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INFJ in a Nutshell #12

“That’s a thing?”

Chill or ticked: there is no in-between

“Lets go around the room and introduce ourselves!” *internal screaming *

Probably has a drawer full of interesting knick-knacks

Sometimes picture-shy

*phone rings * “My clock is making weird noises again…”

Knows a lot, can’t put their knowledge into words very well

Knows more people in books than in real life

“I’ve lost all faith in humanity.”

Stan Lee has said that unlike other heros wearing a mask to only hide their identity, Peter wears one partially so his enemies can’t see when he’s afraid and that honestly makes me cry

Hey :D can you do the crush thing on INFJ please?

Generally speaking, INFJs do not handle crushes very gracefully. The combination of Ni-Fe-Ti will often make them overthink things and inferior Se makes them blind to the realities of the situation. Mature INFJs who are more in touch with Fe/Se will trust their intuitions and, as a result, be more bold to pursue crushes even if they feel some anxiety about the outcome; they will feel confident in their own ability to deal with whatever happens. Less mature INFJs who are more aligned with Ni/Ti would probably have low self-esteem and a much stronger fear of getting hurt/rejected. They could get stuck endlessly analyzing or obsessing about the “truth” of the situation, never reaching any conclusion because there are simply too many unknowns. This can leave them paralyzed and torn between the fear of missing out and the lack of confidence to take action. They might unconsciously fill the void of knowledge by idealizing the crush, only to end up incredibly disappointed when the person/situation does not match their expectations. INFJs value privacy and can tend towards secrecy because Ni has a natural inclination towards self-protection and managing consequences. Compared to other inexpressive/introverted types, INFJs generally possess a greater capacity for masking emotional turmoil, so their “poker face” is often impenetrable; Fe prevents them from disturbing the status quo and they can utilize Ti to harden or detach themselves. This makes it easy for them to hide their true feelings and suffer alone in silence. As a result, it is not unusual for INFJs to miss the opportunity to start a new relationship because, by the time they feel prepared enough to take action, the other person is already beyond reach.

From the other person’s perspective: Mature INFJs will send out more obvious signals, but less mature ones can be extremely subtle because they need to proceed as slowly as possible in order to manage any anxiety. They will find opportunities to be near you or chat with you. The more anxious ones will investigate you from a distance or through mutual friends. They will want to know all about you, your family, your past, your future goals, your inner most thoughts, etc. They will try and take advantage of every chance to know you more deeply without being too obvious. However, it is important to note that people often feel drawn to INFJs because they are generally helpful people and very good listeners who can carry on quite lengthy conversations without ever sharing anything about themselves. Thus, it would be important to make sure that their interest in you is for personal reasons and not motivated by a selfless desire to help you out with some problem/issue. Generally speaking, INFJs are not so outgoing as to want to know everything about everyone, so if they take a keen interest in you for reasons that are not entirely obvious, it is usually a good sign. Mature INFJs generally appreciate honesty and the courage to be vulnerable, so you should probably just be direct with them if you are unsure about how they feel. No matter how they feel, they will likely discuss and process all your feelings with you until both parties feel a sense of closure. However, less mature INFJs can be defensive, oversensitive, and easily overwhelmed, so proceed with caution where they are concerned because there is a possibility that you could get door-slammed. It is probably a good idea to form a close friendship with an INFJ (by getting to know them better) before pursuing anything romantic because many of them take a serious and long term view of relationships. They want a lasting and deep connection which requires some time to build up trust and understanding, so it is usually not a good idea to try and push or rush an INFJ into anything.

I took my meds too close to bedtime again and I need you all to know the dream I had last night involved Robin Williams becoming the new Defense Against The Dark Arts teacher at Hogwarts. Not, a character portrayed by Robin Williams, just Robin Williams as himself running around Hogwarts doing wandless magic and being as loud and big as possible because and I quote before I forget:

“Listen, children, I’m not saying all this bad shit that is happening isn’t scary and you shouldn’t be concerned–because you should!–but I’m telling you this now for free. Life is a boggart, it’s the biggest boggart of them all. You never know what it’s going to look like one moment to the next. And sometimes you just gotta laugh. It’s okay to laugh. It’s part of the grieving process. You need to grieve before you can heal. But it’s okay to laugh while you’re doing it.”

