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At least don’t tag her name on it!

You would think with certain revelations during these past few years, people would stop trying to vilify a native queen whose family (including twin brothers) and peoples were mass-murdered thrice over by invaders who steal her twin sons to keep as hostages against the surviving native population…

And yet, here we are. In 2021. Trying to browse Elwing’s tag and get a whole bunch of “shitty suicidal neglectful mom”-takes alongside “the genocidal mass-murdering kidnappers hostage takers that forced her to jump or be killed by them were their ~*REAL*~ parents uwu!”.

No. Elrond and Elros didn’t have any parents because the mass-murdering kidnappers killed their entire family! The closest thing they got were those few years before their real parents (and grandparents, and uncles, and great-grandparents and so on all the way back to Olwë’s people at the First Kinslaying, since Olwë was their great-great-granduncle) were killed by the mass-murderers you claim were better than their victims!

Maglor and Maedhros DID NOT create a found family FFS! Any rapport established between them and the twins were the twins trying desperately to survive being their hostages! It was not ~*uwu*~ sweet and lovely ~*uwu*~ it was likely fucking traumatic and Elrond and Elros were likely unable to deal with that trauma until their kidnappers disappeared and they felt safe again! Read up on Fawn in Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn reactions. Or any other related psychology!

Also, if Maglor and Maedhros actually took pity on orphaned elflings and not just valuable hostages, they would have adopted ALL the orphaned elflings; they had just burned a city and slaughtered lots of elves! Surely, unless they only slaughtered elflings, that means that there’s lots of orphans to go around! (This is why I say that the Silm is basically Noldorin propaganda; it’s not pity which moves Maglor, or there would have been a lot more adoptive brothers and sisters of the twins, but saying that it is pity makes Maglor and Maedhros look like better people than they actually are.)

so ok yeah fine i watched gravity falls again and read the book of bill

Love without Sex

I’m doing a Philosophy paper on Asexuality. Please reblog if you think Love without Sex is possible! I really need the data. Like if you think love has to have sex.

Perisex allies: stop this shit

CW: intersexism

Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:

Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."

It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩

It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩

It's so wrong in so many different ways:

Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.

Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.

Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.

Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.

Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.

While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.

📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.

Here are some starter resources to give:

Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl

Media and style guide by IHRA

FAQ by intersex-support

A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies

i need to learn every language in the world so i can know if the subtitles are right or wrong

As someone who wasn't around when Personal News was going on and haven't seen all of Personal News, I needed this 🙏

celebrating the return of Personal News with a little compilation

Now text in entry fields will scroll if it doesn't fit. Also the selected entry field and its message will appear at the top of the screen on Android and IOS (i made this also on Windows to show it to you)