We Talk A Lot About How It’s Homophobic To Tell Lesbians That They Need To Be Open To Dating Males.

We talk a lot about how it’s homophobic to tell lesbians that they need to be open to dating males.

But by focusing on on how harmful this is to lesbians, we leave bisexuals behind.

Many trans people have an attitude of “If lesbians/gay men don’t want me, at least bisexuals do.” And that’s just not true, and not fair to bisexuals. It leads to a culture of expecting bisexual women to be okay with any configuration of biological sex, hormonal status, and body parts.

Bisexuals are therefore framed as a group of women who are supposed to be available as a potential partner for anyone who wants them.

So it’s not just homophobic, it’s part of rape culture. Because it aims to teach (mostly) women that they’re not allowed to form their own feelings about their sexuality and their attraction. It teaches women that their sexuality isn’t for them. Their sexuality is a political statement, and there is a right and wrong statement to make.

The fact of the matter is that no one has to date someone they’re not attracted to. No one has to try to develop attraction for someone they’re not innately interested in. No one has to “examine their preferences” when it comes to who they want in their bed. This includes bisexuals.

Yes, women standing up for ourselves does lead to a lot of lonely mtfs who can’t get dates. No, that is not women’s problem.

This affects all of us, but it affects bisexuals in a unique way that’s worth talking more about.

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biphobia Coercion lesbophobia

transfemritaskeeter-> vampfacing

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vampfacing

2 weeks ago

Jane Clare Jones hitting the nail on the head yet again!

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gender (aka sex stereotypes)

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vampfacing

6 days ago

I-

UGLY AND LOVED, OMG

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dating the beauty industry

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vampfacing

2 weeks ago

Love! Love! Love!

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the beauty industry

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6 days ago

Story: *medieval setting where a lesbian disguises as a man to marry the woman she loves, be able to practice sword fighting, and to avoid being married by force to a man*

The comments: omg transmasc?? Egg?? Whether she's a lesbian or transmac, it's still a 🌠queer🌠 story 🥰

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gender (aka sex stereotypes)

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vampfacing

1 week ago

No man = no problems.

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female separatism

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1 week ago

Free Palestinian women. Free Kurdish women. Free Afghan women. Free Syrian women. Free Sudanese women. Free Congolese women. Free Somali women. Free Yemeni women. Free Indigenous women. Free Rohingya women. Free Uyghur women. Free Haitian women.

None of us are free until all of us are.

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vampfacing

1 month ago

i don’t give a fuck if men feel like they’re being excluded from feminism. it’s not meant for them anyways!! something this app needs to understand is that activist movements like feminism, black liberation, lgb rights NEED to be exclusionary so they don’t get derailed. feminists are expected to be the universal mommies to men and cater to their interests. i don’t want to babysit men into caring about women. our collective goal should be to free women from patriarchy, you know? that thing that MEN CREATED??

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this exactly definitions are exclusionary so we can know wtf we're talking about! panactivist soup kills movements because interests start conflicting and letting majority groups take over activist minority groups leads to total derailment

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1 week ago

weirdo: i like watching women be abused

liberals: >:(

weirdo: it’s a sex thing???

liberals: :) ok sorry carry on

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bdsm kink

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1 week ago

i cannot put into words how sad i get when i see girls/women talking about wanting to get cosmetic surgery. there is nothing fucking wrong with having a face/body. why do you need to drop thousands to live up to a beauty standard? “omfg it’s her choice. y’all are feminists until it comes to what she chooses to do with surgery”. yes because why did she feel the need to make that choice? why can’t we accept that plastic surgery is meant to feed off of women’s insecurities?

i remember being told when i was about 12 and wanted to be a doctor “you could be a plastic surgeon” and immediately saying that i didn’t wanna see women pay me to “fix” them. i hate plastic surgery so bad. i know societal pressure is rough but it’s really not worth it :(

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