I Want To Be As Rich As Paulina Del Ville But Instead I’m As Stressed As A Toadfish

Anxiety: The Ultimate Survival Guide For Dummies

Anxiety that feeling we are all too familiar with. It can either make you or break you! A lot of us go through life struggling with it. It makes us go crazy at times. We start to sweat, breathe hard, we experience chest and stomach pain and that’s not including the constant intrusive thoughts. But enough is enough, if you are tired of living with anxiety then this article is for you. Here I will explain what exactly anxiety is and how to manage it. It’s the ultimate survival guide.

https://www.psych2go.net/anxiety-ultimate-survival-guide/

Friendly reminder that new data shows that approximately 4-5% of the population is Asexual, not 1% as previously thought. There’s a lot of us!

For those not having a diagnosis.

It’s difficult to explain your obessions right? 

It’s difficult to explain why you get tired after just 2-3 hours of socializing right?

It’s difficult to explain why making decisions takes so long right?

It’s  difficult to explain your sensitivities, the noise around you, people walking by, the light, the jokes that make you feel uncomfortable?

It’s difficult to explain why your overthinking is actually just you thinking right?

It’s difficult to explain your needs and wants to your friends, or your parents saying that they shouldn’t click their pen, shake their leg, shouldn’t be too close right?

It’s difficult to explain why you can’t relax and stop obsessing analysing people right?

It’s difficult to explain your wordfinding difficulties or the reason why you’re talking too fast right?

It’s difficult estimating if you’re friends or not, if you’re friends enough to go up and talk to someone right?

It’s difficult not to obsess about something you like and then after a few months find another obsession wondering if you will ever find your calling right?

It’s difficult to explain why you feel so down and tired and keep focusing on the negatives even after a pretty good day, your obsessive mind keeps reminding you of the little details people dont even remember you doing or saying it right?

It’s difficult to be in this world where ‘’other’’ people seems to know it all, seems to have it all. Nice group of friends, amazing socialising skills where it seems so easy to come up with new stuff to talk about right?

With or without the diagnosis you know you best. it doesn’t make your problems less real with no diagnosis.

PSA

You shouldn’t have to *try* to be attracted to someone. Like it shouldn’t take any kind of purposeful intent on your part. It should just happen. It should be natural.

I find myself every once in a while falling back in to old habits I developed as a kid when I was trying to fit in. I’d look at someone and kind of *will* myself to have a crush on them or think they were sexy or whatever.

I’d look at someone and then imagine doing some kind of romantic thing with them and if i wasn’t completely repulsed by the idea then I’d be like “yeah I guess I’m attracted to them.”

But that’s really not how it’s supposed to work.

I imagine that this is something that a lot of non-straight people can probably relate to. I’m sure a lot of you went through that “trying to be straight” phase.

Just know that when it comes to sexuality/attraction, if it feels unnatural then it probably is

*Kicks down door and breaks into your house* BE AWARE OF ASEXUALITY BITCH!!!!!!

On this week, one year ago, I came out for the first time, to my best friend. Her good reaction encouraged me to be progressively more open about it ever since. Today I’m able to confidently say it: I’m ace, I’m proud, and the world can die mad about it. Happy asexual awareness week you beautiful people! Love, support and respect your ace-spec friends and relatives!!

(Click the images for better quality. This comic and this story really mean a lot to me and I’d be forever grateful if you could reblog it! Thanks!)

shoutout to all the “gifted kids”

who now have depression and/or anxiety, are probably adhd but dont know bc they were never diagnosed bc they just assumed that was part of being “gifted”, have a crippling fear of rejection and not being good enough, struggle to learn new skills bc if they arent perfect the first time then whats the point, and hide all of their self doubt with memes

Maiden, Mother, Crone

Okay. *Spoilers* So there’s a lot that happened in season 3 of CAOS but the scene that I am eager to speak on first is the one where the women of the coven are trying to bring back Hilda. I found myself so moved by it that I kept on replaying that scene over and over, and over. It was just so powerful. The acting being more than just taking on a character and changing of facial expressions but also the conviction in the voice of Miranda Otto as Zelda, a sister determined to bring her sister back from the dead. 

The entire scene of them calling upon the Goddess Hecate, being in a circle of womanhood- hands bound together while the males could only watch on the side- was nothing short of powerful. Roz being a part of that circle, while she is not a witch, she is a human with mystical gifts and it just felt empowering and emotional to me. The tears would not stop coming. It was a moment of sisterhood, motherhood and womanhood. 

This show has countless times referenced the ways women are not respected or viewed as capable as their male counterparts. *Zelda having to hide Leticia from Blackwood because she was born first, Sabrina having to challenge for position of Top Boy, Father Blackwood refusing to give Prudence his name, the vampire telling Sabrina she is beautiful and ordering her to tell him thanks as if he had any right in making her beautiful or him taking a bite out of her without her consent, etc. The times that women are challenged in this show is crazy. So for this scene to make the men unable to actually take part but freely give their support while they call on a female deity is incredible. 

