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This, but also with trans people in general. No one owes you any specific way of expressing themselves.
For example... This person goes by she/her, doesn't pass, but is still happy with her appearance and body? Great for her! I'm glad she is able to express herself how she wants to!!
We /need/ to demolish this weird way of thinking where we believe that what we expect should be what is shown/given to us. As said above, it doesn't make someone any less valid of a community member just because they don't 'look' it. We're supposed to support each other, not bring each other down.
"The nonbinary afab who goes by she/her, dresses femininely, and uses a push-up bra when I—" when you what? What's wrong with her?
Is she not nonbinary enough for you? Is the way she experiences her queerness and how she presents not perfect enough for you? Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny, right? So why is she the exception? Why does she have to hate herself to appeal to your standards? Why is she any less trans—any less worthy of respect—cause it's "not visible"? Queer solidarity my ass. Don't spout this bullshit on Pride, man.