[gets a new mutual] i look forward to working with you
TME people really do throw out the tactical ''bro' on purpose in online arguments. Like they're setting a trap and they win either way. I don't think it's always a cognitive decision, but they fucking know somewhere that's what they're doing. The options for the doll are to either take the punitive misgendering, or object and get made out as the crazy, angry tranny cuz they have plausible deniability.
Trans women truly are at the intersection of trans ness and womanhood, like this is the same fucking playbook every anti feminist man-on-the-street video has used for the last 15 years at least: say something inflammatory but plausibly deniable in a calm tone, get the woman to call you on your bullshit, and say "woahhh calm down I'm just asking questions." Then everyone who is feminist-in-name-only gets to go "I'm a feminist/I don't even agree with this guy/etc. , but this woman is CRAZY," and bam, the provoked is sold as the provocateur. It's the same exact shit my drunk of a mother did to me as a teen--it's the double bind, you react, you lose, you don't react, you lose.
And like the thing is, I do believe people when they say they bro people all the time. I call people "girl" all the time, like ill refer to my cishet dude friends as girl, like "girlllll why did I say yes to this..." But like if I were experiencing 'good-faith' conflict with one of them, I wouldn't be calling them that, not even cuz it would be "misgendering," but because it would feel like talking down to them and showing them a lack of respect, like I wouldn't be calling them 'bro' in that moment either. So like, when you're having a conflict with a tranny, you get to talk down to her, show her you don't fucking respect her, and misgender her, AND you get to do it consequence free. All that's missing is coffee and a blowjob.
Idk, it just frustrates me to no end that so many fuckin "queer, fuck terfs, trans women are women types" are so stoked that they have acceptable targets to bully and push around like they just got a Daily Wire gig.
I see way too many posts about being really affectionate with your friends and if you aren't hugging and kissing your friends then you don't really have friends and you should be in love with your friends a little bit and it annoys me so here's a post that shouts out non-affectionate friends. shoutout to the people who don't like affection or hugging or being super gushy with each other but still love and appreciate their friends dearly. shoutout to the people who find it really hard to be emotionally vulnerable and sweet but are still always there for you in a crisis. shoutout to people who don't have to be hugging you constantly to prove that they care about you
sometimes your distress does indicate you should stop and respect your limitations. at other times it's more of a baby aquatic mammal being introduced to water for the first time thing. Too bad the difference is so hard to tell.
I am writing to you and asking for help in any way to restore what the occupation has destroyed since October 7, 2023, so that my family and I can survive the war and save what remains of our lives because Gaza has become unlivable. There is no longer a suitable place to live. There is no solution other than evacuation to survive. Unfortunately, the price of evacuation from Gaza is very expensive!! We cannot bear these costs. There is no solution but to help you by donating, sharing our story, or praying for us.
I am talking to you, and after thinking for a long time before taking this step, but I realized that there is nothing left for us in Gaza after the occupation destroyed all our possessions, possessions, dreams and future... Therefore, I came to you and I am full of hope from you that your donations will cover the cost of survival and Evacuation to a better life..
The occupation destroyed our home and our dreams and moved me and my family to live in tents after ordering and forcing us to evacuate from northern Gaza.
We currently live in a camp in the Al-Zawaida area, and this is the thirteenth displacement since October 7, 2023, and we struggle daily to obtain clean water, food, and the rest of the necessities of life, despite the high prices that make us struggle more to obtain them..
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it's like, in theory okay to point out that anti-trans legislation will inevitably misfire and start policing cis women as a way to point out that transphobia realistically is just a system that polices gender and scrutinizes and gatekeeps womanhood, but like. if all you ever hear is "what about the cis women this will effect" then that doesn't exactly inspire confidence that the primary targets of these laws (transfems) actually have like, allies.
This won’t make your blog look ugly. How could you not reblog this? REBLOGGING THIS COULD SAVE A LIFE!!!
PLEASE TELL ME I DIDN'T GET SHADOWBANNED. WAILING. PLEASE TUMBLR
What they don’t tell you: Self care sometimes isn’t fun. It’s going to class even when you want to stay in bed and rest. It’s paying bills on time and running errands even when every strand of your being cant stand it. It’s going to therapy and taking your medicine even when you don’t want to. It’s using coping skills even when going back to self destructive ones seems more appealing.
Recovering sucks. It’s hard. But you have to believe in the light at the end of the tunnel. And even on those days you don’t, you fake it till you make it.
Recovery is still worth it.