Success In Hoeing Is Subjective, However. If You’re Falling In Love With Married Or Taken Men, When

High self-worth is essential as water, sleep, and oxygen. You must believe you deserve space. You must believe you are worth “it”. And then take that a little higher, and add your wildest dreams to this ecosystem. Our thoughts nourish our mind. When we think happy/exciting thoughts, our mind actively searches for these things in our surroundings to reaffirm and validate them. Even if we don’t yet have it, when we think about a big dream or goal, our mind starts pinpointing the opportunities that lead us to achieving these desires. Whenever you feel lost in life, go back to the drawing board of your self-esteem. Build yourself up again, as many times as you need to, even when it feels like you are starting over. Self-love, vibrations and energy is an important priority like sleep, water, and nutrition. Channel your highest self-regard before bed. Just a little reminder: when you’re struggling with a difficult situation, the best thing you can do is INSIST on championing yourself. Do not compromise. Do not falter. You are special.

discipline is liberation

“Only the disciplined are truly free. The undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites and passions.”

— Stephen Covey, The 8th Habit (via movemequotes)

Tell us more on how to manipulate guys 👀

Yesss so as promised here’s a few things to do

1.When you get to know someone, don’t reveal about yourself and ask them a lot about them. They will like the attention and at the end, realize they don’t know much about you, which will give an air of mysteriousness. Meanwhile, you’re collecting as much info about them to figure out what they like, what they dislike and what they seek. Then as the relationship progress, give hints and pretend to be their ideal person from the information you collected. That’s exactly what guys that want to get in your pants do. They sell a dream and once they know you caught the bait, they switch their personalities and stop pretending. Most likely will blame that change on something you did and you’ll go on a mission to change him back to how sweet and perfect he was before, but it was in fact a personality that was forged to fool you.

2.The silent treatment : most people hold to their pride a lot, give hints here and there that 1, you don’t text a lot so when you get distant and cold over text they’ll grasp on to that hope to explain any sudden disappearance, and 2, that you have pride and never go back to people that have wronged you (so when they upset you over something minor, give them the silent treatment and get them used to be the one to come back to talk and make things right and apologize), so you weaken their pride and ego and condition them to coming back to you always.

3.Lie lie lieeee, but be smart about it and don’t mix your stories up and make them believable. I always tell guys they are my firsts or 2nd, so they feel special. You have to sell yourself as someone untouchable and unattainable. But don’t go tell a guy he’s your first when you’ve fucked his cousin and PLEASE wait a decent amount of time before getting intimate. The Madonna/Whore complex really is a thing, I believe the best way to make a guy obsess over you is to project both/so he can’t fit you in a particular box : you’re out of his range, you’re untouchable, you’re divine yet so humane, sexy and carnal, so bullshit the hell out of him. Also you cheated? You lied? He caught you ? DENY! Never admit when you fucked up, even if you want to do it out of spite and hurt him. I’ll bury my secrets and all my lies with me when I die! If you have friends that can back your lies up for you and bullshit him to sell an image of you to him, it’s even better ‘’omg X is typically so cold with guys, I’ve never seen her like that with anyone but you’’.

4.Love bombing is great but you have to assert your superiority and how good, wonderful you are. For exemple, comments here and there about what your usual ideal type is to make him feel insecure and eager to compete and be the best not to lose you. The mistake I believe a lot of girl make is to be a man best source of support and let them get too comfortable, like yes he has to feel good when he is with you, but the point is that what you tell him when you love bomb him is to make him feel good only when he’s with you and insecure when he’s not with you, not feed him to make him delusional and overconfident. Play with his insecurity, redirect it so he feels lucky to be with you, don’t cure it. He has to constantly be under the impression that since you’re better than him, you can leave at any given moment and he’ll never find someone like that ever again.

5.Reinforce good behavior with love bombing and attentions targeting their specific love languages (ex: act overly excited and bubbly after he gives you a gift, if you’re typically colder be more tender and engage in more physical contacts, hug him, rub his arm scratch his hair, etc), and punish behavior you don’t like with silent treatment and ghosting (and really ghost don’t tell him anything just disappear without a word). They are your Pavlov’s experiments. :)

She's right as always

The only good thing about growing up in a patriarchal society that forces the male gaze on everyone is that we are taught how to act, how to look and how to speak in a way that men find desiarble and therefore we learn how to manipulate men without even realizing it. 

This reminds me of people who give me compliments on my appearance and quickly add something like “well it´s easy for you - you are genetically blessed” or “I only have to look at food and gain weight.”.. something along those lines. You can explain your workout regime, strict diet, skincare routine or general lifestyle choices all you want - they just keep talking about genetics or they will start to look down on you for the effort you put into your looks. The truth is that they want all those things (being in good shape, having better skin, etc.) but they want it to be easy. These people don´t want to hear how much discipline it takes, how much time, energy and money you have to invest in order to maintain a certain look. Talking about how some people have it easier, because of money or genetics or whatever won´t get you anywhere. 

Not to be a total rude bitch tho… but I work out almost everyday, I limit if not abstain from junk food, I drink plenty of water, I only drink certain types of alcohol and absolutely no soda. I get my lips injected, I see a dermatologist, I’m planning on getting lipo + non invasion nose job + Botox jaw contouring soon. I have hair extensions, I get my lashes and eyebrows dyed and maintained every two weeks… I get my nails all jacked up every three. I go tanning. I literally spend thousands of dollars a year on hair, skin, nails and makeup. Not to mention the dancer wardrobe I’ve accumulated… and anyone who thinks I shouldn’t make more money after all this effort can literally suck my ass!

What helped you become more and more confident?

Getting into fitness, changing my appearance, continuing my education, my high standards, not giving a single fuck about what people think about me

if you feel the need to “check out the competition” you’re hoeing backwards. there is nobody who can bring to the table what YOU bring, focus on yourself. competition doesn’t exist.

High tea with my BFF 💞

starting the day by going to the gym and making the stairmaster my bitch