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Aro/Ace Terms Masterlist

Please let me know if I forgot anything

Types of attraction

Sexual - I wanna have sex with that

Romantic - I want to date that

Sensual - I want to hug that

Platonic - I want to be friends with that

Platonic crushes do exist. They are called “squishes”. You go through the same process of having a romantic or sexual crush but instead of landing them in bed, you’re on the floor at 2am with pizza rolls, Shrek in the background, talking about eldritch monstrosities (or whatever your shared interest is)

Aesthetic - that looks so heckin’ cool/pretty I love it

Intellectual - the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, i.e. having a conversation, picking their brain, and finding out how they think

Terms describing degree of attraction

Aromantic - lack of romantic attraction

Asexual - lack of sexual attraction

Aroace - lack of both sexual and romantic attraction

Demi - attraction only forms once a strong emotional bond has been formed

Grey/gray - rarely/seldom experiences attraction

Allosexual - someone who experiences sexual attraction

I think I’ve also heard/seen it referred to as ‘arosexual’ but that’s honestly a bit confusing

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction

I personally shorten both of those to “allo” (pronounced ‘aloe’)

Apothiosexual - sex-repulsed

Apothioromantic - romance-repulsed

Apothiaroace - often shortened to just ‘apothi’. In addition to being aroace, apothis are repulsed by romantic/sexual scenes, items, displays, etc. to varying degrees

Sex-neutral and sex-positive/favourable aces exist as well

Not all of us have the same level of comfort with sexual and romantic activities so please check. I mean that applies to everyone anyway, but please check and don’t assume that just because someone is aro/ace, that doesn’t mean they are sex/romance repulsed

Queerplatonic - Queerplatonic typically refers to a relationship that bends the lines between a romantic relationship and a non-romantic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) often goes beyond what is socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but does not fit the typical notion of a romantic relationship.

Alterous attraction - a type of emotional attraction to someone that isn’t entirely romantic or platonic.

Chastity - actively refraining from sexual activities. This is NOT part of the ace/aro spectrum, though it is a common assumption when someone says they are ace/aro. Thankfully we’re getting a bit more representation in media now so it’s not as common of an assumption as it used to be, but it’s still there, especially in those communities.

Microlabels/Terms describing flavour of attraction Note: -sexual is used fo many of these so we don't have to deal with duplicates confusing things. All of these prefixes can be used with -romantic, -sexual, -platonic, and I imagine -alterous as well

Abrosexual - orientation fluctuates between a variety of orientations

Aceflux - similar to abrosexual, but orientation is contained to asexual spectrum

Acespike - someone who is asexual but may experience intense, brief, and random bouts of sexual attraction

Aegosexual - disconnect between oneself and the target of arousal

Amicusromantic/sexual - only experiences romantic attraction to those who they have formed a platonic relationship with (subset of demi)

Angled aroace - the same as oriented, but for those who are demi, grey, flux, etc.

Anthrosexual - someone who is attracted to humans and alterhumans regardless of gender identity/expression

Caedsexual - previously allo, but now ace due to past trauma

Cupiosexual - wanting a sexual relationship but not experiencing sexual attraction

Finsexual/gynesexual - attraction to femininity

Fraysexual - opposite of demi. Attraction dissipates once an emotional connection has been formed

Linsexual - attraction to androgyny

Lithosexual - experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated

Loveless Romantic/Lovelessromantic - those who cannot feel love or feel disconnected from love but can feel romantic attraction/don't feel disconnected from the concept of romance

Minsexual/androsexual - attraction to masculinity

Placiosexual - not wanting to be on the receiving end of sexual activities but wishing to perform them on others

Quiosexual - unable to distinguish between sexual attraction and other forms of attraction

Qui(r)oromantic - inability to distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction

Reciprosexual - not experiencing sexual attraction towards someone until you discover they experience sexual attraction towards you

Requiessexual - similar to caedsexual, but rather than trauma, ace identity originates from a state of emotional exhaustion, usually from a past sexual experience

Oriented aroace -  an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. (i.e. gay aroace, bi aroace)

Examples of mixed orientations

Heteroromantic asexual biplatonic

Poly greyromantic pansexual

Apothi abroplatonic

Placiosexual aromantic finplatonic

Aroace cupioplatonic

Pan lithioromantic

Fraysexual biromantic aplatonic

You can get WAY more specific than what these cover, but just to give a general idea

Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (2011).

