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Sex variant & GNC men are gender-marginalized. Period. As in, marginalized for being men. Manhood is not synonymous with cisgender patriarchal manhood. There are other forms of manhood and masculinity, and some of these are marginalized by patriarchy. Recognizing the marginalization of certain forms of manhood is not "calling them women" it is recognizing facts right in front of your fucking face.
Trans & intersex men are men, just not in the cis patriarchal way. And they are marginalized for being non-normative men, for reclaiming masculinity and making it into something non-oppressive. I'm tired of pretending I have any sort of inherent male privilege embedded in my soul as a GNC intersex man. Sure I'd have privilege SOMETIMES if I decided to buzz off all my hair, stop wearing the clothes I like, bind tighter, and I started performing patriarchal masculinity, but I'm not going to do that. Because that's not how I am a man. I tried doing that for a long fucking time and it wasn't me. And the treatment I got during that time was, while better than what I get now, still riddled with struggle. It isn't as if I can hide all my intersex traits.
So I ask, what fucking privilege do i have for being a man in the way I am right now? The privilege to be assaulted in bathrooms? The privilege of seeing the disgust on customer's faces at work when they hear how low my voice is in contrast with my appearance? The privilege of demanding to know my birth sex, and not believing me no matter my answer? The privilege of medical abuse? The privilege of people thinking they have a say in my gender identity? The privilege of people mocking my body? The privilege of being paid less than all my coworkers who work the same job? The privilege of sexual partners being disgusted at my body?
I'm not seen as a man in patriarchal society, I'm seen as a freak. And freaks don't have privilege.