I cannot stop going on about this scene but the lines “WE CALL ON…OURSELVES, THE POWERS THAT HAVE BEEN DENIED US.” The powers that have been denied us. The powers that have been denied to us. The. Powers. That. Have. Been. Denied. Us. All the while, as those words are freed from Zelda’s mouth, she shuts her eyes and motions her arms down in such a way that brings out frustration, anger, pain, lack of respect. She is calling upon this Goddess, praying to her and begging her not only as a servant but as a woman.

It’s nice to have representation, in all aspects. Such as a person of color seeing characters that are depicted in positive un-stereotypical roles. Or as girls and women seeing other women in positions of power or as Goddesses. Without going in too deep on this topic, I just want to say how impactful it is to even have the thought of Goddesses. If I was a witch in that universe, I would wish to pray to one and not solely a male figure one. There are numerous times where we are united by the experiences other women have faced. “We call on ourselves”. Times when only we can understand and truly relate. 

Women are strong. I view this scene as a way of embracing and being fully aware of this strength. A coming togetherness that unites this strength. Again, that scene was one of the most powerful scenes of the entire show.

Ace / Aro visibility in Bojack Horseman! It’s great to not only see an ace main character in the show, but an entire ace community filled with people with different ace experiences. I like how the writers included a scene that explained some of the nuances of asexuality / aromanticism, as it helps break the stereotype that no ace would ever want to enter a relationship. One thing I would comment on is that asexual means “not experiencing sexual attraction” over “not interested in sex.” It’s possible to be a sex-positive asexual!

Aspec playlist

Disclaimer: these are just the ways others and myself have perceived the song. Art is all about perception so if you don’t see it that way then that’s fine!

This is home by Cavetown (aro)

I would do anything for love (but I won’t do that) by meatloaf (ace)

This is gospel by Panic! (you can interpret this as aro or aroace even though that’s not technically what the songs about)

That’s so us by Allie X (could be seen as aroace friendship)

Solo by Clean Bandit (demisexual)

Hey look ma, I made it by Panic! At the Disco (asexual)

Never been in love by Will Jay (aro and aroace)

You matter to me by Sara Bareilles (all aspec and everyone in general)

Ace of hearts by Zella Day (ace)

If our love is wrong by Callum Scott (ace)

The other by Tonight Alive (aroace, all aspec)

Wild Things by Alessia Cara (all aspec)

My song by Alessia Cara (all aspec)

Songs with no romantic or sexual meaning:

When I asked if anyone would be interested in me making this a lot of people made it clear they wanted songs that weren’t romantic or sexual so I made this extra playlist of songs that have some kind of deep meaning, a lot have to do with mental illness.

Disconnect by clean bandit and marina and the Diamonds

Better off dead by sleeping with sirens (tw: mentions of wanting death, suicidal thoughts)

Anklebiters by Paramore

Monster by Paramore

Fear and loathing by Marina and the Diamonds

Morning I’m America by Jon Bellion

Dizzy by Waterparks

How to Save a Life by The Fray

Daydreamer by Young the Giant

Don’t dream it’s over by Crowded House

I’ll be good by Jaymes Young

We’ve got soul by Chapel

I’m not calling you a liar by Florence and the Machine

Talk to me by Cavetown

Earth by Sleeping at Last

Stupid Now by Drew Monson

Waves by Tonight Alive

Not so bad in LA by Allie X

Two Time by Jack Stauber

Choirs by Ashe

We fall apart by we as human

Runaway train by soul asylum

Drift away by Dobie Gray

Stay out by Nina Nesbitt

Spirits by the strumbellas

Idaho by Nerina Pallot

December by Ambershades

Marianne by Tori Amos

In the 99 by Vienna Teng

Alone in Crowds by Uhre

Maybe Not by Cat Power

Ran and File by Moses Sumney

Stoned Soul Picnic by Laura Nyro

Isolde’s Very Insightful Views on Going To

Work and Suicide by beißpony

This Is Me by Davey La

Photograph by Satellites

If All I Was Was Black by Mavis Staples

The Girl Who Broke in Two by Paul

Freeman

Shadow Room by Craig and Paul Freeman

Hooray for Tom by Bruce Hornsby

Heroes by 100 Year War

Jimmy Choos by Rickie Lee Jones

Pet Cemetery by Joe Innes & The

Cavalcade

Medusa by Tyler Lyle

The Minnow and the Trout by A Fine Frenzy

5th Avenue Bar by Dylan LeBlanc

The Grass is Green by Nelly Furtado

Ether Halo by John MacLeod

Something Worth Voting For by DC Cardwell

We’re All Mad In Our Own Way by Natasha Bedingfield

Small Talk by Spleen

Bird set free by Sia

Unstoppable by Sia

(Note: I will be adding to this regularly, if you have any songs you want me to add then let me know)

INFJ- 100

I took a test on like where you are on the ‘nonverbal intimacy scale’ and the average female score is 102 and male is 93.8 and I got 56 lolololol

here it is if ya want (reblog/reply w/ what you get!!)