Work hacks for massage therapists part 2 (joke)

So you've got gas during the session. Blame it on the clinic's therapy animal. You can make one up if necessary. Oh dear, Fluffy's popped off again. Fluffy can even be another client's service animal in the other room, a neighbour's pet come to visit.

OKAY, but based on the raws for daiya no b, the instruments they chose for the main characters so far, are REALLY fitting. I was in band in highschool, and and anyone else who else played instruments in a band would agree with me (hopefully)

Source: hyoubuqueen

Based on what i see so far:

Clarinets: (Tanba, Nori)  They are  the ones who are the base noise but they make a huge difference. They’re not sharp sounds BUT a good clarinet tone is hard to attain and takes many years of practice. They’re very mellow but they’re important to the underlying sound of the whole song. Hence Tanba and Nori’s humble/shy personalities yet they make all the difference to the team and often try the hardest.

Percussion: (Jun) Percussion encompasses all the rhythm instruments like drums, timpani etc as well as embellishments like cymbal/triangle. They’re extremely imperative because without percussion there is no mood or pace and the song sounds bare. Jun is the tempo of Seido, he sets the rhythm AND THAT’S EXTREMELY FITTING. They also have to have a good ear for tempo.

French Horns: (Zono, Nabe) They have to have a really large lung capacity. They’re the melody that is really deep but the sound resonates. They’re kind of like a mask, a huge layer that arcs throughout the song. There are often not too many french horns because they’re an instrument that isn’t as popular. But the sound is very unique.  They’re also an underlying layer, but they cut through all the other sounds as very profound parts of the music.

Flutes: (Ryo, etc.) HIGH PITCHED NOISES;  THEY’RE SUPPOSED TO BE REALLY ESSENTIAL  and are often the “topping”. They have fast riffs; if a flute makes a mistake IT’S REALLY OBVIOUS–also the flute section has a much harder time to stay together so some talent/practice is needed.  Because of this they have to be detailed and careful and really know their job. HENCE RYOSUKE. Along with the trumpets they have many solos and ALWAYS play. 

Saxophones: There are two types shown in Daiya no B– Alto or Tenor Saxophone: (Kuramochi) This is the saxophone that is higher in sound, and usually the one throughout the saxophone group that has solos. Baritone Saxophone: (Tetsu) The lower end of the saxophone, and the instrument itself is larger. Together, the saxophone sections blends together the harshness of brass sounds. Saxophones are huge in supporting the music and the brass section. They’re like caramel, and when they have a solo it adds flare to the song.They have to be reliable support HENCE MOCHI AND TETSU. 

Trumpets: (Eijun, Masuko, Chris) Oh my goodness the trumpets. They’re usually dubbed as the more hot headed of the band, the ambitious ones, the mood making ones. They are the more brash instruments in the band, yet they are the FIRE. Especially in fast paced, cool,  songs they really bring the blaze. They make the music exciting. HENCE EIJUN. They’re as important as flutes, because first there’s so many and hard to connect, and second, their sounds are quite evident. They also have a sense of pride because a piece often rests on their sound.  Basically, they’re entrusted with one of the most important jobs, and are usually the center of attention because you can ALWAYS hear them. They also have to have large lung capacity.

Trombones: (Furuya) Trombones require a lot of technique and are a leading instrument of the lower brass section. They can make the most resonating sound, so dynamics are this instruments forte. While having lots of single notes, this instrument needs consistency and determination because learning to breathe during the music is really difficult. SO STAMINA as well as strength and lung capacity. The instrument that isn’t dubbed cool at first but is essential to a song’s volume. The trombone sound reverberates and makes the rest of the band excited to keep pace. It’s perfect for Furuya.

