The Key Here, Is To Choose The Path You Want Your Arousal Driven Adventures To Take, And To Then Enthusiastically

When you think about having a collar on and having nothing else to think about except whether or not you have kept your owner’s cock hard and his attention held as he imagines different ways to use you in pursuit of his orgasm, it makes your slutty little whore hole drip.

You should ram your fingers in it right now and then smear what your cunt is leaking all over your face and tits, while you thank your master for giving you the opportunity to be nothing more than a dripping hole serving his dick and whatever he might dream up to perversely do to you.

You should bend over and smear your tight little asshole with the drippings from your cunt and then when you’re sure he’s looking at you, ram your fingers in your dirty little hole so that he knows for sure that not only can he ram his dick in whatever hole he wants, but that you are excited about being ready for it. Excited to let him see your need for his cock. Excited to let him see your craving to be of service.

Suck your fingers right out of your asshole to remind him that you understand what you are. Show him that you have only as much dignity as his cock prefers for you to have. Show him that your holes exist to be of service to whatever degrading perversions he wishes to exercise upon you or through you.

Ask him if his friends will be joining you or whether he is going to be the only one stretching and using all of your holes for the evening.

Ask him what objects would entertain him to see you fuck inside of yourself as you spread your legs wide and stroke fingers in and out and all around your dripping cunt.

Be consciously proactive in stimulating his imagination by inviting him to think of you in perverse ways. Lead his thoughts directly into connecting you to your collectively preferred perversions. Do this by actively leading his thoughts toward imagining using your body as entertainment in service of the perversions you think might be among the preferences for the moment.

Ask him if there’s a bottle in the cabinet that you might be allowed to fuck before pouring him a drink from it.

Ask him if there are any utensils in the kitchen he plans on using later so that you might fuck yourself with them and leave them out on the counter for him hoping to encourage him to think about the way you are enthusiastic about providing him sexual service in the mundane things from daily life.

Another easy example: When you are going to change clothes into your pajamas, ask him if he has any preferences about what you wear and offer to show him what different outfits will look like.

Don’t just come out in the different clothes, present yourself as part of the story these clothes fit into. If you aren’t sure, ask him to tell you stories about what kind of girl, perversion. and experience he thinks accompanies your outfits. Give your mind the space to accept that whatever he says is in service to creating arousal and that your role in this is something he is excited about. The perversions may at first be intense or unsettling to hear or realize are being imagined about you. Try to relax and lean into finding ways that these perversions can arouse you. The first couple examples are easy ways to get his direct involvement, if you are having difficulty with the other options.

Put on an open cup bra that lifts and presents your tits, a tight pair of panties with an open crotch, and a slave collar. Crawl out with a leash or a paddle held in your teeth. Tell him you’re having trouble deciding what to wear to bed and that you need instruction. Tell him you don’t know what would make him want to use you for his pleasure the most, but that is the outfit that you want to pick. Beg him for help.

Come out naked carrying nothing but his belt and tell him you’re having trouble deciding what to wear to bed and that you think if only he would give you a little bit of an attitude adjustment and some guidance that you’re sure you’d be able to pick out just the right thing.

Put on a little schoolgirl style nightgown with a cute little character on your panties and ask him if He thinks this outfit would make her perverted Daddy’s cock hard if she wore it to around the house and then to bed.

Put on a body harness and a dog collar and ask if a good little doggy could earn her way to sleeping in the bed with her owner.

Put on one of his T-shirts and some panties that get very easy to finger into your pussy when you’re wet and ask if he’d like to get you really high and take advantage of you.

Put on something very elegant and ask if you might be able to discuss opportunities for him to whore you out like a high-end call girl.

Come out wearing some bridal lingerie and ask him if you could start planning your next gangbang or other slutwife adventure.

Come out wearing some super slutty hooker street walking clothes and tell him you’re not sure where your wife went, but that you are happy to let him fuck you for free in exchange for some feedback on what kind of slutty outfits a cheap whore like you should wear to bed.

Etc… etc…

Yes, yes, pretend my vocabulary is a negative to firm up your safe space of self delusions and lies. Wallowing in fallacies doesn’t in fact dig you out of the hole you excitedly dug.

Your blog is utterly littered with biological hierarchy nonsense that you use to justify the delusional bullshit you pretend is a rebuttal to my opening comment.

Again, the main reason people so adamantly cling to this sort of disinformation peddling is a lack of capability to earn a woman’s respect on equal footing. They need an imbalanced power dynamic as the starting point so they can pretend their inept interpersonal skillset is actually a personal strength.

