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I cant really explain it but I feel like some of y'all dont realise how fucked up the parentification of children is. Whenever you're parentified by your siblings it isnt a "mom (friend) moment". It isn't you raising them. It's having to take care of them in ways your parents don't and being confused when they accidentally call you mom and having to correct them. You were still a stupid kid. You still said things you shouldn't've. But you had to make sure that everyone took care of themselves and make sure that they're not collapsing because no one else will. When you're parentified by your parents it isn't "my mom is my best friend" or "eldest daughter syndrome". It's my mom telling me how she cut herself when we were playing outside or how she got raped as a kid because "she doesn't have anyone else to talk to" and "you're so mature for your age". The anxiety generated by it isnt funny. It isn't a mom friend thing. It's being so scared all the time that something will go wrong because you didn't do enough. It's not knowing who you are outside of making people happy. Siblings are not parents. Parentified children are not moms or dads to their little siblings. They're just children forced into uncomfortable and traumatizing position by parents who cant provide in the ways they should. It isn't funny. It isn't cute. Why do you all keep acting like it's funny?