It's A Big Shift When You Realize 99% Of All Actual Beauty Comes From Nutrition, Exercise, Sleep, Low-stress

The more I debate with TRAs, the more I realise that they genuinely believe that masculinity and feminity DO NOT exist as social concepts but rather as individual traits that can be mixed and matched and then attached to a word. For example, talking to a transman, I asked them what masculinity is, and they responded with "it is whatever you want it to be" or a good one I always hear is "masculinity means different things to different people".

TRAs genuinely believe that the concepts of masculinity and femininity are traits that are just attached to words. These words are empty vessels that THEY attach meaning to. They aren't defining a word; they are describing THEMSELVES. So when you ask a Trans person, "What are masculinity and femininity?" to them the question is received as "Describe who you are? or Describe yourself?" Thus, why, gender is something that is/can mean anything to anybody.

They have no structural conceptualisation of gender because, to them, gender is not a tool or even an ideology. It is the self. So when radfems say "woman is not a gender" or "women are adult human females," they cannot conceptualise or even grasp this because, to them, gender is the self. How can women be without the 'self'?

If you are Trans and reading this, you are describing gender as a personality. LMAO.

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Opinion | What People at Pornhub Were Thinking When It Shared Videos of Child Rape

Five years ago at Pornhub, executives were removing the most obvious videos of children. But one employee said ‘obvious’ meant a ‘3-year-old

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Children around the globe are being abused and traumatized in front of the screen and behind it by P*rnhub, its sister sites, and other free p*rn websites like them.

Yesterday it was reported, for example, that four children ages 9, 11, 12 and 15 sexually assaulted an 8-year-old girl. The children themselves told police that it was because they watched P*rnhub.

“They said they watched P*rnhub,” the mother of the victim lamented as she expressed concern for how easy it is for children to be exposed to online p*rn.

States across the U.S. have implemented age verification laws to protect children from p*rn exposure. In protest against the laws, P*rnhub is shutting itself down in those states and has sued the state of Texas to avoid compliance.

The U.S. Supreme Court will now begin hearing the case for online p*rn age verification to protect children starting January 15. Stay tuned.

i cannot put into words how sad i get when i see girls/women talking about wanting to get cosmetic surgery. there is nothing fucking wrong with having a face/body. why do you need to drop thousands to live up to a beauty standard? “omfg it’s her choice. y’all are feminists until it comes to what she chooses to do with surgery”. yes because why did she feel the need to make that choice? why can’t we accept that plastic surgery is meant to feed off of women’s insecurities?

i remember being told when i was about 12 and wanted to be a doctor “you could be a plastic surgeon” and immediately saying that i didn’t wanna see women pay me to “fix” them. i hate plastic surgery so bad. i know societal pressure is rough but it’s really not worth it :(

one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners

i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))

i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners

i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner

constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it

some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable

its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia

love the drusilla icon - terftosterone 🦌

Thank you!

I just saw one of the many ways that rape culture is subtley normalized in media.

I won't say what show I was watching because I don't want any spoilers, but the main character is a shifty guy who's meant to have a good heart regardless, and we're meant to sympathize strongly with him. He tricked a drunk woman into having sex with him by telling her a direct lie about who he was. She woke up horrified at being lied to and he went through his morning routine undisturbed by her outrage or her abrupt departure. The writers try to make it an amusing and light-hearted situation, like, "Boys will be boys! What a scoundrel, how funny, right?"

It isn't funny. It's sexual assault.

Imagine being the sort of "person" who lies to someone in order to get them to sleep with you with the understanding that they wouldn't come near you if you were honest about yourself; knowing that you were subverting their right to be selective about sexual partners and treating them like an object for your use rather than a human being who has the right to decide who has access to their bodies. Yet this is what this man did, and the show just moved on like it was no big deal instead of addressing what it actually was: a sign of a soulless, exploitative sexual predator, and someone no one should be sympathizing with.

There are SO many examples of this. Did anyone ever see those dumbass movies from the early 2000's, Superbad and 40-Year Old Virgin? The former is entirely about two teenage moids trying to get their classmates drunk so they'll be incapacitated enough to have sex with them, fully acknowledging that the girls would regard it as a mistake...

"𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗴𝗶𝗿𝗹𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝘆 '𝗔𝗵 𝗺𝗮𝗻, 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝘁-𝗳𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗻𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁, 𝗜 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻'𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗰𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗴𝘂𝘆? ' 𝗪𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲!"

The latter is about a man getting advice as to how to manipulate women into sex, which in one scene involves targeting women who are so inebriated that they're stumbling out of the bar. The men in the movie compare "drunk bitches" to gazelles and themselves to tigers, openly admitting that they're predators.

"𝗔𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼𝘁𝘁𝗮 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗰𝘁𝘀. 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗮 𝘁𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗹𝗲 𝗮 𝗴𝗮𝘇𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗲? 𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻, 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗗𝗡𝗔, 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 "𝗧𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗮𝘇𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗲." 𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁, 𝗶𝗻 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲'𝘀 𝗮 𝗰𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝘀 "𝗧𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗹𝗲 𝗱𝗿𝘂𝗻𝗸 𝗯*𝘁𝗰𝗵𝗲𝘀."

This all plants the idea that there is nothing serious about men preying on women; that it's even funny in it's own way. A lot of times, these men even have their happily ever after (or something closely resembling it) with the woman they preyed upon. I'm not even 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 to think of examples and tons of them are crashing down on me. Another is the Breakast Club, where John Bender insulted Claire the entire time, made her cry, attempted to fucking 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘶𝘭𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘳 under the table...

And yet at the end she kisses him multiple times and gives him her diamond earring.

Why? WHY? It makes me want to scream, cry, and vomit! I feel such despair at all of this because it's EVERYWHERE. The message of "Yeah just let men do what they want to you okay, it's normal, dont be such an uptight bitch, it's just what guys do and it's not a big deal" is all over the place and it's no wonder women have such a low standard for decent behavior from males. It's intentional. You have a million shitbag males in movies and shows who you're told to like and to root for while they abuse women who adore them at the end, after all they've done to them. Why would you not believe this is all normal when you're seeing it wherever you turn?

Sometimes it feels like such a huge problem, so all-pervasive, that I just want to throw in the towel. But ALL through my most impressionable years, no one pointed out any of this to me. No one said, "Look at what they're trying to make you believe is normal. Isn't that disgusting and pathetic?" 𝘕𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 talks about it, and I wish someone had! So if even ONE woman becomes more vigilant about the messages she's being fed through these storylines, and the way these situations are portrayed as normal, funny or charming, and these characters as "good guys" when actually they are 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘴 and NONE of this is normal or okay...

Then it was worth writing a post about.

sick of normal girls appropriating weird girl culture. you had friends in school you don’t get to reblog these posts

i remember about a year ago during the stephen hawking/epstein situation I saw a tweet that said that people were joking about it because it was little girls getting raped, if it were little boys, it would be taken much more seriously.

I finally understand what she meant

the planet is desensitized to female sexual abuse, it happens everywhere after all, we are constantly exposed to it, it's woven into our subconscious, into our very existence, it is seen as something normal, natural, inevitable even

libfems and male apologists will try and tell you that male rape victims have it harder than female ones.

propaganda.

men getting raped has always been seen as more abhorrent, because it's seen as unnatural. with women, it's something inherent to their experience and dismissed as unremarkable

but when you see it happening to a man, you can see for yourself what it truly is; a brutal act of sadistic domination, you empathise with the victim, imagine their pain, imagine how humiliated they feel, when it's a woman, it's just a statistic. woman are constantly humiliated, business as usual.