Ernest Hemingway, from his novel titled "A Farewell To Arms," originally publ. in 1929
Being median is funny. I'm not a singlet and not multiple, but a secret third thing. Who am I? Depends on the day but when it comes down to it, I'm me. Who's that? Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy. I'm people soup. A coin with two sides, but still a coin.
MAYBE I'M DEFECTIVE
OR MAYBE I'M DUMB
I'M SORRY, SO SORRY
FOR WHAT I'VE DONE
MAYBE I'M BAD NATURED
OR MAYBE I'M YOUNG
I'M SORRY, SO SORRY
FOR WHAT I'VE DONE
Learning so much about myself as I sit in the discomfort of my past
rain in the background while you’re sleeping>>>>>>
From Pluralpedia: “A median system (also called midcontinuum) is a system where members are not as distinct or separate from each other. It can be considered being somewhere between multiple and singlet.”
Median systems are just as plural as any other system and deserve to be uplifted and have their voices heard! Here’s some positivity for the median systems out there!
Do you have a host who is always fronting, are unable to switch, or are often blurry because the lines between headmates are not so rigidly defined? That’s okay, and it doesn’t make you any less plural by any means!
Is your system monoconscious, hydraconscious, or does it experience consciousness in a different way from most systems and singlets? That’s perfectly valid, and it’s awesome that you have such a unique plural experience!
Have you been fakeclaimed in the past or find it difficult to be taken seriously or receive the care that you need because your system is median? We are so sorry to hear that and we hope you will be able to get access to the support and kindness you need very soon!
Median systems deserve the world and we’re giving all of you a soft blanket and a cookie and some head pats. Please don’t feel too discouraged about something that’s outside of your control! Median systems are a lovely, valid, and crucial addition to the plural community and yes, that means you too, the median system reading this!
We hope y’all can continue to learn and grow as a system just the way you are! Please know that, however separate or cohesive your system is, you will always be welcome in our spaces. We’re rooting for you and we wish the very best for you and your future! You belong in system spaces just as much as any other system. Each median system has a unique perspective of multiplicity to bring to the table, and we’re so happy that y’all are out here living your best lives and sharing those experiences with us!
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It’s never okay to lock a headmate away, never. They could be the worst person in the world, you still shouldn’t lock them away. There’s a difference between keeping headmates away from eachother and taking away someone’s privacy, free will and connections. You are abandoning that headmate, you are telling them that they are not worth helping, that they don’t deserve to get better. If talking it out doesn’t work for them there are other options, I’d recommend giving them their own space to speak their mind without threat of mistreatment for it, for starters. If someone really doesn’t want help don’t force it on them, just let them know it’s always an option and leave it at that. -Ange
Anaïs Nin, Delta of Venus, originally published: 1977
— Vladimir Nabokov, Letters to Vera