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JK Rowling is the author to a well-loved book series known as the Harry Potter series. They’re books that, whether we want to admit it or not, helped shape our childhood and, therefore, who we are today.
For years, many of us only managed to see the illusion she had created for us to see. Myself included. But as the years passed, the mask Rowling had carefully crafted for the public cracked, and the ugliness she carries within shone through.
Many of us had no clue of how truly troublesome she and her books really are until we got slapped in the face with reality. I, for one, failed to see the racism, homophobia, and ironically, the sexism within the books when I read them as a child.
Here are a couple of things from the HP series that just scream ‘internalized misogyny’ to me:
—Feminine Girls = Bad—
This trope is seen constantly throughout the series. We see girls like Lavender Brown, Parvati Patil, and Fleur Delacour — girls who acknowledge they’re pretty, who like fashion, and care for their looks — getting bashed and hated on left and right. Simply for the reasons stated above.
Meanwhile, girls like Hermione Granger and Ginny Weasley are celebrated for not being like that. Hermione has her intelligence and her cleverness. Ginny has her athletic build and tomboy-ish tastes (which comes from being the only girl in the family). I love them both, but they’re usually the ones doing the bashing in the books. I’m over it.
—Girls With Feelings = Bad—
This one I believe to be worse than the first point. Here you’ve got Cho Chang — who’s being mocked because she’s conflicted about her feelings for Harry, she feels as though she’s betraying her dead boyfriend who died the year before by the hands of Voldemort. Why do people pressure her so much? Can’t she take her time? It’s not like they don’t have more important things to worry about than having a girlfriend.
I’m also sick of the Lavender Brown bashing. She’s a nice girl who was desperately in love with Ron, she wanted so badly to have a magical love story that she was blind to how Ron didn’t like her as much. I love Ron, but come on.
This, as always, is what comes to mind at the moment. I might add some more later.
Rowling’s internalized misogyny aside from her books:
—Transphobia—
In case I haven’t made it clear with my previous posts (if you’ve seen them), I am an ally of the Transgender community. Trans men are men. Trans women are women. For me, it doesn’t matter what you identify as or what pronouns you use — you let me know, and I’ll adjust my vocabulary to fit your preference. Whatever’s is or isn’t in your pants is none of my business and should not be used as an excuse to disrespect you. Simple as that.
Unfortunately, not everyone thinks like I do. One of the people who have been actively harming the trans community because they can’t mind their own business is none other than JK Rowling.
I just think the idea of being a radfem or TERF is bullshit. I understand the point a lot of them make about how cis women’s struggles are different, and you’re right about that much. But you guys have to also realize that each woman’s experience with oppression is different anyway.
Take for example Black women and white women. It’s well known that Black women face more oppression compared to white women. Do you see them forming a feminist group that excludes white women? No, at least, not to my knowledge. So why exclude trans women when they, too, go through oppression?
Think about it: trans women also go through sexual harassment, rapes, murders, and daily disrespect just for being trans. Not to mention that the process of changing your sex is mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting. No one would go through all of that if they weren’t 100% sure that they were born in the wrong body.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: sex ≠ gender.
—Marilyn Mason—
I know this is from last year, but I just found out about it and I’m so mad.
For those who don’t know who Marilyn Mason is . . .
. . . it’s this creep. He legitimately scares me. He does horrible things just because he likes watching his victims squirm.
Here’s a list of things he’s done:
1. He has a cramped vocal booth with nothing but some soundproofing foams that his victims — mostly ex girlfriends and former female employees of his — describe it as a solitary-confinement cell used to psychologically torture women. This monster would lock his victims in there for hours, he got off on watching them struggle and slowly become more and more desperate to get out. He boasted about it, and called it the “Bad Girls’ Room”.
2. He’s being sued for sexual assault by a former assistant (it is unknown to me whether more victims have come forth or not).
3. His apartment was decorated with blood, swastikas, and clipped photos from porno magazines. There’s also a spray-painted message above his bed that reads “AIDS”.
4. Most of the mental, physical, and emotional abuse was done at this apartment — which some describe to be a black refrigerator or a meat locker. Most, if not all, of his victims now suffer from bouts of anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and PTSD.
5. Specified forms of abuse: Game of Thrones actress Esmé Bianco alleges that Mason frequently abused her verbally; deprived her of sleep and food; bit, cut, electrocuted, and whipped her without her consent; and raped her during their two years together. Bianco alleges that, in one horrifying episode, Mason wielded an ax and chased her around the apartment smashing holes in the walls after saying she was “crowding him.”
Rolling Stone Article on Marilyn Mason.
Now you may be wondering, what does Marilyn Mason have to do with JK Rowling?
Ah, thank you for asking. Look at this:
Marilyn Mason thanked JK Rowling on Twitter and Instagram for roses. Why would she — self-proclaimed feminist — be sending this man monster flowers? Why would she even want to be associated with him?
How can she call herself a feminist and be friendly with this beast in the same breath? Mason has been known for being like this for literal years, so it can’t be that she didn’t know about it.
JK Rowling is so concerned with trans women, saying that they’re not real women because they were born a male. She says she loves and admires trans people only to go ahead and demean them, ignore their criticisms, and overall send them hate for who they are. And yet.
I’ve had plenty of Anons telling me that I’m the hateful one because I can’t tolerate the fact that her opinion on trans people differs from mine. You can think whatever you like about trans people, really, I usually just cut TERFs out of my life as soon as I find out. Snip snip. So my issue isn’t Rowling having a different opinion, even if I think it’s wrong. My issue is with how uses her money, platform, and fame to hurt trans people. My issue is with how when trans people and their allies try to tell her that she’s hurting them and us, she scoffs at us and digs the knife deeper. All of this in the name of feminism. She’s not even a real feminist, anyway.
Remember: an opinion is whether you think the milk goes before the cereal or not, it’s NOT whether someone’s gender identity and the oppression that comes with it are valid or not.
wait i don't understand - https://thesoftrainbows.tumblr.com/post/669930297514704896/you-really-do-be-putting-yourself-in-the-same
I’d be more than happy to explain, but can you specify what it is that you don’t understand?
You really do be putting yourself in the same crowd as these degenerates
https://welladjustedindividuals.tumblr.com/post/668134770467913730/this-is-it-this-is-the-post-that-peaked-me
Link Warning: Death threats, cursing, suicide baiting, extremists
Hey Anon,
You know what’s funny to me? That I post about protecting trans lives in a respectful way, I take the time to explain, and show links, and overall I try to be nice to everyone—including people like you, who come into my asks being extremely rude—just to get compared to this subgroup.
That’s what they are. A subgroup within a much larger group that are dedicated to defending trans rights and their lives.
Besides, are TERFs really going to act like they’ve never behaved like this? Really? They’ve never sent death threats? They’ve never bullied a trans girl to the point of suicide? They’ve never done anything wrong?
It’s easy to make yourself feel better by looking at this side of us, where people don’t quite understand that they’re stooping to your level. But at the end of the day, a TERF is someone who wants to take away basic rights from a human being who was born in the wrong body and is trying to fix that glitch in nature. A TERF is someone who excludes people just because they’re trans, who invalidates their gender identity. If that doesn’t make you a jerk, I don’t know what will.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: sex ≠ gender.
Trans women make the world a brighter place