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i think shipping culture is very centred around sexual intimacy, and sometimes just how good they look next to each other 😭 at least with some ships I've seen. It leads to some crazyyyy mischaracterization but that's another topic for another day
but i agreeeeeeeee, when it comes to ships i think more of how their dynamic plays out in different universes/ circumstances/ situations etc. because isn't it way more fun that way ?
i need you guys to understand i can get behind pretty much any ship as long as i can justify it. and i can justify a lot of things. i’m really good at that. i am not restrictive about the things i ship. and when i “ship” something i need you to know that (unlike the majority of humankind apparently) i am not thinking about sex. and without sex, the spectrum of romantic and platonic gets so incredibly gray that i personally do not feel like it’s worth distinguishing. in other words, when i say i “ship” something, i mean i believe these people have a very intimate bond that i think is worth exploring across a variety of contexts.
let me make this clear: labels are irrelevant to me. i am not distinguishing platonic ships vs romantic ships because without sex the difference is negligible to me. i am a big fan of casual (non-sexual) intimacy in relationships across the board ok.
so when i say “i love poly class A” i need you to understand that it is an incredibly complex web of dynamics that i cannot explain in simple words. i will have to write a million fics for you to understand it. but it allows me to explore multiple ships without having to distinguish universes or previous relationships, ok. it’s easier and a whole lot of fun.
i also have contradictory ships sometimes! endhawks and dabihawks, for example. those cannot exist simultaneously, but i do find them both compelling for different reasons (endhawks is more hawks and dabihawks is more keigo. it makes sense). cases like this do depend heavily on universe + characterization (aka how events preceding the ship have affected its existence) and i like to explore that. it’s interesting.
in short: i am very casual about shipping and i like lots of things! i am also not a sex-focused person or writer, so that has very little bearing on what i ship!! it’s about the emotional complexity and vulnerability and intimacy! those are the important things!!
thank you that is all