venivampyr
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i’m gonna hold your hand with a glove on when i say this
when disabled/chronically ill people tell you they can’t do something, then that is not your cue to tell them that they can actually or that they’ll always find an excuse if they’re looking for one.
when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes that doesn’t mean it’s outside the realm of possibility, sometimes it means if they (attempted to) do that, they will seriously hurt themselves.
when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes it’s preventative care, and they refuse to do that thing to prevent a flare up from happening/their symptoms getting worse in the first place.
disabled/chronically ill people are not “looking for excuses”, they are giving you reasons why. something they don’t even have to do! so maybe just accept the reasons they give you.
This is fucking amazing
Gosh I thought I was alone feeling this way. So many years I've just accepted this idea that I need to mask and hide my own suffering at the expense of everything. And for what? I hate resenting others for being sick, but sometimes I can't help but resent them for their temporary pain or discomfort.
people assume that being physically disabled makes you more empathetic to the pain of others, but that’s not always the case.
for me, it feels unfair when others are in pain and don’t feel the need to hide that fact, because i have internalized the idea that i’m not allowed to talk about my own. it annoys me that, while most are typically understanding if a non disabled person doesn’t operate at their full capacity due to sickness or injury, disabled people are expected to function normally as if that isn’t our every day. as much as i want to feel solidarity towards a suffering person, it feels impossible not to be envious when their illness or ailment is temporary, but i will never, ever get a break from mine.
for obvious reasons i would never say any of directly to someone, because my pain doesn’t make theirs any less valid or real. still, i can’t help but feel that my disability has made me bitter and unkind, because i can’t help but compare my own experiences with theirs.
this is the reality of disability- it does not create perfect people. many of us are broken and struggle to connect with others because of our conditions, and that does not mean we are evil people
you want to shower body?? you want clean??? illness!! illness for a thousand days!!!!
love when there’s like 4 people online and we keep reblogging the same posts from each other. literally just 4 bitches hanging out and telling each other “exactlyyyyy”
Republicans have been fragile and extreme for decades.
JD Vance is actually a whole hemorrhoid. #ChangeMyMind
JD Vance asks who gives these justices that Presidents appoint and the Senate confirms the right to hold us from doing obviously illegal things?
The feigned indignation is appalling.
JD Vance is the least genuine person, a friendless resentful asshole.
I'm so sick of feeling erased. I just want to be ok
Arcane has destroyed my spirit, and if I had one, my soul
Thankfully, #BlackButler is making me less sad
Perks of Polyamory: nobody has to be alone!
This. We're living the darkest timeline atm.....
Ain't this some shit.
Copaganda is malware.
ohh yeah im a real piece of shit 👍 job please
As a painfully awkward person and someone who struggles with confrontation, this is scary! But I want to work on it
it’s okay to say ‘this isn’t for me’ or ‘I’m not happy here’ and leave… you don’t have to wait for things to be really bad
i’m ok with monogamy because it’s a fucked up fetish thing
#FUCKNAZIS
A: occupied Poland.
First Felon has over 3500 court cases.
Now that he is a convicted felon, fraud, and adjudicated rapist, he wants to skip judicial process and one-way ticket innocent people to concentration camps in El Salvador.
All of this. I think so many partners fall into the sexually coersive category without knowing what they're doing. However, it's still ok to say no and stick to it, regardless of how the other person reacts.
I feel like too many consent-related posts focus too much on giving and getting consent, and not making sure that people feel comfortable not consenting. We talk too much of consent as if it is a given, as if you just have to ask and then you’ll get it.
like, there are so many things that boil down to “before you have sex, ask for consent” rather than “don’t assume you’re about to have sex unless you know for sure that the other party/parties want to, and even then they could change their minds”.
Which is just really unhelpful. The whole point of consent shouldn’t be “you should always ask for it and then you can have care-free sex”. That still assumes that you’re going to have sex, when the whole point of asking what people want to do is that it should be possible to say no.
Consent and dissent are both equally valuable. It’s OK if someone asks you if you want to do something, and you say no. And whether you say no for today, for a week or forever, it’s all fine.
Because you know that there are going to be people who think they’re so ~progressive~ and so ~feminist~. when they ask their partner(s) if they want to have sex, but then won’t be able to handle the word “no”.
For realsies though
