I’m Eternally Grateful For The Response I Got From A Group Of My Friends I Came Out To, And I’m Certain

I’m eternally grateful for the response I got from a group of my friends I came out to, and I’m certain I’m as grateful -frankly, probably moreso- for the unanimous ‘we completely understand and agree with why you want to keep this private’ that I got than I am for the fact that it didn’t end my friendship with any of them and I was (and am) right to assume they’d accept me.

I think that 2023 is a good time for many of us, and allies in particular, to practice again the dying art of minding our own fucking business when it comes to the identities and lives of other people.

You see someone from one of your classes in a public place with a different gender presentation/expression than they typically have? Mind your own business.

You discover that one of your coworkers is in a same gender relationship, but they aren't out at work? Not your place to share that information in the workplace.

You notice that your neighbor in a red state takes a road trip across state lines with their transgender child every 3-6 months? No you fucking didn't.

You overhear students in your classroom using a different name and different pronouns for one student than you are used to using? If you live in a state hostile to trans rights, pretend that you don't know anything about this and report nothing.

You suspect that an acquaintance of yours might be gay, but they deny it when asked directly? Leave them the fuck alone.

One of your friends refuses to publicly label their sexuality? Good for them, you aren't entitled to that information anyway.

Your sibling comes out to you as questioning, but isn't comfortable sharing that with your parents yet? Keep your fucking mouth shut.

Don't out people; coming out is a personal choice not a moral obligation. Don't demand personal information about other people's sexuality or sex lives. You aren't entitled to information about anyone's gender identity, assigned gender at birth, or transition.

Bring back privacy, allow people to have control over the information that is shared about them publicly; it might save their job, their housing, their parental rights and their child's safety, or even save lives.

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1 year ago

hey. to the fat person reading this who wants to transition or is transitioning. make your transition goals fat like you. please. the things you aim to gain from transition can be gained while fat. you can be/express your gender and be fat. there is nothing wrong with that, no matter what anyone says. i promise.

let yourself exist. let yourself be happy. you have just as much of a right as every other person in this world to do that, especially as you transition. it's okay. you're going to be alright, and you're also going to look fucking awesome. you already look fucking awesome. it's your body. own it.

2 years ago

Here's something. I saw an "OC outfit doodle" thing going around, and, I can't really do doodles for every ask... but!

I would LOVE for y'all to ask me to describe a particular aesthetic or outfit or style you'd want to see any of my OCs or my fursona in. Like "what would they wear on a hot day" "what do they wear in bed" etc. etc.

Like any kind of curiosity about outfits and aesthetics, ask it about ANY of my OCs and I will do my best to answer :3

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1 year ago

I love that folks are being more accepting of autism, but I don't love that autism is being sanitized into a quirk.

There's a cute and acceptable form of autism on social media, and I don't see any indication that folks are remotely ready for discussing the rest of it, which contains all the uncomfortable things that impede a person's everyday life, require support, and make acceptance almost impossible—where the hygiene struggles, inappropriate social behaviors, involuntary movements and outbursts, meltdowns, and emotional dependence issues live. And the cuter and more sanitized the "good" autism gets, the more unacceptable the "bad" autism becomes.

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I Love Winking.
I Love Winking.

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S: Connie, Your present is me! C: oO(Understanding this situation) C: [Done] oO(MINE~~!!!!)


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I’m Still So Devastated I Never Got To Have Him Equip That Dress 

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1 year ago
Been Working On This Little Site Of Links To (mostly Historical-ish) Transgender Docos, Books, Magazines

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Having A Fursona Is Cool Because You Can Draw Them Wearing Cute Outfits You Wish You Owned And It’s

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