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I love how I’m getting a bbl next year but I’ve lost a lot of lot of weight. To the point where i had to check in with my doctor recently and he requested i gain like 20 pounds.

4-5 months ago I used it be sitting at 130 and now I’m like 110. I’m under weight for a person with a height of 5’5.

I’m so mad at myself. I might go ahead and cancel my bbl. it’s not worth me picking up the unhealthy lifestyle I left behind to gain the weight.

I’ve been eating so clean and working out almost 3-4 times out the week.

Rant:

As a sex worker I honestly just hate my body.

I’m thinking about getting a bbl and getting some ribs removed for the desired body I want. I feel like nobody in the sex worker world really talks about the eating disorders or the lack of self esteem that comes with being a hoe.

And if you wanna be honest. I didn’t really start hating my body until I become a sex worker. 🤷🏽‍♀️

So I’m starting to freestyle again. I charge this guy I met at some hotel bar 2000 for the hour and I only stayed for like 30 minutes because he finished too fast. (Which is good for me 😊). He wants to meet tomorrow for dinner to discuss seeing me one day for every week of the month. I’ve been manifesting so hard lately that I feel all my wishes are coming true.

Feeling discouraged

I’ve been feeling discouraged lately. Idk if business is slow. But the slowness is making me feel insecure.

Hiii!! I’m not sure if you’re taking any questions buuuttt i shall ask one anyway and hope you answer hehe <3

- so there’s this guys who’s asked me out on a couple dates (two to be exact) both dates were set but canceled; first by him and second by me due to some important things. He said he hates canceling plans and that he’s a man of his word. I’m the same! Sooo sidenote he did CALL me to ask me out BUT the thing I’m struggling with is.. he will ask me out with no hesitation but RARLEY ever texts me. He only seems to text me when he sees me because we work in the same company. I’m not really sure what the question I’m trying to ask is but could you help me understand if I’m being played or if he just wants me for sex? I’m having trouble understanding where exactly he’s at and I feel like it’s WAY to early to ask that because we don’t know eachother that we’ll but we’ve had some pretty good conversations in person and maybe a few over text. Also I’ve notice if we set a date he won’t text me until the day of! I’ve been in numerous unhealthy and toxic relationships and have been used so many times that I’m struggling with reading people atm and I’m scared I’m going to go through all that again.

Ps: he’s 10 years older than me and I’m soooo sorry this is long and might be confusing ASF <3

I do have a lot of questions coming in that i haven’t answered. I have been busy traveling. 

It seems like you haven’t understood your own value yet.  

1.) Why are you interested in this man? for regular dating leading to something serious and real love? or  hypergamy? or SD? 

Figure out why you want this man.

2.) What type of man do you want in your life (considering what you have gone through) 

Make a list. The attributes you want in a man. The way you want him to treat you, the way you want to man to feel about you, the way you want the man to court you  etc... MAKE A LIST 

(Does this current man even make you remotely feel that way?) ... I know you aren’t dating yet... But a man’s interest is usually clear. A man’s courtship is usually clear as well; when he is truly interested in pursuing you (for whatever reason...)

From what am gathering... you are out sight ... out of mind to this man. (Meaning, he isn’t really thinking about you...) ... He has the attitude of (if i get her putting minimum effort possible... i get her... If I don’t then hey, at least there was no effort.... MEANING : He could take it or leave it attitude).

Meaning, If another woman, he kindles his interest more comes along... you are BYE-BYE   (People appreciate more what they invest effort into)

Do you really want a man who puts the least amount of bare minimum in the beginning stages? Can you imagine if you start the relationship... what he will be like, after he gets more comfortable (cause relationships, do cool down to a norm eventually). So if he is like this now... the potential of what he could become later sounds like another additional heart break for you. 

3.) You know the answer to your own question; If this man only texts you when he sees you. 

 One of my favorite quote is  “They say a lot... so i watch what they do”  Men say a lot because they understand that women are gotten through words... So they say a lot.... He say’s he is a man of his word... that doesn’t mean anything to you.  (Even if he is) that doesn’t spell his interest in you. it just means if he says he will be there at 8, then he will be there.... This is his general personality to people.... What you are trying to decipher is his interest in you.  So being a man of his word.... doesn’t mean anything at this point. 