The nonsensical rant as reply was, of course, not at all actually relevant to reply to. The gish gallop of BS thrown out as desperate effort to justify advocating a society of weak men who don’t have to actually fully earn a woman’s submission by pretending the deck is innately and biologically stacked is the same bullshit rapists use to justify their biological urge to rape people.

Good stuff if you’re emotionally stunted and prefer women who accept emotionally and developmentally stunted men as the norm for society, I suppose.

I’ve wasted entirely too much time platforming these ineptly framed and utterly nonsensical views and the fallacious rhetoric these folks use for justification of them.

Feminism as the foundational point of a relationship is the only method that exists for a woman to submit to a man. Half baked discussions of capitalism and misplaced understanding of our social ills suits you... Wallow in it along with your fallacies used as deflection some more, though.

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feminism

1. the belief that women should be allowed the same rights, power, and…

Make it make sense…

It is important to understand that being a feminist simply means that a woman implicitly starts from a position of equality. Some women will then use that position of equality to choose to give some elements of their power over to a man. In the case of female submission this (a starting point of equality and the choice to give power to another) is in fact the only path to actual female submission. The narrative of intrinsic female inferiority is the narrative of weak and incompetent men who cannot earn the gift of a woman’s power.

I'm a feminist but...

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10  things a Dom expects a sub to know without being told

1. He needs to be the priority. Make him your priority regardless of how horny you are. A true Dom/sub relationship extends beyond sex into all other aspects of the partnership.

2. He has emotions and needs them acknowledged. The internet (and Tumblr is especially egregious in this regard) has created the toxic stereotype of the Dominant as this calm, cold, unemotional Olympian figure who is always as in charge of himself as he is of his submissive. Accept that your Dominant is human, and it is only normal, and that he will occasionally have a moment of weakness, or self-doubt, or — horrors! — shedding a tear.

3. Know him better than others. If your Dominant is having emotional difficulties, or even something as “insignificant” as a bad day at work, you should be sensitive to that, just as he needs to do likewise for you. It’s a mutually-caring relationship after all.

4. Let him control things (including you). That is his responsibility. Yours is to obey.

5. Abide by the rules. Your Dominant constructs various rules, tasks, rituals, etc, for a purpose. That purpose may not always be obvious to you. It doesn’t have to be. Trust that he knows what he’s doing. If you’re not willing to put in the work, then you should do some soul-searching and evaluate how deep (or even genuine) your submission really is.

6. Remember that he is yours. This is always reciprocal. Just as he expects your total devotion and commitment and fidelity, you have the right to expect those things from him. To be clear, this is not the same as taking your Dominant for granted. Just as he has to earn those things from you every day, so you also have to earn them from him every day.

7. Appreciate the work he puts into you, and let him know that you appreciate it. Being a dominant (especially in a day-to-day rather than sporadic relationship) is hard work. Let him know how much it means to you that he considers you worthy of all that work and direction and energy.

8. Be mindful of your respective positions in the D/s relationship. He is your Dominant. Can you be affectionately playful and impish? Yes; any Dominant who doesn’t  relish such from his submissive on occasion has some significant self-confidence issues. Sarcastic or willfully bratty? No way.

9. Give the same respect you get. If he shows you that, despite the way your relationship might look to the vanillas, he holds you in the highest respect, then return that  respect. If you come to the conclusion that he does not hold you in the highest respect, you might want to reevaluate your relationship and possibly move on.

10. Above all else: he expects your submission to be whole and complete and without reservation, save for those things that the two of you negotiate as equals before you offer him your submission (and renegotiate from time to time as the relationship evolves). You don’t get to submit just when you’re in the mood. There are no half-measures.

And on the flipside

10 things a sub expects a Dom to know…without being told

1. She needs to be the priority. She doesn’t want to compete with others. If every woman is hot, she’ll find it hard to stand out….and she needs to stand out.

2. She has emotions and needs them acknowledged. Probably more than you bargained for.

3. She needs you to know her better than others do….if her friends notice she was in a slump, you should notice first.

4. There are some things some of us just can’t physically do…don’t expect her to do something just because your last sub could or you’ve seen another sub do it. Not every sub can take a dick all the way down her throat.

5. Don’t compare her. She’s her own individual. She’s unique. That’s probably why you chose her in the first place. She may not be the hottest sub or have pics of her pink parts spread out for the world to see. But she goes out of her way to be the best in your eyes. Show her that she is.

6. Let her control things. ( wait, don’t let your heads explode here). If you’ve delegated certain chores to her…give her the control to do them. If they are getting done, does it really matter that they weren’t done in the exact way you would’ve done them?

