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By Amanda Martinez Beck and J Nicole Morgan, Cohosts of the Fat & Faithful podcast
When someone says, “you look great, have you lost weight?”
NICE: No — I choose to focus on other things than weight. Good to see you, though!
SPICE: Nope! Still fat! There are so many more interesting things to talk about than weight.
ICE: Hi. Please do not comment on my body. Thin ≠ happy or better.
When someone comments on something you put on your plate
NICE: I didn’t drive all this way to spend today eating salad :)
SPICE: Oh, I’m sorry — did you think my food choices were any of your business? Because they’re not.
ICE: (Stare) RUDE. (Continue loading plate.)
When someone jokes about the holidays making us fat
NICE: Oh, stop it. One day of feasting is not going to make anyone fatter than they already are.
SPICE: And…? Nothing wrong with being fat.
ICE: Why is fatness a punchline for you? Do you think my body size is funny or to be mocked?
When food is moralized
NICE: Oh, stop… Food is morally neutral and today is about feasting. Let it go!
SPICE: Bad for you? Is it crawling with maggots? ‘Cause that’s the only way I see pie being bad.
ICE: Stop moralizing food. It is harmful to talk and think about food this way and I will not let you talk this way around me and my children.
Whether you chose NICE, SPICE, or ICE, don’t be afraid to voice your boundaries and push back against diet culture and fatphobia during the holiday season.
❤️, Amanda & Nicole