Gosh I Thought I Was Alone Feeling This Way. So Many Years I've Just Accepted This Idea That I Need To

Arcane has destroyed my spirit, and if I had one, my soul

Thankfully, #BlackButler is making me less sad

All of this. I think so many partners fall into the sexually coersive category without knowing what they're doing. However, it's still ok to say no and stick to it, regardless of how the other person reacts.

I feel like too many consent-related posts focus too much on giving and getting consent, and not making sure that people feel comfortable not consenting. We talk too much of consent as if it is a given, as if you just have to ask and then you’ll get it. 

like, there are so many things that boil down to “before you have sex, ask for consent” rather than “don’t assume you’re about to have sex unless you know for sure that the other party/parties want to, and even then they could change their minds”.

Which is just really unhelpful. The whole point of consent shouldn’t be “you should always ask for it and then you can have care-free sex”. That still assumes that you’re going to have sex, when the whole point of asking what people want to do is that it should be possible to say no.

Consent and dissent are both equally valuable. It’s OK if someone asks you if you want to do something, and you say no. And whether you say no for today, for a week or forever, it’s all fine.

Because you know that there are going to be people who think they’re so ~progressive~ and so ~feminist~. when they ask their partner(s) if they want to have sex, but then won’t be able to handle the word “no”.

Perks of Polyamory: nobody has to be alone!

This is fucking amazing

ohh yeah im a real piece of shit 👍 job please

love when there’s like 4 people online and we keep reblogging the same posts from each other. literally just 4 bitches hanging out and telling each other “exactlyyyyy”