients who’ll enjoy that will be low quality. If you’re not going with a hoetographer, learn how to blur your face out. Don’t pose in any reflections that would make blurring more tricky, and don’t pose in your apartment if you can help it. If so, do not give a big profile of the room out. If you know how to use Lightroom and Photoshop, all the better.

If you’re trying to be more high-end, do more clothing pictures than you do seductive/lingerie/naked pictures. Show the assets tastefully. Trust me. The more thought you put into your photos, the more your clients will pay.

VI. SAFETY

Do you have any friends that you can check in with while you’re with a client? If not, can you download apps that allow an app to check on you (i.e. Life360, bSafe, Kitestring) and call for help if you don’t check in on time? Do you have access to a taser, gun, knife, or pepper spray, and do you know how to use them? Have you taken a self defense class? Do you have a fake phone or fake number you can use? (Hoe emails can come later–use ProtonMail) If you’re doing an incall, have a trusted person with a key to your apartment just in case. Keep all personally identifiable information away from reach and locked up. Personally, I keep a separate apartment for incalls so that they don’t know where I live. If they do, they are one background check away from knowing your real first and last name. (I rented out this apartment through my LLC, so if they tried to backtrack into the apartment’s history, all they can find is my LLC name. That only links back to my DBA. My DBA can only be traced back to my name if they personally went to the county clerk’s office and illegally obtained it. You should work on being as anonymous as possible. I’ll talk about how to set one up later in the next post.)

If you’re doing an outcall, do a check of the entire place with weapon in hand to ensure that he is the only one in the room. Stay in large hotels with staff that’ll give a damn about you. Never go to his house, never do any drugs or get drunk. Have a “get out” plan and be able to formulate a quick one in your head. ALWAYS make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach.

VII. SCREENING

I felt that this deserves its own bulletpoint, although it does go hand in hand with safety. YOU MUST SCREEN. I don’t care if they’re a celebrity, you don’t know them. SCREEN. Ask for their first, middle, and last name, and their real number. You can ask for their home address, work address, anything or everything that will help you find info on them faster. Use Zabasearch, Stud or Dud, Whitepages, Google, Facebook, LinkedIn, PeopleFinders, LipstickAlley (if they’re a known hoe), Instagram, anything and everything that gives you their information. If you don’t have a good feeling about someone, TRUST IT. Don’t skimp on this step at all. If you find anything you don’t like, decline to see them.

Sometimes, I remember the time i was 17 when i started sex work. I was ambitious but clueless. Fast forward to today. I can now say it’s time for a old rebrand. New year old hoe.

2025 is:

Baccarat Rouge 540, La Perla lingerie, Chanel No. 5, caviar and oysters, first-class lounges, Soho House memberships, Hermès Birkins, Dior sunglasses, Van Cleef, Cartier, Tiffany, Ritz-Carlton spa days, Nobu dinners, St. Barts holidays, Pilates reformer classes, Montblanc pens, bulletproof coffee mornings, St. Regis afternoon tea, skiing in Aspen, sailing on a Sunseeker yacht, dating men wearing custom-tailored suits, handwritten thank-you notes written with custom stationery by Smythson, interior design consultations, negronis by the fireplace, silk pillowcases, cashmere throws, helicopter rides to the Hamptons, fine art auctions at Sotheby’s, private wine tastings in Napa, chef’s table dining experiences, Le Labo Santal 33, Rolls-Royce chauffeured rides, horseback riding in the English countryside, Ladurée macarons, Rolex watches, a Montauk beach house, Louboutin heels, afternoon reads of The Financial Times, medical-grade skincare routines, investing in blue-chip stocks, attending Paris Fashion Week, tennis matches at Wimbledon, and Courchevel ski chalets.

What Makes Her Classy?

When it came to refining my image, I knew instantly what persona I wanted to portray: The Classy Lady. I wanted potential clients to take one look at my photos and know automatically that the purchase of my companionship would not be cheap. 

But I also didn’t want just any client either. Just because he has the money doesn’t mean we would be a great match. For example, I’m not great with young guys or partiers. So I wanted guys of that type to take a look at my pictures and know that we most likely wouldn’t be a good match as well. I’m most compatible with romantics and laidback, professional types. 

