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PSA: Freeuse is about consent

Freeuse (or "free use") is about radical consent. While it is about consenting broadly, it is still absolutely about consent. Even in fictional worlds where sex is seen on about on the same level as handshakes here, it is something people permit, something they consent to.

The Sexual Service Act world is populated with women who chose and continue to choose to be dominated by men. Is that an unlikely reality? Yes. Fiction does not need to be likely.

Their bodies, their choice to give or rescind power over their bodies.

Submissives permit Dom(me)s to have power over them and can revoke it at any time. That's how power play works.

Don't confuse fantasies, fiction, and play with reality. Enjoy all of those things as much as you like, and as deeply or darkly as you like. However...

If you're threatening women and telling them they have no choice over what happens to them in the real world, I am not your friend.

If this post makes you unfollow this blog, stop buying my stories, etc... well, I'll just have to do without you. I'd prefer you understand what I'm saying but I'll just have to hope you figure out a few things someday.

Good submissives seek out and listen carefully to whatever things make their partners happy (and their cocks hard.) They learn to excitedly let obedience to the cravings that their partners have become the focus of their own arousal.

Letting it fill the full horizon of your mind is the nature of the experience a submissive should always strive for. Develop your arousal entirely within service to your Dominant partner’s preferred kinks.

Of course, in a healthy BDSM relationship the Dominant partner is also attentive to your interests and sexual triggers and will shape their own cravings by using YOUR sexual energy as an essential ingredient. This should at times be so deeply entwined together that the submissive cannot differentiate easily which energy and kinks belonged originally to the Dominant partner or to them. This blending and loss of self awareness is often a necessary element of healthy “relationship subdrop.”

Relationship supdrop is the idea that simply spending time being present within the relationship’s energy is a step into subdrop. This is the very first stage of development for a 24/7 D/s relationship.

The two partners at some point or another might simply look at each other and realize that their energy extends so deeply into each other that sometimes, oftentimes, it can be hard to see life as being anything else.

Begin in a place that deeply appeals to a sub to facilitate subdrop’s first stages and then any escalations into subspace makes it possible to introduce other harder to process kinks and also sexual elements of service to the Dominant’s preferences that would have met resistance if introduced at the wrong time. In this way the fact that they are the Dominant’s preferences becomes lost. Remember, as a submissive your primary focus is to fill your horizon with service to and arousal from your Dominant’s kinks and preferences. Once enmeshed in the elevation of an experience whatever the Dominant introduces, if done skillfully, will truly feel like it was a kink you held hidden away deep inside of you all along. In truth, given the interconnected reality of our existence using this tool to access the interpersonal psychology of your relationship with your partner is completely understandable.

Acceptance of your sexual identity as a submissive with extreme kinks means, in part, being able to have pride and resilience against what negative things you imagine others might be thinking about you and your choices.

Celebrate yourself.

Only idiots and abusers fail to support feminism.

Idiots because they fail to understand it and abusers because they’re too incompetent to actually earn a woman’s trust.

Feminism is THE one and only mechanism by which actual submission is possible. When you argue against this fact you reveal very clearly whether you are an idiot or an abuser, or (as is oftentimes the case) both.

Let me make this perfectly clear

Am I deep down a feminist who just has kinky fantasies? 

NO! 

I reject that shit completely.  

Equality is an absurd lie.  Women should only worry about supporting and pleasing Men.  

Our job is to cook, clean, lick, suck, suffer and bear children.  We will lick your ass and drink your piss, but PLEASE do not try to treat us as equals!  

Ladies, who is with me on this? 

When it comes to implements, it is important to not only identify what you do and don’t like about them, but to then clearly articulate those details to your partner(s).

This is good advice for the mechanical elements of becoming more physically pleasing, but I would expand upon it significantly.

Learning how to “blow his mind” goes well beyond physical ability and proficiency with the actions of being a good, devoted, cum swallowing friend/partner/girfriend/wife.

When a man is cuming that is the psychological trigger for you to dive deep. When a man is cuming you have a craving that kicks in. You need his cum. You need to taste, swallow, and radiate with the possession of every drop of cum he could issue to your insatiable need for it. It is the moment of great communion where your love unites and you gain the fleeting magical glow of being the good girl who loves him so much that she swallows all of his cum because it fills your heart with happiness.

The successful alignment of your enthusiasm is gauged by what attitude that enthusiasm stems and the depth of the sincerity of that energy as it is flowing between you as a man’s orgasm floods into you with his energy. An energy always seeking a connection that truly and sincerely craves it to be taken deep inside… This is essential for anything even glimpsing what a mind blowing blow job involves.

Let me simplify:

A man’s orgasms create a direct connection with a universal energy that is looking to find the deepest and most magical well in all the universe. If he is not cuming in your pussy and activating a billion or more years of connection to this shared energy with you and feeling you getting pregnant while in the orgasmic moment that is connecting him to you while you have also aroused your connection such that you suspended together beyond space and time in your connection to this infinite energy of creative magic; then if that or its nearest facsimile is not what is happening and instead he is cuming in your mouth, there is a different infinite magical energy you are responsible for learning how to navigate together. The magical power of creation being drunk and creating connection through that magical elixir. You have within you a similar connection and channel that sucking my cock can activate.

Some men are not well attuned to the realm of the infinite that swims all around us. Others need to dance with the love of their life in it because it is there that they feel most alive.

Choosing Obedience can have many reasons. Making your partner (“Daddy” honorific in the above case) proud is a very common reason, although there are others. Whatever motivates you, Obedience in a BDSM relationship is only possible from a starting position of equality. This is the relevance of feminism in BDSM. No person can truly submit their power to another if they did not start from a position of equality.

The current wave of anti-feminism in “bdsm” blogs isn’t BDSM at all. It is just a self aggrandizing abuse fantasy, almost universally advanced by men with a sadism fetish and no real world way to explore their want for a relationship of any kind. Their fantasy and loneliness leads them to self-delude that they can espouse a philosophy of abusing a person into submission. They delusionally think they can coerce and/or threaten a person sufficiently to create a relationship that is rewarding to them. They’re criminally violent in their abuse fantasies and there’s no place for them in this society except in a therapist’s office.

While the state of abuser blogs remains such a high concentration, there really is no place for the public display of any undisclaimed anti-feminism kink in public facing spaces like Tumblr.

We Don’t Want To Choose

Being a a man who wants to choke a woman on your cock, and also pull out her chair is not contradictory. Drying her tears when she burns dinner, and wanting to beat her ass with a paddle until she cries, are not contradictory. It’s okay to care about her favorite book, what happened at work, and why she thinks she doesn’t deserve that new sweater. It’s also okay to enjoy that whimpering sound she makes when you pull her hair, and want to smear her makeup with your cock while she edges herself for you. You can hold her when she stubs her toe, and still want to fuck her ass so hard she begs you to stop.

These are the men masochists crave. Men who understand that caring, loving, and tenderness are not weakness. Men who are also not afraid they will break us. Who know that we can be both strong and vulnerable. Men who satisfy our needs and give life to our dark desires. We don’t want to choose. Masochists are greedy, and we want both.