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yeah man that group of queer people really are evil fakers stealing ur resources. for real this time yeah. no it's not dumb meaningless exclusionist discourse that you're traumatizing a group of fellow queer people with this time, it's a good thing this time. keep sending those people death threats and talking about how they're not oppressed enough you're really doing so much good for the queer community
See, while "gender is not inherently tied to sexuality" is true, I think it's a bit more complex than that. Often, you'll fond that society conflate gender and sexuality to the point that they influence each other, and that's important also to recognize.
My manhood isn't contradicted by my queerness, but I spent so many years feeling like I have failed as a man because societal manhood hinges on performing heterosexuality. It actually made me dysphoric to be queer because my manhood was already under scrutiny.
I've found that this is something cis queer guys and I have been able to bond over, though. Even though these guys are cis, their own manhood is just as criticized because of their queerness. They have been treated as lesser men or not even as men but gay men (derogatory). It's made me so much more aware of how fragile manhood can be if you base it on society rather than your own internal world.