A man’s action is his true feelings... take words with a grain of salt... WATCH ACTIONS...

What i am saying.... Is this man doesn’t have a skin in the game

secondly, he isn’t that interested (It could be that his interest will increase once you guys make it to a date)... But personally, I like men who even before dates pursue me and lead with their interest (I am spoilt that way... because I don’t require anything less... I won’t even engage with anything less...) 

You don’t have to do that... BUT the problem is really not this man. He is the way he is... its up to you to determine if that works for you or if it doesn’t

The problem is YOU...

Clearly, you aren’t happy with his laissez faire interest in you.

The less than bare minimum effort etc.

So, why continue to entertain and inject hope there?  You have a case of FOMO 

What if I don’t give him a chance and he ends up being this wonderful man that i end up missing?

(What if he is only this way because he doesn’t know me yet and we’ve not been on a date yet)

The what ifs are legitimate question about not writing people off... 

BUT........HAS THAT WORKED FOR YOU BEFORE?

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man... but he could also be a nightmare)

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man to another woman... that doesn’t mean he will be for you)

There are other women that man puts more effort into (because he is more interested). 

Men’s action towards a woman, is usually on where they place you on their scale.  (There could be a woman that man will send 20 messages a day to) Even from the first day....

KNOW THIS - Every man has a scale... consciously of subconsciously... it exists

My sponsor says “There are women. you wouldn’t dare spend more than 3k on, there are women, you wouldn’t even insult by offering 35k... And then there are women who anything less than a blackcard is an insult to himself and to her

Meaning : The level of a man’s interested is shown (yes the interest can grow, yes it can also start out an diminish)... The question is... ARE YOU HAPPY WITH WHERE IT IS STARTING AT?  WILL YOU STAY IF IT DIMINISHES?

If a man’s interest starts out high and on it way starts to diminishes... I LEAVE

If i a man’s interest start’s out low and grows(I slowly match it.)... 

Example : Lets say A man’s interest starts at 50%

                 I keep my interest in him at 10 %

If it grows to 100% 

I increase mine to 20%

If it grows beyond 100% 

I increase accordingly

And if his interest stays consistently high and above... 

I match accordingly

ON THE REVERSE

Now if his interest decreases to 50%

I also scale back to 10% 

It it falls less than 50%... 

I leave (There a reason why, I don’t let it go less than 50%)

Again, you don’t have to do what i do (like I always warn people... you lose a lot of people going my way) And it can be hard... 

But in my personal experience (It only keeps quality over quantity). 

He is not playing you.... You are playing yourself by not really knowing your value or being honest with yourself and sticking your ground on how you want to be treated.

So figure that out... 

#sugardating #sugardatingadvice #sugardatingtips #sugarbowl #hypergamy #datingadvice #sugarbowltips 

If I ever cut you off do not try to come back in my life!!! It took me a long time to get to that point and I am DONE

Why this man really sat in my Twitter dm and edited one of my pictures of me with hearts. Talking about “showing you love -“ I’m like... sir the only way you can show me love is putting money in my wallet.

Charge more

I want to break something down because the price of pussy is falling daily and I want to change it. This is for anyone charging for sexual favors but specifically sugar babies. CHARGE MORE. 

Let me point something out, a man who is 40+ and has a steady career and is wanting a sugar baby/escort should probably have some money, right? Duh. Would you say a net worth of around a million sounds decent? Most of these guys are worth more but lets just use 1,000,000 for example. So this guy, worth a million, still making income on top of that million wants you, and you charge 500. Why? Do you realize that is less than .1% of the resources he has access to? Do you realize you could charge him 5000 per meet and it still would’t even be 1% of his finances? I see beautiful women constantly selling themselves short and we all need to change it together. If you all slowly but surely start to raise your rates, guess what? Supply and demand will come in to play. The problem currently is there are way too many girls who will take these bullshit 300 per meet offers. A man who truly has only 300 to offer you per meet has absolutely zero business speaking to you or any sex worker, truly. Anything less than 1k an hour to me is ridiculous and I want it to be ridiculous to you too. I want the new normal to be 5k per meet, 20k allowances, Louboutins on the first date. I want to change it but I can’t change it all on my own, we have to change it together girls.