I didn’t wake up right after that, some more stuff happened in a hazy sort of way as the dream began to dissolve into conciousness, but I remember him yelling Expecto Patronum as he punched a Death Eater in the face. Because sometimes, evidently, you have to make your own happy memories.

bitches with gifted kid syndrome be like "if I do not get instant gratification i'm not fucking doing it"

its me i'm bitches

If you don’t have means to a therapist or mental health professional

Check out therapistaid.com. There’s worksheets there that you can download for free.

Of course it would be a lot more beneficial if you have a therapist to help you through it but not everyone has access to one.

It’s a free site where you can have free downloads of worksheets on many things.

If there’s something there that you think would be helpful, print it out and complete the worksheet on your own.

It’s hard to be accountable for yourself but at least there’s a way for you to have some insight and work on yourself.

Holy fuck isn’t this basically what Brave New World was about?? Making different social classes based on intelligence??

Appalachian History Lesson - The Eugenics Movement

“Idiots shouldn’t be allowed to breed.”

How many times have you heard that? Or maybe even said it? It’s a common statement upon encountering someone that embodies an ideology that we don’t agree with, or someone whose life choices are less than admirable. But did you know that in our own American history, we liked that idea so much that we actually tried to make it happen? It’s true. It happened under the Eugenics Movement, the brainchild of Francis Galton (cousin to Charles Darwin who took his cousin’s discoveries and spiraled a bit out of control). If you’ve never heard of this movement (and the great likelihood is that you haven’t, since we tend to like to keep it hush hush), it would do you a great deal of good to research it.

In Appalachia, this movement was detrimental. The basic idea was that, since genes are inherited from parent to child, traits could also be inherited. In that case, humans could be bred for certain traits. We could encourage those with positive traits (intelligence, primarily) to breed with like, thus creating a super race of humans. This was called positive Eugenics. The other side of this was that we could prevent people with negative traits from breeding at all, and thus exterminate “undesirables.” This was negative Eugenics.

The masses were breeding at high rates, and with poverty gripping a great percentage of the population, more and more children were likely to fall to the same fates as their parents. Poverty was a “trait” that could be “inherited,” which only made sense considering poor parents begat poor children. Poverty came with overpopulation. Some of the family studies completed by eugenicists reported an average of 4.2 children per mother in certain Appalachian areas. After the immigrant boom of the late 19th and early 20th centuries, the eugenicists were ready to take necessary measures. The first target was the population with mental deficiencies – those unfortunate enough to be deemed “feebleminded” - the paupers, criminals, mentally insane, homosexuals, promiscuous women, and the mentally retarded. The method? Sterilization. This became well known and popular after the Virginia (and Supreme Court) case Buck v Bell (1927), in which it was determined that because Carrie Buck was “feeble-minded” due to her lack of education and her mother’s feeble-mindedness, she should be sterilized. Carrie had been raped and had a child of this rape that, though only an infant, was determined feeble-minded by appearance. Thus Carrie was sterilized against her will, unable to ever have children again.

This law legitimized use of sterilization when a person was deemed a “genetic threat.” As you may believe, due to the lack of education and material wealth in Appalachia, we were a target. Appalachians were viewed as “poor white trash” and the “tainted white” and were discriminated against heavily throughout the rest of America (these ideas remain with those who group all Appalachians into the categories of hillbilly, redneck, or even white trash). Women were often sterilized against their will in hopes that the Appalachian population would die off without being able to reproduce, and could then be replaced by a more civilized and intelligent group of Americans.

The movement finally started to die when none other than Adolf Hitler grasped the idea and started using it to exterminate the Jews. I believe that was America’s wake up call, and by the 60s most of the sterilization laws were completely revoked. Hitler’s use of Eugenic policies has made America ashamed of its trying to eliminate its poor and uneducated, and trying to eliminate Appalachia. Yet here we remain — as strong and stoic as the mountains that protect us.