7. Enforce the rules. All the time. Not just when it makes you feel Domly. After all, she’s in this D/s relationship because she needs the structure of the rules. She might sigh or grumble… but rules are partly why she’s here.

8. Remind her she’s yours. Every day. Even if you haven’t collared her, she’s given herself to you. She wants to hear and see that you own her. (Example: a hand full of hair while firmly kissing her will remind her of that…and get her wet in the process ;). )

9. Appreciate the submission she gives you. It takes more for some to submit than just the act of doing what they are told. She might find that she has to submit herself every day.

10. Be hers. Just as she is yours. Let her know that you aren’t just a Dom…you are HER Dom.

These are two separate blog posting yet fitting for one. That way everyone that needs it has both  to understand both sides of the coin. 

Just let it happen

80% of being a woman/cock doll is letting things happen to you. He asks for your phone number, you let him have it. He asks you on a date, you let him take you.

The difficult part comes after the niceties. It can be hard to let go, and let other things happen to you. It may help to consider yourself as a well, and he’s the bucket. You exist to give, he exists to take. If the well is dry, it can’t give anything. If it can’t give anything, it’s useless. (A bucket, on the other hand, will always be useful in any other well.)

He wants to come upstairs, don’t hesitate. Let him. He wants to take photos, let him. He wants your asshole? Well, what did you expect? You let him take you out, you let him do the nice things. Now it’s time to let him do everything else. Men are designed to want and you’re designed to give.

Hubby has been more demanding recently. When he bosses me around, I let him. This may sound like I’m topping from the bottom, but it’s not what I mean. I “let him” in that when he tells me what to do, I’ve actively tried not to resist. He half-jokingly told me to stop talking the other day. The old me may not have let that happen, snapping back with some remark, needing to have the last word to seem strong or witty. But I let myself be silenced, and it was like the endorphins rushed straight to my clit. I am a well full of willfulness that Husband is taking away, one bucket at a time. I’m happier because I let him.

We get so nervous over stupid things. What will other people think? Is this too humiliating? What if he’s just using me?

Let him.

Listen to that voice inside you that says “obey.” Being smart, talented, artistic- these are all good qualities, but they won’t be as important as your servility. You can cash in on them a bit, in that your loss of dignity will be that much greater, your fall, that much harder. But you’ll be simultaneously released from the pressures of being those things.

So when you think you have something important to say, and he decides to put tape over your mouth? Let him. Be grateful that he can see past what you think you need. Give in, let yourself be silenced.

Because when you let him, you can finally allow yourself to love, honor, and obey.

Xoxo Dbts

Everyone learns in different ways.

Reinforcing lessons, to a point of acceptance of that lesson, might require a variety of approaches until it is finally understood to a point that it no longer needs to be taught.

Acceptance leads to sincerity of practice.

If you lack sincerity in your practice then you are still in need of the lessons and the consequences that come from not yet understanding the importance of the practice.

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The essence of Dominance....💜

Pornography is almost entirely biased toward predatory consumption. The content appeals to those who get off on predatory consumption.

Generalizing…

This, in the self created content era, tends to be submissive leaning women and the men who enthusiastically consume them and mold them to service their consumption and often predatory kinks.

This is not some wild revelation. It is the point and the structure of the whole porn reality.

Women who get off on it accept that objectification, degradation, and humiliation, create exciting images for the many men who get aroused by these things. Women feel how dirty it is to serve themselves into the arousal of these men. It feels disgusting. It feels humiliating. Yet… in that a great many women find their own arousal couldn’t be greater.

There is nothing wrong with a woman enjoying the energy of being degraded, humiliated and objectified.

Letting these things stimulate your own cravings is your right as a woman to enjoy. You can not only let yourself want it, you can practice growing your role within it. You can like it. It is your right to want to serve men who are offering up an erotically predatory craving to use you. For you to want to service their craving because it feeds your own cravings.

Cravings to serve. To please. To receive attention. To earn praise. To feel dirty. To ache from hard use. Etc…

It is ok to not only accept these experiences, but it is your right to enjoy and pursue them.

Practice it. Serve it. Want it.

Let it ignite your cravings and fan those flames.

Seek out the porn that you crave. Accept that it serves filthy things within you as it helps shape you into a woman who allows herself to enjoy whatever perverse kinks she enjoys.

Degrading, violent, male centered sex gets you off and there is nothing wrong with that.

It is not exciting for all women, just as it is not exciting for all men. But if it does excite you, there is no reason not to enjoy, accept, and grow that which gets you off.

Just to repeat myself

I've been seeing a recent influx of followers so now is a good opportunity to repeat a post I've made before:

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If any of the above describes you, kindly fuck off.