BITCH I TOOK A LAXATIVE AT LIKE 11pm AND NOW I HAVE A LAST MINUTE APPOINTMENT AT 5am.

omggggg pray for me y’all.

Ima shit on this man 🤣

Screening

Here’s the information I request on my contact form, and how I use it.

Required information is marked with an asterisk*

*First name

*Middle name

*Last name

*Email address

*Phone number

*Do you prefer texting or calling?

Texting 

Calling

Either

*Provider References

Please provide the name, email, website address or ad link, and contact number for AT LEAST TWO currently active companions, and the dates you last saw them. 

Age

Employment Verification (REQUIRED if you have less than two provider references, STRONGLY RECOMMENDED otherwise)

Employer’s name, your position/title, company phone number, your direct line or extension, and story for me to use when I call (or other way for me to verify employment, such as an employee photo ID badge)

*Appointment Date and Time

*Appointment Duration

P411/TER/localboard/Datecheck Info

Outift request (not guaranteed)

*What are you looking to get out of our date?

*Where did you find me?

Is there anything else you’d like to tell me?

RECOMMENDED Driver’s License Upload

OPTIONAL Face Photo Upload

How I use this information:

Google their name, both with and without quotes around their name (quotation marks tell the engine to search specifically for that exact phrase, not similar phrases)

Google their email address, both with and without quotations

Google their phone number, both with and without quotations

Plug their phone number and email address into the search feature of my local board to see if they’ve ever been blacklisted

Go to your state’s courts website, and search their court records database for his name. If your state separates their database by county, search for your county, his county, and a few surrounding counties. In my state, all superior court cases are available to view. You can see what pleading/motion was filed, and when, as well as the final judgment. You do have to pay to request the actual documents to see their contents, and you probably cannot do this anonymously (in my county, you have to call the county clerk’s office). In my state, district and municipal cases cannot be viewed, but they will still show up in the search results. Your state may be different. 

Search for them on Facebook. Often their wives or children have much more of their profiles publicly visible. 

Search for any information on their family members. 

(I will be buying a Spokeo subscription soon, so I can plug all their info into here, as well)

Google the providers (normally Googling their name and city will pop them up if they have any sort of online presence). Or just find them based on the info he gave you.

See what kind of reputation those providers have. What to they charge? Do they have any rob reports or bad reviews posted of them? Do they look like they have their shit together? Do they have their own website? Does it look nice? Are there a ton of typos? Having your own website legitimizes you. Do they have professional photos, or are they bathroom selfies?

Contact the providers. I start off by emailing them. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. Billy Joe is requesting a date with me and used you as a reference. Can you please tell me if he was safe, clean and respectful? Would you recommend him to another provider? Anything else you can tell me about him and his personality I would very much appreciate! Best, Foxxxy.” I follow up with a text. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. I just sent you an email with a reference request. If you could get back to me promptly, I would really appreciate it!” 

See what they say. Duh. 

Contact his employer. The one time I called a client’s company, it was quite well-known and Google-able. I called the main company line, and asked to be connected to the president of _____. He was already en route on the plane, but I was able to hear his voice during his voicemail recording. A simple phone call to his cell phone would match up his voice, verifying he does work there. I have had a few clients send me photos of their photo ID badge (military personnel, for example). 

Obviously check to see how many Okay’s they have, or if they’re on the whitelists for the hobby IDs they provided you. Search their usernames/IDs to see if anything negative pops up. 

If they sent you a photo of their driver’s license: search Google Maps for the address on the card. Do they live in a nice part of town? Google the address. Has it popped up on Zillow lately? Any homeowner info pop up? You might be able to search their driver’s license number, either by Googling or going to your state highway patrol site, though I haven’t tried this myself.

If they sent you a photo of their face: reverse Google image search that shit! Also reverse search for it on TinEye. Do they look friendly? 

This sounds like a lot, but doesn’t take all too long once you get the hang of it. This doesn’t guarantee your safety, but it sure does reduce the risk of an assault or an arrest.