In general, this post is nothing but my excitement for an official band au ( I hope im not missing anything or anybody) and my band history crying out. So i wanted to share lol BUT I AM SO EXCITED FOR THIS. 

*****Bonus: THE CONDUCTOR AKA MIYUKI KAZUYA (idk if he’s staying as a student conductor or the actual conductor). I’m sure that ones pretty self-explanatory–the conductor has to have all eyes throughout the band. He has to know and hear all the parts as well as anticipate what comes next and predict potential difficulties in music. He has to be the expert and gauge everyone’s level to make them work with the rest of the team. Also, he has to be able to mend the bald spots and some lack of skill in order to connect all different parts in the music as well as the people. He’s in control, cues everyone into their jobs, and in the end, if he hiccups then the whole thing falls apart. He  has  to be crazy and passionate about his job. He’s pivotal, and that’s Miyuki Kazuya for you.

I’m pretty sure no one’s going to read this.

Cute, that's pretty much what happened, lol

post ep 3

i’ve thrown around trigun reincarnation concepts around before but fuck. i can’t believe ive overlooked the simplest one: trigun maximum reincarnated as trugun stampede. like can you imagine all the times vash has pushed up his hair in shitty motel bathroom mirrors and for a second seen a man he has never met but always known staring back? how meryl’s desire to help others and be a journalist always seemed to run deeper than she could explain? how when she hears the name Milly, there’s a strange sense if familiarity ghat flashes in her mind? how when he was a kid, wolfwood met livio and already felt like he had known this man his entire life? how wolfwood felt a similar way after seeing the fuckers that ran him over? how the reason vash trusted his eyes and saw him as a good man was cause of distant memories clinging onto his heart? how vash can’t help but feel like nai has been stuck on a loop for lifetimes but still feel the need to try and help him because he can just feel in his bones that it’ll work? how vash’s anger against the world has simmered down even when he began his life on the new planet because his bones were already dry from centuries of sand and dust? how when meryl meets vash, she can’t help but quickly believe in and fight alongside him because she can still hear his laughter in old bars after saving town after town after town while being chased out? how roberto saw the three of his travel companions alongside each other and could probably also sense a bond that went beyond time itself? it’s insane really how well this works.

a good aroace manga

Recently found this lovely manga at my library with what seems to me like great aroace representation! 'I want to be a wall' by Honami Shirono.

It's about an aromantic asexual woman and a gay man who marry for appearances and become close friends. (In Japan, asexual and aromantic are often referred to as the same thing, which is explained in the volume translation notes btw)

Here's a few pages that I thought did a good job of discussing things. As an enby who likes romance in stories (especially BL) but not so much in real life, I felt pretty seen.

Oof I felt this

The way most autism literature describes "literal interpretation" is often not at all similar to how I experience it. Teenage me even thought I couldn't be autistic because I've always been able to learn metaphors easily.

In fact, I love wordplay of all kinds. Teenage me was fascinated to learn all the types of figurative language there are in poetry and literature.

But paperwork and questionnaires are hard, because there's so much they don't state clearly. Or they don't leave room for enough nuance.

"List all the jobs you've had, with start and end dates." What if I don't remember the exact day or month? Is the year enough?

"Have you been suffering from blurred vision?" Well, if I take off my glasses the whole world is blurred, but I'm fairly sure that's not what the intake form at the optometrist is asking.

Or the infamous (and infuriatingly stereotypical) "Would you rather go to a library or a party?" What sort of party? Where? Who's there? I work at a library. Am I currently at the library for work or pleasure? Does it have a good collection?

It's not common figures of speech that confound me. It's ambiguity, in situations that aren't supposed to be ambiguous.

I wonder what would happen if Victor Nikivorof ate a pork cutlet bowl cooked by someone from Shokugeki no Soma? Would he take a bite and suddenly picture Yuri skating?