The most hilarious thing about the fact Buckbeak had a trial and lost is that later on JKR resolves the issue by having Hagrid take him in again and renaming him Witherwings. That’s literally all it took. What if in POA, Hagrid simply said, “Sorry, Buckbeak flew away.” 

“There’s a hippogriff right there, Hagrid.”

“A different hipprogriff.”

“I’m… pretty sure that’s the same hipprogriff.”

“Prove it.” 

Ait thesoundoftheriver: “Nothing is worse than how it feels to not be able to verbally express what you’re trying to get across to someone.”

Aspec playlist

Disclaimer: these are just the ways others and myself have perceived the song. Art is all about perception so if you don’t see it that way then that’s fine!

This is home by Cavetown (aro)

I would do anything for love (but I won’t do that) by meatloaf (ace)

This is gospel by Panic! (you can interpret this as aro or aroace even though that’s not technically what the songs about)

That’s so us by Allie X (could be seen as aroace friendship)

Solo by Clean Bandit (demisexual)

Hey look ma, I made it by Panic! At the Disco (asexual)

Never been in love by Will Jay (aro and aroace)

You matter to me by Sara Bareilles (all aspec and everyone in general)

Ace of hearts by Zella Day (ace)

If our love is wrong by Callum Scott (ace)

The other by Tonight Alive (aroace, all aspec)

Wild Things by Alessia Cara (all aspec)

My song by Alessia Cara (all aspec)

Songs with no romantic or sexual meaning:

When I asked if anyone would be interested in me making this a lot of people made it clear they wanted songs that weren’t romantic or sexual so I made this extra playlist of songs that have some kind of deep meaning, a lot have to do with mental illness.

Disconnect by clean bandit and marina and the Diamonds

Better off dead by sleeping with sirens (tw: mentions of wanting death, suicidal thoughts)

Anklebiters by Paramore

Monster by Paramore

Fear and loathing by Marina and the Diamonds

Morning I’m America by Jon Bellion

Dizzy by Waterparks

How to Save a Life by The Fray

Daydreamer by Young the Giant

Don’t dream it’s over by Crowded House

I’ll be good by Jaymes Young

We’ve got soul by Chapel

I’m not calling you a liar by Florence and the Machine

Talk to me by Cavetown

Earth by Sleeping at Last

Stupid Now by Drew Monson

Waves by Tonight Alive

Not so bad in LA by Allie X

Two Time by Jack Stauber

Choirs by Ashe

We fall apart by we as human

Runaway train by soul asylum

Drift away by Dobie Gray

Stay out by Nina Nesbitt

Spirits by the strumbellas

Idaho by Nerina Pallot

December by Ambershades

Marianne by Tori Amos

In the 99 by Vienna Teng

Alone in Crowds by Uhre

Maybe Not by Cat Power

Ran and File by Moses Sumney

Stoned Soul Picnic by Laura Nyro

Isolde’s Very Insightful Views on Going To

Work and Suicide by beißpony

This Is Me by Davey La

Photograph by Satellites

If All I Was Was Black by Mavis Staples

The Girl Who Broke in Two by Paul

Freeman

Shadow Room by Craig and Paul Freeman

Hooray for Tom by Bruce Hornsby

Heroes by 100 Year War

Jimmy Choos by Rickie Lee Jones

Pet Cemetery by Joe Innes & The

Cavalcade

Medusa by Tyler Lyle

The Minnow and the Trout by A Fine Frenzy

5th Avenue Bar by Dylan LeBlanc

The Grass is Green by Nelly Furtado

Ether Halo by John MacLeod

Something Worth Voting For by DC Cardwell

We’re All Mad In Our Own Way by Natasha Bedingfield

Small Talk by Spleen

Bird set free by Sia

Unstoppable by Sia

(Note: I will be adding to this regularly, if you have any songs you want me to add then let me know)