I knew my persona. I knew my ideal client. But there was a problem:

I wasn’t quite sure how to depict this in my photos.

I need my photos to do most of the “talking” for me (because we know men don’t always read your blog, site, ad, etc. but they always look at the pictures). 

So I begin browsing various providers’ sites that I felt emulated the persona that I wanted to portray. And were most likely getting the type of clientele that I’m aiming for.

Once I gathered enough pictures, I asked myself, what is it about her pictures/album/gallery that makes her fit this persona? 

Or to put it bluntly: how the hell do I look high-end in my pictures?!* 

Here’s what I noticed: 

She picks one asset at a time to show off (if she’s showing off her breasts, every other asset is covered up)

The lingerie always matches. And there’s usually stockings and/or a garter belt added as well.

Professional/Quality photos. Even the “candid” photos are clear with lots of lighting. 

Adding “feminine” touches to the pictures like flowers.

Having name brand/designer items in the photos. The red bottoms are shown off (literally). The Chanel bag is in her hand. The Agent Provocateur box is on display. I noticed that this is never “over done”. There’s usually only one noticeable luxury item in the picture and it’s never the focal point. 

Makeup is always kept neutral/natural. The boldest I’ve seen is a red lip.

Hair is styled simply and always looks “touchable”. It’s usually lightly curled.

The surroundings are neat and clean.

No explicit posing (no “spread leg” shots).

Nude pictures are done more “artistically”. Less Playboy. More Italian Vogue. 

Business attire. This is one that I hadn’t really noticed but it’s everywhere. Dresses are knee length or longer. The clothing is “work/office appropriate”.  

Plenty of clothed photos. In some cases, I’ve noticed some providers would almost have as many clothed pictures as lingerie or nudes photos. Almost. 

Few casual pictures. Obviously if you’re going for “girl next door”, this wouldn’t apply. However, I’ve noticed that there will be one, maybe two pictures of her dressed “casually”, i.e. jeans and a t-shirt. The majority of the clothed pictures will be taken in skirts, dresses, business attire, etc.

Robes. This was another one I hadn’t really noticed at first but almost every provider’s site that I visited there was at least one picture of her in a robe. And it was usually long, flowy and “feminine” (light colors, lace, etc).

Simple jewelry. Or no jewelry at all. 

If anyone else is using this persona (or plans to), feel free to add to the list!

*Yes, I’m aware that there’s more than one way to look “high-end” and that not every provider wants to portray this image. There are multiple personas that a provider may embody such as Playboy/bombshell, girl next door, bad girl, etc. However, because this is the persona I’ve chosen, this is the “look” that I’m focusing on.

what oppressors don’t want women to know

1. your life should be centered around yourself.

2. you are not required to compromise.

3. parenthood is a choice.

4. princesses get all the gifts.

5. bitches get respected for having standards.

6. you don’t have to give anyone a chance or the time of day.

7. you don’t need to smile or laugh at anyone’s lame jokes.

8. you don’t need to explain yourself. your no is enough.

9. never accept what you don’t want. keep your standards.

10. if a man threatens/disrespects you take it seriously. don’t brush it off.

11. having and keeping your standards is reflective of your self worth.

12. don’t silence yourself because of the fear that someone will get angry. you aren’t responsible for anyones feelings but your own.

13. it’s not your responsibility to take care of and nurture everyone.

14. assertive women are attractive.

15. never center your life around men.

15. when you’re being courted, they must to prove themselves to you.

16. you don’t have to act fake satisfied when you’re not impressed.

17. staying in a relationships that’s toxic is self sabotaging and abusive.

18. you’re not required to please others to prove your value.

19. finacial literacy is not just for men to know. ladies learn how to handle your money independently.

20. you must put yourself and your goals first.

21. be confident. always walk with your head high.

22. you are worthy. you instantly become more worthy once you remind yourself of this!

23. always speak your mind. those who don’t speak up get nothing.

24. never settle.

25. not a single soul has the right to judge you. opinions are just opinions and have no value unless you give them value.